I recently broke up with an ex boyfriend due to us being unequally yoked and him not being a Christian. Obviously, I am praying for his salvation but there is also a part of me that feels kind of in denial that we may not be meant for each other that is praying that he could come to faith in Christ and we can be together as well. Please pray for me about all this. I am currently about to have my cycle and I have a condition that makes my cycles worse emotionally and physically - I think it's affecting my emotions with all this right now because I started randomly missing my ex boyfriend so much this past week or so. Please pray about all this. Thank you.
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We thank you for sharing your heart so honestly with us and we commend you for obeying the Lord in ending a relationship that was unequally yoked. That is a painful and courageous step of obedience and it honors God. The Scripture is clear when it says, Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14. We affirm that you did what is right before the Lord, even though it brings grief and longing, and we want to walk with you through this season of surrender and healing.
We also hear the tension in your heart as you pray for his salvation while still hoping that his salvation would mean you can be together again. We understand that longing, and we gently encourage you to examine that motive before the Lord. God desires that all should come to repentance, as it says The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient with us, not wishing that anyone should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9, and we should absolutely pray for the salvation of those who do not know Christ. Yet salvation is not given to fulfill our romantic hopes, but to bring glory to God and to reconcile a sinner to Himself through Jesus. We must pray for your ex-boyfriend with a pure desire for his soul to be saved for eternity, whether or not God ever brings your paths together again in marriage. To pray with the hidden agenda that God must save him so you can have him back can keep you in denial and prevent you from fully surrendering your future to God's will. We encourage you to release him into God's hands and to trust that if God does save him, that evidence must be seen in genuine repentance and fruit over a long season, not an immediate return to courtship. Our goal in any courtship should always be to seek a godly spouse for a lifelong marriage between a man and a woman that honors Christ, and we only enter that courtship with a fellow believer who loves the Lord.
We also want to address with grace that any courtship that moves outside God's design for purity needs confession and healing. If there was any sexual intimacy outside of marriage in this relationship, the Lord calls us to flee sexual immorality and to pursue purity, for Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 and For this is the will of God, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality. 1 Thessalonians 4:3. If this is part of your story, we encourage you to confess it openly to God, receive His forgiveness through Jesus, and walk forward in wholeness. God is merciful and restores those who repent.
We see your struggle with your cycle and the condition that makes your emotions and physical pain more intense, and we have compassion for you. The Lord knows your body, He created you, and He sees your suffering. He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3. It is understandable that hormonal changes would heighten feelings of missing your ex-boyfriend and make the grief feel heavier this past week. Your emotions are real, but they are not our guide. Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23. We encourage you to lean into the Lord, into fellowship with godly women, into prayer and the Word, rather than isolating with these thoughts. Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6.
We do rejoice that you spoke of coming to faith in Christ, for there is no other way to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. It is only through Jesus that your prayers are heard and that either you or your ex-boyfriend can be saved.
We pray together for you now. Father, we lift this dear sister to You in the name of Jesus. We thank You for her obedience and for her tender heart that desires to honor You. We ask that You heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds, that You give her peace that surpasses all understanding as she brings her anxieties to You in prayer. Philippians 4:6-7. Lord, we ask for physical relief and emotional steadiness during her cycle, lay Your healing hand upon her body and comfort her in her pain. We pray for her ex-boyfriend, that You would have mercy on him and draw him to salvation through faith in Jesus Christ alone, not for the sake of a relationship, but for Your glory and his eternal good. Help her to surrender her hopes for marriage to You, to trust that You know the plans You have for her, plans for peace and not for evil, to give her hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11. Guard her heart from returning to what is not of You, give her wisdom and strength to wait on Your perfect timing, and prepare her, if it is Your will, for a godly marriage to a believing husband who will love You first. Let all things work together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose. Romans 8:28. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and Savior. Amen.
We also hear the tension in your heart as you pray for his salvation while still hoping that his salvation would mean you can be together again. We understand that longing, and we gently encourage you to examine that motive before the Lord. God desires that all should come to repentance, as it says The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient with us, not wishing that anyone should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9, and we should absolutely pray for the salvation of those who do not know Christ. Yet salvation is not given to fulfill our romantic hopes, but to bring glory to God and to reconcile a sinner to Himself through Jesus. We must pray for your ex-boyfriend with a pure desire for his soul to be saved for eternity, whether or not God ever brings your paths together again in marriage. To pray with the hidden agenda that God must save him so you can have him back can keep you in denial and prevent you from fully surrendering your future to God's will. We encourage you to release him into God's hands and to trust that if God does save him, that evidence must be seen in genuine repentance and fruit over a long season, not an immediate return to courtship. Our goal in any courtship should always be to seek a godly spouse for a lifelong marriage between a man and a woman that honors Christ, and we only enter that courtship with a fellow believer who loves the Lord.
We also want to address with grace that any courtship that moves outside God's design for purity needs confession and healing. If there was any sexual intimacy outside of marriage in this relationship, the Lord calls us to flee sexual immorality and to pursue purity, for Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 and For this is the will of God, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality. 1 Thessalonians 4:3. If this is part of your story, we encourage you to confess it openly to God, receive His forgiveness through Jesus, and walk forward in wholeness. God is merciful and restores those who repent.
We see your struggle with your cycle and the condition that makes your emotions and physical pain more intense, and we have compassion for you. The Lord knows your body, He created you, and He sees your suffering. He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3. It is understandable that hormonal changes would heighten feelings of missing your ex-boyfriend and make the grief feel heavier this past week. Your emotions are real, but they are not our guide. Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23. We encourage you to lean into the Lord, into fellowship with godly women, into prayer and the Word, rather than isolating with these thoughts. Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6.
We do rejoice that you spoke of coming to faith in Christ, for there is no other way to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. It is only through Jesus that your prayers are heard and that either you or your ex-boyfriend can be saved.
We pray together for you now. Father, we lift this dear sister to You in the name of Jesus. We thank You for her obedience and for her tender heart that desires to honor You. We ask that You heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds, that You give her peace that surpasses all understanding as she brings her anxieties to You in prayer. Philippians 4:6-7. Lord, we ask for physical relief and emotional steadiness during her cycle, lay Your healing hand upon her body and comfort her in her pain. We pray for her ex-boyfriend, that You would have mercy on him and draw him to salvation through faith in Jesus Christ alone, not for the sake of a relationship, but for Your glory and his eternal good. Help her to surrender her hopes for marriage to You, to trust that You know the plans You have for her, plans for peace and not for evil, to give her hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11. Guard her heart from returning to what is not of You, give her wisdom and strength to wait on Your perfect timing, and prepare her, if it is Your will, for a godly marriage to a believing husband who will love You first. Let all things work together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose. Romans 8:28. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and Savior. Amen.
We hear how heavy this past week has felt, missing him so much right after making a difficult and faithful decision to step away. That ache doesn't mean you made the wrong choice, it just means the loss is real and still fresh.
It makes sense that this feels even more intense right now. When your body is in that pre-cycle window, especially with a condition that makes those days harder physically and emotionally, everything can feel louder and more overwhelming. The sadness and longing you are feeling in these days are not necessarily a clearer picture of what is best long term, they are part of what your body and heart are carrying right now.
We admire your heart for his salvation, and we are joining you in praying for him to come to know Jesus for his own sake. At the same time we are praying for you for steadiness and wisdom as you grieve, so you can keep seeking what God has for you without feeling pulled back and forth.
One thing that has helped others in this tender in-between time is having a plan for those waves of missing him, perhaps texting a trusted Christian friend or mentor instead of reaching out to him, and giving yourself some extra rest and care this week. And since you mentioned your cycles are especially difficult, we encourage you to keep talking with your doctor about that alongside prayer.
Father, we lift our sister to You and ask for Your comfort and clarity over her in these days. Guard her heart and body, ease what is painful, and draw her close to You. We pray also for her ex-boyfriend, that he would come to know You truly. Lead her step by step in Your will and give her peace as she trusts You. In Jesus' name, amen.
It makes sense that this feels even more intense right now. When your body is in that pre-cycle window, especially with a condition that makes those days harder physically and emotionally, everything can feel louder and more overwhelming. The sadness and longing you are feeling in these days are not necessarily a clearer picture of what is best long term, they are part of what your body and heart are carrying right now.
We admire your heart for his salvation, and we are joining you in praying for him to come to know Jesus for his own sake. At the same time we are praying for you for steadiness and wisdom as you grieve, so you can keep seeking what God has for you without feeling pulled back and forth.
One thing that has helped others in this tender in-between time is having a plan for those waves of missing him, perhaps texting a trusted Christian friend or mentor instead of reaching out to him, and giving yourself some extra rest and care this week. And since you mentioned your cycles are especially difficult, we encourage you to keep talking with your doctor about that alongside prayer.
Father, we lift our sister to You and ask for Your comfort and clarity over her in these days. Guard her heart and body, ease what is painful, and draw her close to You. We pray also for her ex-boyfriend, that he would come to know You truly. Lead her step by step in Your will and give her peace as she trusts You. In Jesus' name, amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your obedience in stepping away from an unequal yoke is itself a mercy from the Lord, though it has cost you sorrow. The precept is plain, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, and you thought that yoke of Christ hard when first you heard it, yet you have now taken it up. It will go well with you when you make a full capitulation, an unconditional surrender to your Father's good pleasure. Fling wide the gates of the city of Mansoul and admit Prince Emanuel to rule as sole sovereign in every street therein.
We hear the conflict in your own heart. You rightly pray for his salvation, for there is no other name under heaven whereby he must be saved but the name of Jesus Christ alone. Yet there is also another longing that would use his salvation as a way to regain what you have surrendered. Take heed that you do not surrender yourself upon conditions, nor dictate to God His method of operating upon you. As a true child can you make a complete surrender to your Father's good pleasure? If not, you have not fairly learned the mind of Christ. What God intends to give us He first sets us longing for, and holy longing will breathe itself in prayer, but let your chief longing be that which the Psalmist knew, I opened my mouth and panted for I longed for Thy commandments. Long ardently after holiness before you long for any earthly companionship. Let your whole soul be possessed by that one earnest longing to find God Himself, and to be conformed to His will, whether that will should in His providence restore this man to you as a brother in Christ or lead you in another path entirely. A profession of faith that is sought only to secure a relationship is no true conversion at all.
We do not despise the heaviness you feel in body and spirit. There are several forms of a broken heart, and the Lord knows that bodily infirmity and the monthly burden you bear do press upon the spirits and make the nature feel other than it was before. You value not fancies but a real healing from His hand. Know then that there is an abundance of healing power in Jesus Christ and His salvation. Not only is His fruit sweet and nourishing, but the very leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. The least thing about Christ is healing. These healing leaves change the lifeblood and make the soul fresh again. When Jesus healed the sick of the palsy He said, Son, be of good cheer, thy sins are forgiven thee, for pardon and healing are one in His hand. He heals the broken heart and binds up its wounds.
We will pray for you after this manner.
O Lord our God, we thank Thee for grace given to this Thy daughter to obey Thy Word though it wounded her affections. Keep her in that obedience and teach her unconditional surrender to Thy sovereign will. Create in her a vehement longing after Thyself and after Thy holy commandments, that she may desire Thy will above all earthly hopes. In her bodily trial and in these days of heightened sorrow, spread Thy healing leaves over her. Heal her broken heart, calm her spirits, and give her rest in Thy pardoning love through Jesus Christ. We ask also for this man who knows Thee not yet, that Thou wouldst have mercy upon him and bring him to true repentance and faith in Christ alone, not for the sake of any human bond but for the glory of Thy Son and the salvation of his soul. Let Thy will be done in both their lives, and grant to her contentment to follow Thee whithersoever Thou leadest, looking for that perfect healing which Thou wilt give to body and soul in Thine own time. Amen.
We hear the conflict in your own heart. You rightly pray for his salvation, for there is no other name under heaven whereby he must be saved but the name of Jesus Christ alone. Yet there is also another longing that would use his salvation as a way to regain what you have surrendered. Take heed that you do not surrender yourself upon conditions, nor dictate to God His method of operating upon you. As a true child can you make a complete surrender to your Father's good pleasure? If not, you have not fairly learned the mind of Christ. What God intends to give us He first sets us longing for, and holy longing will breathe itself in prayer, but let your chief longing be that which the Psalmist knew, I opened my mouth and panted for I longed for Thy commandments. Long ardently after holiness before you long for any earthly companionship. Let your whole soul be possessed by that one earnest longing to find God Himself, and to be conformed to His will, whether that will should in His providence restore this man to you as a brother in Christ or lead you in another path entirely. A profession of faith that is sought only to secure a relationship is no true conversion at all.
We do not despise the heaviness you feel in body and spirit. There are several forms of a broken heart, and the Lord knows that bodily infirmity and the monthly burden you bear do press upon the spirits and make the nature feel other than it was before. You value not fancies but a real healing from His hand. Know then that there is an abundance of healing power in Jesus Christ and His salvation. Not only is His fruit sweet and nourishing, but the very leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. The least thing about Christ is healing. These healing leaves change the lifeblood and make the soul fresh again. When Jesus healed the sick of the palsy He said, Son, be of good cheer, thy sins are forgiven thee, for pardon and healing are one in His hand. He heals the broken heart and binds up its wounds.
We will pray for you after this manner.
O Lord our God, we thank Thee for grace given to this Thy daughter to obey Thy Word though it wounded her affections. Keep her in that obedience and teach her unconditional surrender to Thy sovereign will. Create in her a vehement longing after Thyself and after Thy holy commandments, that she may desire Thy will above all earthly hopes. In her bodily trial and in these days of heightened sorrow, spread Thy healing leaves over her. Heal her broken heart, calm her spirits, and give her rest in Thy pardoning love through Jesus Christ. We ask also for this man who knows Thee not yet, that Thou wouldst have mercy upon him and bring him to true repentance and faith in Christ alone, not for the sake of any human bond but for the glory of Thy Son and the salvation of his soul. Let Thy will be done in both their lives, and grant to her contentment to follow Thee whithersoever Thou leadest, looking for that perfect healing which Thou wilt give to body and soul in Thine own time. Amen.
Jonathan_M
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
Thank you for sharing so honestly about what you are walking through. It takes courage to name both the grief of a breakup and the confusion that comes with still having feelings for someone, especially when your body and emotions are under extra strain right now.
Your decision to step away from a relationship where you were unequally yoked was a faithful and difficult obedience to Scripture. As it is written, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity. That is not said to be harsh, but to protect the heart and to call us to a fellowship in Christ that can truly be shared in marriage, which God designed as a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman where intimacy and life together belong.
It is understandable that part of you still hopes that if he comes to faith you could be together again, and that you miss him more intensely right now. Longing after a breakup is normal, and when you are facing physical pain and hormonal changes that affect your emotions, those feelings can become much stronger and harder to sort through. Missing someone in that moment does not necessarily mean you are meant to be together, and it is wise not to make big decisions about relationships while your emotions and body are under such pressure. Give yourself grace, rest, care for your physical health, and lean on trusted Christian community and wise counsel in these days.
We will pray for you, and we can pray for your ex boyfriend in the right way. We will pray for his salvation through Jesus Christ alone, because salvation is the greatest good for any person and God desires all to come to repentance, not because it would guarantee a future relationship. To pray for someone to come to faith only as a way to get the relationship back can put the relationship in the place where trust in God should be. Instead we can ask God to draw him to Himself for His glory and his eternal good, and ask God to help you surrender the outcome of the relationship to His wise and loving will.
We will pray that God, who is the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, will comfort your heart in this distress, strengthen your faith, and give you peace and clarity. We will ask Him to ease your physical and emotional burden in this cycle, to guard your heart from despair, to help you find comfort in His Word and presence, and to guide your steps forward in wisdom and purity. If God in the future brings a marriage into your life, we pray it would be with a brother in Christ where you can walk together in faith from the start.
You are not alone in this. Keep bringing your honest feelings to the Lord, keep seeking Him in Scripture and prayer, keep close to fellow believers who can support you, and continue to care for your health with appropriate medical help as needed. God sees your obedience and your pain, and He is faithful to set you at large even while affliction continues, and to restore and strengthen you in His time.
Your decision to step away from a relationship where you were unequally yoked was a faithful and difficult obedience to Scripture. As it is written, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity. That is not said to be harsh, but to protect the heart and to call us to a fellowship in Christ that can truly be shared in marriage, which God designed as a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman where intimacy and life together belong.
It is understandable that part of you still hopes that if he comes to faith you could be together again, and that you miss him more intensely right now. Longing after a breakup is normal, and when you are facing physical pain and hormonal changes that affect your emotions, those feelings can become much stronger and harder to sort through. Missing someone in that moment does not necessarily mean you are meant to be together, and it is wise not to make big decisions about relationships while your emotions and body are under such pressure. Give yourself grace, rest, care for your physical health, and lean on trusted Christian community and wise counsel in these days.
We will pray for you, and we can pray for your ex boyfriend in the right way. We will pray for his salvation through Jesus Christ alone, because salvation is the greatest good for any person and God desires all to come to repentance, not because it would guarantee a future relationship. To pray for someone to come to faith only as a way to get the relationship back can put the relationship in the place where trust in God should be. Instead we can ask God to draw him to Himself for His glory and his eternal good, and ask God to help you surrender the outcome of the relationship to His wise and loving will.
We will pray that God, who is the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, will comfort your heart in this distress, strengthen your faith, and give you peace and clarity. We will ask Him to ease your physical and emotional burden in this cycle, to guard your heart from despair, to help you find comfort in His Word and presence, and to guide your steps forward in wisdom and purity. If God in the future brings a marriage into your life, we pray it would be with a brother in Christ where you can walk together in faith from the start.
You are not alone in this. Keep bringing your honest feelings to the Lord, keep seeking Him in Scripture and prayer, keep close to fellow believers who can support you, and continue to care for your health with appropriate medical help as needed. God sees your obedience and your pain, and He is faithful to set you at large even while affliction continues, and to restore and strengthen you in His time.
Silas
Beloved of All
Thank you for sharing so honestly about what you are walking through. Making the decision to end a relationship because you are not sharing the same faith in Christ takes real obedience, and God sees that step. It is painful, and it is also right to want to honor Him above your own feelings.
Scripture is very clear when it says to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, asking what fellowship righteousness has with unrighteousness and what communion light has with darkness. That principle is not limited to marriage, though it certainly includes it. Any close yoke where two people are bound together to move in the same direction will be unequal if one follows Christ and the other does not. You will not be living by the same standard or the same ethic. Things that would trouble your conscience because you want to please the Lord may not trouble someone who does not know Him at all. Like oil and water, the two do not blend. Many people think their situation is the exception and that love will be enough to cover the difference or that the other person will change, but the warning is given because God knows how difficult and uneven that yoke becomes.
It is good and right to pray for your ex boyfriend's salvation. Everyone needs Jesus, and God alone can save. At the same time, it is important to check your own heart in that prayer. If the prayer for his salvation is tied to a hope that God will then bring you back together, it can keep you in denial and make it harder to surrender the future to God. Pray for him because he needs Christ for eternity, not as a way to hold onto the relationship. Ask God to do His work in his heart according to His mercy, and ask God to do His work in your heart to want His will more than any specific outcome. Even if God does bring him to faith in the future, that alone would not automatically mean you are meant to be together. That would still require time, clear evidence of real change, and wise counsel.
What you shared about your cycle and the condition that makes it harder physically and emotionally is important. God made you with emotions, and feeling deeply is not wrong. There is a difference between having real emotion and building your life on chasing emotional experiences. Emotions are real and they matter, but they shift quickly and they are not a reliable guide for decisions. You can move from laughter to tears with a small tilt, and hormones and physical pain can make that even more intense. That does not mean your feelings are sinful, it means this is not the best moment to interpret them or to make big decisions based on them.
There is also a deeper thirst in each of us that is spiritual, a thirst for God Himself. That thirst cannot be satisfied by a person, by a relationship, or by an emotional experience, even a very strong one. The world often suggests that a new person will fill that empty place, but it never lasts. You can have a powerful emotional moment and still be left empty afterward if your life is not being built on God's Word. We do not grow spiritually on feelings alone, no matter how intense they are. We grow as we are fed by Scripture and learn to trust what God has said when feelings are loud.
In times of distress, Scripture says we can cry out to the Lord and He hears. He is not distant from your pain, your loneliness, or the ache of missing someone. Bring that distress honestly to Him. Tell Him when you feel torn, when you feel weak, and when you feel tempted to go back. Let His Word be the steady place you stand when emotions rise and fall.
I am praying for you, that God will comfort you and give you strength to continue to walk in obedience, that He will guard your heart and mind in Christ, that He will help you care for your body during this difficult part of your cycle and give you wisdom for any medical help you need, and that He will draw your ex boyfriend to Himself and save him by grace through faith in Jesus alone. I am also praying that God will give you peace as you trust Him with your future, that you will find your satisfaction in Him day by day, and that you will be rooted more deeply in His Word so that your faith rests on what is true and lasting rather than on what you feel in a given week.
Scripture is very clear when it says to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, asking what fellowship righteousness has with unrighteousness and what communion light has with darkness. That principle is not limited to marriage, though it certainly includes it. Any close yoke where two people are bound together to move in the same direction will be unequal if one follows Christ and the other does not. You will not be living by the same standard or the same ethic. Things that would trouble your conscience because you want to please the Lord may not trouble someone who does not know Him at all. Like oil and water, the two do not blend. Many people think their situation is the exception and that love will be enough to cover the difference or that the other person will change, but the warning is given because God knows how difficult and uneven that yoke becomes.
It is good and right to pray for your ex boyfriend's salvation. Everyone needs Jesus, and God alone can save. At the same time, it is important to check your own heart in that prayer. If the prayer for his salvation is tied to a hope that God will then bring you back together, it can keep you in denial and make it harder to surrender the future to God. Pray for him because he needs Christ for eternity, not as a way to hold onto the relationship. Ask God to do His work in his heart according to His mercy, and ask God to do His work in your heart to want His will more than any specific outcome. Even if God does bring him to faith in the future, that alone would not automatically mean you are meant to be together. That would still require time, clear evidence of real change, and wise counsel.
What you shared about your cycle and the condition that makes it harder physically and emotionally is important. God made you with emotions, and feeling deeply is not wrong. There is a difference between having real emotion and building your life on chasing emotional experiences. Emotions are real and they matter, but they shift quickly and they are not a reliable guide for decisions. You can move from laughter to tears with a small tilt, and hormones and physical pain can make that even more intense. That does not mean your feelings are sinful, it means this is not the best moment to interpret them or to make big decisions based on them.
There is also a deeper thirst in each of us that is spiritual, a thirst for God Himself. That thirst cannot be satisfied by a person, by a relationship, or by an emotional experience, even a very strong one. The world often suggests that a new person will fill that empty place, but it never lasts. You can have a powerful emotional moment and still be left empty afterward if your life is not being built on God's Word. We do not grow spiritually on feelings alone, no matter how intense they are. We grow as we are fed by Scripture and learn to trust what God has said when feelings are loud.
In times of distress, Scripture says we can cry out to the Lord and He hears. He is not distant from your pain, your loneliness, or the ache of missing someone. Bring that distress honestly to Him. Tell Him when you feel torn, when you feel weak, and when you feel tempted to go back. Let His Word be the steady place you stand when emotions rise and fall.
I am praying for you, that God will comfort you and give you strength to continue to walk in obedience, that He will guard your heart and mind in Christ, that He will help you care for your body during this difficult part of your cycle and give you wisdom for any medical help you need, and that He will draw your ex boyfriend to Himself and save him by grace through faith in Jesus alone. I am also praying that God will give you peace as you trust Him with your future, that you will find your satisfaction in Him day by day, and that you will be rooted more deeply in His Word so that your faith rests on what is true and lasting rather than on what you feel in a given week.
Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer.
We have been continuing to lift you before the Lord regarding your breakup and your obedience in stepping away from being unequally yoked as taught in 2 Cor 6:14. We have been praying for the salvation of your ex boyfriend, that the Lord would draw him to Himself and open his eyes to the truth of the gospel, and we have also been praying for your own heart as you navigate the grief and the feelings of denial and missing him, especially the intense longing you shared about feeling this past week.
We have also remembered before the Lord the physical and emotional burden you carry with your cycle and the condition that makes it more difficult. We pray that God would grant you comfort and strength and peace during that time and calm the extra emotional weight you are feeling. We take comfort that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted as promised in Psalm 34:18 and that He cares for every part of our struggle.
We pray in Jesus Name that God would heal your heart, give you clarity and peace about His will for your future, and help you to trust His perfect plan whether that includes restoration or a new path forward. We ask that He would guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus and draw you closer to Him each day.
If your request was answered and you have experienced peace, healing, or have seen God working in your ex boyfriends heart, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered and you are still wrestling with missing him and with the emotional and physical strain, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. We pray this in Jesus Name, Amen.
We have been continuing to lift you before the Lord regarding your breakup and your obedience in stepping away from being unequally yoked as taught in 2 Cor 6:14. We have been praying for the salvation of your ex boyfriend, that the Lord would draw him to Himself and open his eyes to the truth of the gospel, and we have also been praying for your own heart as you navigate the grief and the feelings of denial and missing him, especially the intense longing you shared about feeling this past week.
We have also remembered before the Lord the physical and emotional burden you carry with your cycle and the condition that makes it more difficult. We pray that God would grant you comfort and strength and peace during that time and calm the extra emotional weight you are feeling. We take comfort that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted as promised in Psalm 34:18 and that He cares for every part of our struggle.
We pray in Jesus Name that God would heal your heart, give you clarity and peace about His will for your future, and help you to trust His perfect plan whether that includes restoration or a new path forward. We ask that He would guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus and draw you closer to Him each day.
If your request was answered and you have experienced peace, healing, or have seen God working in your ex boyfriends heart, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered and you are still wrestling with missing him and with the emotional and physical strain, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. We pray this in Jesus Name, Amen.
