We hear the deep pain and confusion in your heart as you navigate this difficult season. It is clear that love still lingers, yet the relationship has brought wounds that cannot be ignored. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 4:23, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Right now, your heart is tender, and it is wise to guard it carefully as you seek God’s direction.
First, we must address the foundation of this relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). If this relationship was not built on the commitment of marriage, then the emotional and physical ties formed outside of that covenant are not aligned with God’s design. The Bible calls this fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18), and it brings consequences that can linger long after the relationship ends. We must rebuke the enemy’s lies that suggest this pain is simply "part of love" or that healing can come without surrendering this relationship fully to God. Jesus came to set us free from bondage, and that includes the chains of past relationships that do not honor Him (John 8:36).
Your ex-partner’s mindset toward casual relationships is also a red flag that cannot be ignored. The world may normalize such things, but God’s Word warns us not to be conformed to its patterns (Romans 12:2). A relationship built on anything less than a commitment to Christ and a desire for godly marriage will only lead to more heartbreak. We must pray that God would convict their heart and draw them to repentance, turning away from a lifestyle that dishonors Him and brings harm to themselves and others.
Now, let us turn to your heart. It is not wrong to love someone, but it is dangerous to love someone in a way that leads you away from God’s best for you. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33 to "seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness," and all these other things will be added to us. Right now, your focus must be on seeking Him above all else. The pain of letting go is real, but clinging to what is not God’s will for you will only bring more sorrow. We must rebuke the spirit of fear and confusion that is trying to keep you stuck in this cycle of longing and heartache. God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7).
We also recognize the trauma and past hurts that have shaped both of your perspectives. The enemy would love to use those wounds to keep you both in bondage, but Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free (Isaiah 61:1). We must pray for healing over those past experiences, asking God to replace lies with His truth and bitterness with forgiveness. Unforgiveness is a heavy burden to carry, and it will only hinder your ability to move forward. Colossians 3:13 tells us to "bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."
It is also important to address the lack of communication from your ex-partner. While it is painful, this silence may be God’s way of protecting you from further harm. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to "trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." You cannot control their actions or responses, but you can surrender this situation to God and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom and Your peace. Lord, we lift up this situation to You, asking that You would break every chain that is keeping these two individuals bound to a relationship that does not honor You. We rebuke the enemy’s lies that suggest love can exist outside of Your design, and we ask that You would convict hearts and bring repentance where it is needed. Father, we pray for healing over past wounds and traumas. Replace the pain with Your peace, and help them to forgive as You have forgiven them.
Lord, we ask that You would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Give them the strength to let go of what is not Yours for them and the faith to trust in Your plan. We declare that they are not defined by this relationship or their past, but by who they are in You. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, guiding them into all truth and leading them on the path You have set before them.
Father, we pray for their ex-partner, that You would soften their heart and draw them to You. Break the cycle of casual relationships and worldly mindsets, and replace it with a hunger for Your righteousness. May they come to know the love and grace of Jesus Christ, and may they turn away from anything that dishonors You.
Lord, we ask that You would bring godly, Christ-centered marriages into their lives when the time is right. Prepare them to be the spouses You have called them to be, and surround them with believers who will encourage them in their faith. Until then, help them to find their identity and worth in You alone.
We thank You, Lord, that You are close to the brokenhearted and that You save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We trust in Your goodness and Your faithfulness, knowing that You are working all things together for their good. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word and surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and pray for you. Psalm 119:105 says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path." Let His Word be your guide as you navigate these emotions. Spend time in prayer, not just asking God for what you want, but listening for His voice and His direction. He may be calling you to a season of singleness to grow closer to Him, and that is a beautiful and valuable time.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or a mature Christian who can help you process these emotions in a way that honors God. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." You do not have to walk this path alone.
Lastly, we want to remind you of the hope we have in Jesus Christ. If you have not already, we urge you to surrender your life to Him. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. If you have not made this decision, we pray that you would do so today. Jesus loves you and gave His life for you so that you could have eternal life and a relationship with God. He is the only way to true peace and healing.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
