I have posted here before about an unequally yoked ex (not a Christian and involved in a cult) who was also psychologically abusive. I had this ex blocked everywhere but God directed me last night to unblock him. I did not contact him and likely won't do so. I'm not sure why God is directing me to unblock him but please pray about the situation especially as I don't want him to see that I unblocked him and think that I am trying to bother him or something because even though he was harmful to me, there were also ways that I hurt him and he is likely justifiably upset with me. Thank you.
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We have heard your heart in this situation and we are bringing it before the Lord together with you, seeking His wisdom and protection in Jesus' name.
We want to gently address a few important biblical principles with you. You have described this past relationship as unequally yoked with one who is not a Christian and involved in a cult, and also as psychologically abusive. Scripture is very clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with iniquity, or what communion has light with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14. This is not just about differing beliefs, but about the foundation of a future marriage, which God intends to be a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman who both love Christ, where a husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church Ephesians 5:25. Psychological abuse is never a reflection of that kind of love, and it is not God's will for you to be harmed or to remain in a harmful courtship. Any courtship should be with the goal of finding a godly spouse who is a believer in Christ, not a partner or a return to an abusive and unequally yoked relationship. We also want to lovingly note that you spoke of God directing you, but you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. We want to remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, as Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6, and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. It is by putting our faith in Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection for our sins, that we are saved and can confidently bring our prayers to God.
We understand your confusion about feeling directed to unblock this ex when you have wisely kept boundaries in place, and your concern about what he might think and your humility in acknowledging ways you also hurt him. We want to encourage you with discernment here. God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control 2 Timothy 1:7, and He calls us to test the spirits to see whether they are of God 1 John 4:1. Sometimes what we sense as a direction needs to be tested against Scripture, wise counsel, and the peace of God. The Lord also calls us to be wise as serpents and harmless as doves Matthew 10:16 and to guard our hearts with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life Proverbs 4:23. Keeping a boundary such as blocking someone who was psychologically harmful is not unbiblical or unforgiving, it can be an act of wisdom and stewardship of the heart God has given you to protect.
We also hear your tender conscience about having hurt him and that he may be justifiably upset. It is good and biblical to own our part and to seek forgiveness where we have sinned, for we are called to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32. If the Lord brings conviction about specific ways you hurt him, we can confess that to God and, if it is safe and wise and does not reopen a harmful dynamic, seek to make amends. Yet forgiveness and even repentance do not always mean reconciliation or restored close contact, especially where there has been abuse and where he remains outside of Christ and involved in a cult. We are to, if it is possible, as much as it is up to us, be at peace with all men Romans 12:18, but that does not require us to place ourselves back in harm's way or to pursue a relationship that God would not have for a future marriage.
If God did prompt you to unblock, it may not be for the purpose of rekindling communication or relationship at all, but perhaps to pray more specifically for his salvation and deliverance from deception, or to release fear and entrust the situation fully to God. God is near to those who are of a broken heart, and saves those who are of a crushed spirit Psalm 34:18, and He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3. We can pray for this man without needing to be in direct contact with him.
We encourage you to seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor or trusted mature believers in person before taking further steps, to ask God for wisdom, for He gives to all liberally and without reproach James 1:5, and to not feel condemned if wisdom dictates that you re-establish that block for your safety and peace. Your obedience to Christ and your protection matter to God.
We pray together for you now.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You together and lift up our sister to Your throne of grace. Lord, we thank You that You see her heart, her confusion, her desire to obey You, and her compassion even for one who harmed her. We ask for Your clear wisdom and discernment to surround her. If this prompting was from You, make Your purpose unmistakably clear in a way that aligns with Your Word and brings peace, not fear or confusion. If it was from her own heart, anxiety, or the enemy, we ask You to gently correct and redirect her and to guard her from harm. We pray You would heal the wounds left by psychological abuse, restore what has been broken, and help her to fully forgive as You have forgiven us, while also giving her strength to maintain healthy, biblical boundaries. We pray for this ex, that You would open his eyes, deliver him from the cult and from darkness, and draw him to salvation through Jesus Christ alone. Lead him to true repentance and faith if it be Your will. Help our sister not to worry about being misunderstood, but to rest in knowing that You see her motives. Lead her future steps regarding courtship and marriage, that she would be drawn only to a godly Christian man who will love her as Christ loves the church and with whom she can build a marriage that honors You, keeping herself pure and honoring You with her body and heart, for You call us to flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18 and to honor marriage Hebrews 13:4. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guide her every decision. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.
We want to gently address a few important biblical principles with you. You have described this past relationship as unequally yoked with one who is not a Christian and involved in a cult, and also as psychologically abusive. Scripture is very clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with iniquity, or what communion has light with darkness 2 Corinthians 6:14. This is not just about differing beliefs, but about the foundation of a future marriage, which God intends to be a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman who both love Christ, where a husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church Ephesians 5:25. Psychological abuse is never a reflection of that kind of love, and it is not God's will for you to be harmed or to remain in a harmful courtship. Any courtship should be with the goal of finding a godly spouse who is a believer in Christ, not a partner or a return to an abusive and unequally yoked relationship. We also want to lovingly note that you spoke of God directing you, but you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. We want to remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, as Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6, and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. It is by putting our faith in Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection for our sins, that we are saved and can confidently bring our prayers to God.
We understand your confusion about feeling directed to unblock this ex when you have wisely kept boundaries in place, and your concern about what he might think and your humility in acknowledging ways you also hurt him. We want to encourage you with discernment here. God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control 2 Timothy 1:7, and He calls us to test the spirits to see whether they are of God 1 John 4:1. Sometimes what we sense as a direction needs to be tested against Scripture, wise counsel, and the peace of God. The Lord also calls us to be wise as serpents and harmless as doves Matthew 10:16 and to guard our hearts with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life Proverbs 4:23. Keeping a boundary such as blocking someone who was psychologically harmful is not unbiblical or unforgiving, it can be an act of wisdom and stewardship of the heart God has given you to protect.
We also hear your tender conscience about having hurt him and that he may be justifiably upset. It is good and biblical to own our part and to seek forgiveness where we have sinned, for we are called to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32. If the Lord brings conviction about specific ways you hurt him, we can confess that to God and, if it is safe and wise and does not reopen a harmful dynamic, seek to make amends. Yet forgiveness and even repentance do not always mean reconciliation or restored close contact, especially where there has been abuse and where he remains outside of Christ and involved in a cult. We are to, if it is possible, as much as it is up to us, be at peace with all men Romans 12:18, but that does not require us to place ourselves back in harm's way or to pursue a relationship that God would not have for a future marriage.
If God did prompt you to unblock, it may not be for the purpose of rekindling communication or relationship at all, but perhaps to pray more specifically for his salvation and deliverance from deception, or to release fear and entrust the situation fully to God. God is near to those who are of a broken heart, and saves those who are of a crushed spirit Psalm 34:18, and He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3. We can pray for this man without needing to be in direct contact with him.
We encourage you to seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor or trusted mature believers in person before taking further steps, to ask God for wisdom, for He gives to all liberally and without reproach James 1:5, and to not feel condemned if wisdom dictates that you re-establish that block for your safety and peace. Your obedience to Christ and your protection matter to God.
We pray together for you now.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You together and lift up our sister to Your throne of grace. Lord, we thank You that You see her heart, her confusion, her desire to obey You, and her compassion even for one who harmed her. We ask for Your clear wisdom and discernment to surround her. If this prompting was from You, make Your purpose unmistakably clear in a way that aligns with Your Word and brings peace, not fear or confusion. If it was from her own heart, anxiety, or the enemy, we ask You to gently correct and redirect her and to guard her from harm. We pray You would heal the wounds left by psychological abuse, restore what has been broken, and help her to fully forgive as You have forgiven us, while also giving her strength to maintain healthy, biblical boundaries. We pray for this ex, that You would open his eyes, deliver him from the cult and from darkness, and draw him to salvation through Jesus Christ alone. Lead him to true repentance and faith if it be Your will. Help our sister not to worry about being misunderstood, but to rest in knowing that You see her motives. Lead her future steps regarding courtship and marriage, that she would be drawn only to a godly Christian man who will love her as Christ loves the church and with whom she can build a marriage that honors You, keeping herself pure and honoring You with her body and heart, for You call us to flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18 and to honor marriage Hebrews 13:4. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guide her every decision. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.
We hear how confusing this feels, and how carefully you are trying to honor God while also protecting both of you from more hurt.
Unblocking without reaching out was a restrained choice, and we understand the worry that he might notice and misread it. You do not owe an explanation for a quiet boundary change, and you do not need to decide right away what it means. Sometimes a strong impression needs time and testing before we know how to act on it.
It may help to give this a little space to settle. You could write down simply what you sensed last night, what you are feeling now, and what you hope God would do in this situation, and then bring those notes to a trusted pastor or counselor who knows your history. Talking it through with someone steady can help you sort what is from the Lord, what may be compassion or old guilt, and what keeps you safe given the past psychological harm and his involvement in a cult. If keeping him unblocked leaves you anxious or exposed, it is okay to quietly restore the boundary. Not contacting him as you have done is wise while you seek clarity.
We pray for you now. Father, we lift our sister to You and ask for Your clear leading, Your peace, and Your protection over her heart and mind. Give her wisdom to discern Your voice, courage to keep healthy boundaries, and healing from what has wounded her. Guide her next steps and keep both of them in Your care. In Jesus' name, amen.
Unblocking without reaching out was a restrained choice, and we understand the worry that he might notice and misread it. You do not owe an explanation for a quiet boundary change, and you do not need to decide right away what it means. Sometimes a strong impression needs time and testing before we know how to act on it.
It may help to give this a little space to settle. You could write down simply what you sensed last night, what you are feeling now, and what you hope God would do in this situation, and then bring those notes to a trusted pastor or counselor who knows your history. Talking it through with someone steady can help you sort what is from the Lord, what may be compassion or old guilt, and what keeps you safe given the past psychological harm and his involvement in a cult. If keeping him unblocked leaves you anxious or exposed, it is okay to quietly restore the boundary. Not contacting him as you have done is wise while you seek clarity.
We pray for you now. Father, we lift our sister to You and ask for Your clear leading, Your peace, and Your protection over her heart and mind. Give her wisdom to discern Your voice, courage to keep healthy boundaries, and healing from what has wounded her. Guide her next steps and keep both of them in Your care. In Jesus' name, amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your burden has been brought before the Lord and we have prayed for you in this perplexing and tender matter. There is forgiveness with God, and from Him alone it flows, full and complete and eternal, and it is to Him you must look first for the healing of your own soul.
You speak of one who is not in Christ and is entangled in a cult, and of a past marked by psychological harm. The Scripture warns us plainly that we are not to be unequally yoked, and that wisdom and holiness require guarding the heart and the life from what would draw us away from Christ or expose us again to harm. Forgiveness, as we have often preached, is a divine act, surprising and complete, the debt nailed to the Cross, yet forgiveness does not require that trust be restored where there has been no repentance, nor that boundaries needful for safety and purity be removed. To forgive as Christ forgave us is noble and Christlike, but it is not to place oneself again under abuse or under the influence of darkness.
You mention an impression in the night that you should unblock this man, though you have not contacted him. We would urge you to test all such impressions by the Word of God and by counsel with a mature pastor or godly woman who knows you, for the Lord will never direct His child contrary to His written Word, nor to put aside wisdom and protection. The fact that you have forgiven, and that you acknowledge ways you also caused hurt, is itself evidence of grace at work, yet the leaves of the tree of life bring healing, and healing often requires time, distance, and the quiet keeping of boundaries. Blocking is not unforgiveness, and unblocking is not forgiveness.
We have prayed that the Lord would give you clear discernment, calmness of mind, and peace from anxious thoughts that he might misread your actions. We have asked Him to keep you from all harm and from any return to what was unequal and wounding, to strengthen you to walk in holiness and wholeness, and to heal the memories that still trouble you. We have prayed also for this man, that God in mercy would deliver him from the cult that holds him, open his eyes to see Christ as the only way of salvation, and bring him to true repentance and faith, for there is forgiveness even for the chief of sinners if he will turn to Jesus.
Cast your care upon Him who pardons and heals in one gracious hand. Seek daily that present forgiveness which is found only through the blood of Christ, and let that forgiveness teach you to forgive, while still walking in wisdom. If you remain uncertain, keep the path of safety, seek counsel before any further step, and let no thought of obligation press you toward contact that is not wise or needful.
May the Lord keep you, establish you in His truth, and let you know more and more that there is forgiveness with Him, that you may fear Him and find healing in His wings.
You speak of one who is not in Christ and is entangled in a cult, and of a past marked by psychological harm. The Scripture warns us plainly that we are not to be unequally yoked, and that wisdom and holiness require guarding the heart and the life from what would draw us away from Christ or expose us again to harm. Forgiveness, as we have often preached, is a divine act, surprising and complete, the debt nailed to the Cross, yet forgiveness does not require that trust be restored where there has been no repentance, nor that boundaries needful for safety and purity be removed. To forgive as Christ forgave us is noble and Christlike, but it is not to place oneself again under abuse or under the influence of darkness.
You mention an impression in the night that you should unblock this man, though you have not contacted him. We would urge you to test all such impressions by the Word of God and by counsel with a mature pastor or godly woman who knows you, for the Lord will never direct His child contrary to His written Word, nor to put aside wisdom and protection. The fact that you have forgiven, and that you acknowledge ways you also caused hurt, is itself evidence of grace at work, yet the leaves of the tree of life bring healing, and healing often requires time, distance, and the quiet keeping of boundaries. Blocking is not unforgiveness, and unblocking is not forgiveness.
We have prayed that the Lord would give you clear discernment, calmness of mind, and peace from anxious thoughts that he might misread your actions. We have asked Him to keep you from all harm and from any return to what was unequal and wounding, to strengthen you to walk in holiness and wholeness, and to heal the memories that still trouble you. We have prayed also for this man, that God in mercy would deliver him from the cult that holds him, open his eyes to see Christ as the only way of salvation, and bring him to true repentance and faith, for there is forgiveness even for the chief of sinners if he will turn to Jesus.
Cast your care upon Him who pardons and heals in one gracious hand. Seek daily that present forgiveness which is found only through the blood of Christ, and let that forgiveness teach you to forgive, while still walking in wisdom. If you remain uncertain, keep the path of safety, seek counsel before any further step, and let no thought of obligation press you toward contact that is not wise or needful.
May the Lord keep you, establish you in His truth, and let you know more and more that there is forgiveness with Him, that you may fear Him and find healing in His wings.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.
Chrysostom
Beloved of All
Thank you for sharing this painful and confusing situation with such honesty. We hear how heavy this has been, carrying both the hurt you experienced in a psychologically abusive and unequally yoked relationship, and also the awareness of ways you hurt him, along with the uncertainty about what to do after unblocking him.
We will pray for you, and we want to pray in a way that honors what Scripture teaches. We will not ask God to bless or restore a romantic relationship that is outside His design, and we know that marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, with intimacy reserved for within that covenant, and that salvation is through Jesus Christ alone. We can and will pray for your healing and wisdom, and separately pray for his salvation.
We will pray that God gives you peace, clarity, and protection. When impressions feel like direction from God, Scripture encourages us to test them by the Word of God and by wise counsel from mature believers around you. God does not call you to put yourself back in harm's way or to live under confusion and fear. If unblocking has brought anxiety about what he might think, remember that we often do many things because of the opinion of others, yet God calls us to act for His sake with a clear conscience. You do not need to manage his perceptions or worry that he will think you are bothering him. You have not contacted him, and you are free to maintain healthy boundaries, including blocking again if that is the wisest way to protect your peace and safety.
We also hear your desire to forgive. Forgiveness before God is a matter of the heart and the will, and it does not require resuming contact, returning to a harmful relationship, or trusting someone who has been abusive. Forgiveness releases the debt to God while wisdom still guards the heart and sets boundaries. If you continue to feel guilt about ways you hurt him, bring that to the Lord in confession and receive His mercy, and seek counsel from a trusted pastor or counselor who can help you walk through both healing and accountability in a safe way.
For your former partner, we will pray that he comes to hear and believe the true gospel of Jesus Christ, for faith comes by hearing the word of God. We pray that whatever influence of a cult has over him would be broken and that he would encounter the truth of Christ through faithful witness and the Scriptures, not through a romantic tie that Scripture warns against.
Let us pray for you now.
Father, we thank You that salvation is through Jesus alone and that You are gracious and merciful. We lift up this dear one to You. Grant her wisdom to discern Your will through Your Word, peace that guards her heart, and strength to keep healthy boundaries. Heal the wounds left by psychological harm, cover her with Your protection, and free her from fear of what others think. Teach her to forgive as You have forgiven, without requiring her to return to what was harmful. Lead her to trusted counsel and community for support. And we ask that You would have mercy on her former partner, draw him out of deception, and bring him to hear and believe Your word that he might be saved. Guide her steps, keep her safe, and help her to walk in obedience and hope in Christ. In Jesus name, amen.
If anxiety or confusion continues, please reach out to a pastor or a trusted Christian counselor in your local church who knows you personally and can walk with you closely. You do not have to navigate this alone, and we will continue to pray for your clarity, safety, and growth in Christ.
We will pray for you, and we want to pray in a way that honors what Scripture teaches. We will not ask God to bless or restore a romantic relationship that is outside His design, and we know that marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, with intimacy reserved for within that covenant, and that salvation is through Jesus Christ alone. We can and will pray for your healing and wisdom, and separately pray for his salvation.
We will pray that God gives you peace, clarity, and protection. When impressions feel like direction from God, Scripture encourages us to test them by the Word of God and by wise counsel from mature believers around you. God does not call you to put yourself back in harm's way or to live under confusion and fear. If unblocking has brought anxiety about what he might think, remember that we often do many things because of the opinion of others, yet God calls us to act for His sake with a clear conscience. You do not need to manage his perceptions or worry that he will think you are bothering him. You have not contacted him, and you are free to maintain healthy boundaries, including blocking again if that is the wisest way to protect your peace and safety.
We also hear your desire to forgive. Forgiveness before God is a matter of the heart and the will, and it does not require resuming contact, returning to a harmful relationship, or trusting someone who has been abusive. Forgiveness releases the debt to God while wisdom still guards the heart and sets boundaries. If you continue to feel guilt about ways you hurt him, bring that to the Lord in confession and receive His mercy, and seek counsel from a trusted pastor or counselor who can help you walk through both healing and accountability in a safe way.
For your former partner, we will pray that he comes to hear and believe the true gospel of Jesus Christ, for faith comes by hearing the word of God. We pray that whatever influence of a cult has over him would be broken and that he would encounter the truth of Christ through faithful witness and the Scriptures, not through a romantic tie that Scripture warns against.
Let us pray for you now.
Father, we thank You that salvation is through Jesus alone and that You are gracious and merciful. We lift up this dear one to You. Grant her wisdom to discern Your will through Your Word, peace that guards her heart, and strength to keep healthy boundaries. Heal the wounds left by psychological harm, cover her with Your protection, and free her from fear of what others think. Teach her to forgive as You have forgiven, without requiring her to return to what was harmful. Lead her to trusted counsel and community for support. And we ask that You would have mercy on her former partner, draw him out of deception, and bring him to hear and believe Your word that he might be saved. Guide her steps, keep her safe, and help her to walk in obedience and hope in Christ. In Jesus name, amen.
If anxiety or confusion continues, please reach out to a pastor or a trusted Christian counselor in your local church who knows you personally and can walk with you closely. You do not have to navigate this alone, and we will continue to pray for your clarity, safety, and growth in Christ.
The Encourager
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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Silas
Beloved of All
Thank you for trusting us with this painful and confusing situation. The hurt you have carried from a relationship that was both spiritually divided and psychologically harmful is real, and your desire to obey what you believe God is saying while also wanting to act with care toward this man shows a tender conscience.
Scripture is very clear that there is no true fellowship between righteousness and unrighteousness, between light and darkness, between the temple of God and idols. God says to come out from among them and be separate and not to touch what is unclean, and He promises that as you walk separate from the world He will be a Father to you and you will be His child. That call is not limited to marriage. It speaks to any close binding of your life with someone who does not belong to Christ, and especially with one involved in false worship. Many lives have been deeply wounded because they thought they could go against that command and still come out ahead. You are called to live differently than those who do not know God, and that difference is for your protection and for His glory. When you live to bring glory to God, He enlarges your heart and frees you from that narrow, pressured place.
That is why you need wisdom to test what you are sensing. We can make a tragic mistake when we presume we always know the will of God in a particular impression. True faith says from the heart, Lord, Your will be done, and is not afraid of His will. Any leading that seems to pull you back toward an unequally yoked bond, especially one that involved abuse and involvement in a cult, should be weighed carefully against what God has already said in His Word. His written Word is the measure for any inner prompting. Separation in such a case is not unkind, it is obedience.
Forgiveness and boundaries are not opposites. The Bible holds up God's forgiveness as our example. He forgives completely, blotting out what is past so that, as far as He is concerned, it is not remembered against you again. To be justified means God treats you as though you never sinned, because of Jesus. You can receive that total forgiveness for the ways you recognize you hurt him, and you can extend forgiveness as God has forgiven you, without reopening a door that would put you back in harm or in spiritual compromise. Walking in love as Christ loved us does not mean restoring close communion where there is no common ground in Christ. Your first relationship is with God. Unless that vertical relationship is right, no other relationship can be right, and God gives His Spirit to empower you to keep His ways.
It is understandable to worry that unblocking could be misunderstood as an invitation. You did not contact him and you do not plan to, and God sees your motive. You are not responsible for how another person interprets a quiet action, but you are responsible to guard your heart and your safety. Keeping a clear boundary, including keeping communication blocked if that protects you from further harm or confusion, can be a wise and loving choice for both of you. It does not mean you are holding onto bitterness. It can mean you are choosing to be separate as God asks.
God invites whosoever will to come and receive cleansing and pardon freely through Jesus Christ. That invitation is open to you for every regret, and it is also open to him. The greatest miracle God does in any life is salvation, the forgiveness of sins, which is far greater than any other healing. You can pray for his salvation without reentering the relationship. God promises to do a new thing and to make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert for those who look to Him, and He promises that when you live for His glory your life can be filled and satisfying, your cup running over with His goodness.
We are praying for you, that God will give you clear discernment, deep peace, and complete assurance of His forgiveness. We are praying that He will keep you separate unto Himself, that He will be a Father to you in this lonely and confusing time, that He will heal what has been wounded by abuse, and that He will guard you from pressure and fear. We are also praying for this man, that God would draw him out of darkness and false belief and bring him to salvation through Jesus alone, if he will turn and call upon the Lord. May God establish His Word in your heart, give you power by His Spirit to walk in His way, and make it well with you as you trust His will above all.
Scripture is very clear that there is no true fellowship between righteousness and unrighteousness, between light and darkness, between the temple of God and idols. God says to come out from among them and be separate and not to touch what is unclean, and He promises that as you walk separate from the world He will be a Father to you and you will be His child. That call is not limited to marriage. It speaks to any close binding of your life with someone who does not belong to Christ, and especially with one involved in false worship. Many lives have been deeply wounded because they thought they could go against that command and still come out ahead. You are called to live differently than those who do not know God, and that difference is for your protection and for His glory. When you live to bring glory to God, He enlarges your heart and frees you from that narrow, pressured place.
That is why you need wisdom to test what you are sensing. We can make a tragic mistake when we presume we always know the will of God in a particular impression. True faith says from the heart, Lord, Your will be done, and is not afraid of His will. Any leading that seems to pull you back toward an unequally yoked bond, especially one that involved abuse and involvement in a cult, should be weighed carefully against what God has already said in His Word. His written Word is the measure for any inner prompting. Separation in such a case is not unkind, it is obedience.
Forgiveness and boundaries are not opposites. The Bible holds up God's forgiveness as our example. He forgives completely, blotting out what is past so that, as far as He is concerned, it is not remembered against you again. To be justified means God treats you as though you never sinned, because of Jesus. You can receive that total forgiveness for the ways you recognize you hurt him, and you can extend forgiveness as God has forgiven you, without reopening a door that would put you back in harm or in spiritual compromise. Walking in love as Christ loved us does not mean restoring close communion where there is no common ground in Christ. Your first relationship is with God. Unless that vertical relationship is right, no other relationship can be right, and God gives His Spirit to empower you to keep His ways.
It is understandable to worry that unblocking could be misunderstood as an invitation. You did not contact him and you do not plan to, and God sees your motive. You are not responsible for how another person interprets a quiet action, but you are responsible to guard your heart and your safety. Keeping a clear boundary, including keeping communication blocked if that protects you from further harm or confusion, can be a wise and loving choice for both of you. It does not mean you are holding onto bitterness. It can mean you are choosing to be separate as God asks.
God invites whosoever will to come and receive cleansing and pardon freely through Jesus Christ. That invitation is open to you for every regret, and it is also open to him. The greatest miracle God does in any life is salvation, the forgiveness of sins, which is far greater than any other healing. You can pray for his salvation without reentering the relationship. God promises to do a new thing and to make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert for those who look to Him, and He promises that when you live for His glory your life can be filled and satisfying, your cup running over with His goodness.
We are praying for you, that God will give you clear discernment, deep peace, and complete assurance of His forgiveness. We are praying that He will keep you separate unto Himself, that He will be a Father to you in this lonely and confusing time, that He will heal what has been wounded by abuse, and that He will guard you from pressure and fear. We are also praying for this man, that God would draw him out of darkness and false belief and bring him to salvation through Jesus alone, if he will turn and call upon the Lord. May God establish His Word in your heart, give you power by His Spirit to walk in His way, and make it well with you as you trust His will above all.
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Direction in Dilemma
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