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kristie
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Some of you have been praying with me over my son, thank you, and I pray God open the floodgates in your situations for the offering of prayer you have made for my situation. Just to fill in those who do not know my situation, my sons girlfriend, and the mother of his child, is extremely abusive mentally and emotionally to my son. He has been away from me and his siblings for seven years, seen him twice in those years, after running off with a girl he met on the internet that was also very abusive to him. Which is another thing to pray about..my sons hooking up with abusive women which stems from severe abuse upon me by his father, he is codependent, normally boys become abusers, the girls become abused, but it has reversed on my son apparently, he is a gentle soul and very opposite, quiet and too passive. It may stem from being raised with nothing but women around him, no male figures after I got out of the abuse with his father. But anyway, where he was for those seven years was a very hard place for him, it was one trauma after another, he has suffered greatly in that location. In June he suffered fatal stage enchepelitis and he almost died, and he was looking at a six month recovery, seizures, etc. He has always been pretty much contained to their home being Mr. Mom, she wears the pants. They are not married, he is a believer, she is not, her family is not and her family is just a mess, lesbian sister married to one woman for three months and then divorced her and broke up a family (man, wife, kids) and married that woman. Her brother is gay as well, her mother and father are still married, but her mother is having multiple affairs, and her mother is also abusive natured. So, when my son had this illness, he could no longer be the Mr. Mom, God used this situation of his illness to bring the blessing of bringing my son home to be by his family so we could help them. A seven yr long prayer answered! Praise God. We did not know he was being abused by this second girlfriend, but I learned it while in Omaha at his hospital bed, because the abuse then was extreme right in front of me and one time he would have died from his brain swelling if I had not been there, because she would not help him, she only screamed at him, cussed him for waking her up and disturbing her. There were more, as explained in other requests. We have watched this abuse every other day since they moved her, all of us have had to bear witness. And now, as for a few days ago, she has decided that she is making him leave his family and go back to omaha again. She used his baby daughter to control him. We have been devastated.
She is always shuffling off the kids, his daughter and older one she had with another man out of wedlock, so she let her sisters ex wife take them to Arkansas a week ago. Today they had to leave to Arkansas to get the kids. He came by here at my moms to hug me goodbye. He came to the front door and he gave me a quick hug and then we were exchanging some words about his paternal grandmother being upset over his having to go back to omaha. Suddenly she flew around the corner and leaped onto the porch, screamed at me that she did not want to hear it right now, shoved him backwards, and started trying to take the car keys away from him, screaming at him that he was not getting back in the car, that he was not going, to give her those keys, he was staying right here with me, and the cuss words were flying in all this as well..the f bomb every other word. He pocketed the keys and just turned and went and got in the car as she stood on my moms porch and screamed at me things about him, that he is not going with her to Arkansas, he is staying right here with me and so on..cussing fluently. Then she whipped around and back at him. I shut the door, I was shaking so hard, and upset, and got my shoes on then went out via the garage and opened the garage door. She was still standing outside the door screaming at him to get out of the car, he is not going, same stuff. I had no clue what started this one or anything else. She finally slammed herself into the car and he backed out and left.
I called my daughter and told her what just took place, and she said yes, it started there at their house about two hours ago when she came over to give him a haircut. She said his girlfriend was pressing in so hard on her, in a controlling sort of way, as she was cutting his hair that she could not move her arms to cut his hair. So she asked her to please back up a little so she could move her arm, she did not want to poke her elbow into her, or she was afraid she would mess up his hair. She said she backed up, and then did this big mad huff sound and said I am going to go clean out the car and stormed out the door. She said she finished his haircut and he was fretting saying he had to get in the shower because if he was showered by time she got back she was going to go psycho on him, so my daughter told him to just in the shower, she did not want her going into a rage but my son said no, I want to talk to you while she is gone so as soon as we see her coming down the street, I will run into the shower, it only takes me a couple minutes. My daughter said she kept insisting, cause she knew what was going to unleash..but he insisted back. Well here she came, my son dashed for the shower and she said she exited out the front door greeting her. She said she kind of pushed past her hostilely and cussing asking where is he at. She told her in the shower and I waited here to say goodbye to you, and tried to give her a hug goodbye (we try to smooth all we can), but she just shoved her off and went at him like a crazy person..and that is how todays event started and was continuing on two hours later when he got to my door, and may still be going on for all we know many hours later all the way to Arkansas.
I ask that you continue with me to rebuke and bind the demon of abuse off my son, out of his girlfriend, and loose a spirit in her of kindness, submissiveness even as Gods word says the woman of the house is supposed to be to the man of the house. I also ask that you pray with me that her womb be bound, one of our biggest fears is another child is going to be brought into this mess, because she keeps talking about that, and she is pushing for marriage too. I pray that God not allow another child come into this and that God not allow my son to be yoked unequally to a non believer who is abusive. Until she accepts Jesus as her savior and she becomes a good person, not abusive, I fear for my son to get any deeper into this relationship. I know this is not what God has for my son, nor wants for my son. As well as I know if this relationship continues like this, my son will reach a point where he has to get out. This relationship cannot nor will it last like this. And she has said many times that she will not get counseling with him, will not do anything to help this relationship because if she has to do that, she would rather be single. She truly thinks she is okay and she is doing nothing wrong.
I also ask that you continue to pray that satan be bound from using her, and how she is, to rob the blessing God gave to us by bringing my son home after seven years, that He closes all doors enabling her to go back to Omaha, to make him go back, and that he opens doors to cause the opposite, doors to change her mind, things that would make her want to stay instead of leave. A job offer that she cannot turn down for instance because she is money driven and does not like her job here but wont look for another either, something..God knows better then I. Pray protection over my son and the babies. Pray my son build some backbone to take control of himself and his household, to become the head and not the tail in abuse. And...I would not call it a praise report because it was not a good way to exert himself, but he did apparently exert himself against her abuse today for the first time...and called her a bad word..the b word. She was screaming that at me at the door, that he called her the b word, and never has he ever even raised his voice to her let alone ever called her a name, and he was staying here with me, he was not going in the car with her, etc! Not good, but he did speak up a couple words I guess, for the first time ever, in defiance of the abuse she was wrecking upon him. I do not know what to make of that actually.
Thank you for praying for me, and I try to pray for every request coming through the board here, so be sure that I will be praying for all of you also, and again may God bless you for standing in prayer agreement over all these things.
She is always shuffling off the kids, his daughter and older one she had with another man out of wedlock, so she let her sisters ex wife take them to Arkansas a week ago. Today they had to leave to Arkansas to get the kids. He came by here at my moms to hug me goodbye. He came to the front door and he gave me a quick hug and then we were exchanging some words about his paternal grandmother being upset over his having to go back to omaha. Suddenly she flew around the corner and leaped onto the porch, screamed at me that she did not want to hear it right now, shoved him backwards, and started trying to take the car keys away from him, screaming at him that he was not getting back in the car, that he was not going, to give her those keys, he was staying right here with me, and the cuss words were flying in all this as well..the f bomb every other word. He pocketed the keys and just turned and went and got in the car as she stood on my moms porch and screamed at me things about him, that he is not going with her to Arkansas, he is staying right here with me and so on..cussing fluently. Then she whipped around and back at him. I shut the door, I was shaking so hard, and upset, and got my shoes on then went out via the garage and opened the garage door. She was still standing outside the door screaming at him to get out of the car, he is not going, same stuff. I had no clue what started this one or anything else. She finally slammed herself into the car and he backed out and left.
I called my daughter and told her what just took place, and she said yes, it started there at their house about two hours ago when she came over to give him a haircut. She said his girlfriend was pressing in so hard on her, in a controlling sort of way, as she was cutting his hair that she could not move her arms to cut his hair. So she asked her to please back up a little so she could move her arm, she did not want to poke her elbow into her, or she was afraid she would mess up his hair. She said she backed up, and then did this big mad huff sound and said I am going to go clean out the car and stormed out the door. She said she finished his haircut and he was fretting saying he had to get in the shower because if he was showered by time she got back she was going to go psycho on him, so my daughter told him to just in the shower, she did not want her going into a rage but my son said no, I want to talk to you while she is gone so as soon as we see her coming down the street, I will run into the shower, it only takes me a couple minutes. My daughter said she kept insisting, cause she knew what was going to unleash..but he insisted back. Well here she came, my son dashed for the shower and she said she exited out the front door greeting her. She said she kind of pushed past her hostilely and cussing asking where is he at. She told her in the shower and I waited here to say goodbye to you, and tried to give her a hug goodbye (we try to smooth all we can), but she just shoved her off and went at him like a crazy person..and that is how todays event started and was continuing on two hours later when he got to my door, and may still be going on for all we know many hours later all the way to Arkansas.
I ask that you continue with me to rebuke and bind the demon of abuse off my son, out of his girlfriend, and loose a spirit in her of kindness, submissiveness even as Gods word says the woman of the house is supposed to be to the man of the house. I also ask that you pray with me that her womb be bound, one of our biggest fears is another child is going to be brought into this mess, because she keeps talking about that, and she is pushing for marriage too. I pray that God not allow another child come into this and that God not allow my son to be yoked unequally to a non believer who is abusive. Until she accepts Jesus as her savior and she becomes a good person, not abusive, I fear for my son to get any deeper into this relationship. I know this is not what God has for my son, nor wants for my son. As well as I know if this relationship continues like this, my son will reach a point where he has to get out. This relationship cannot nor will it last like this. And she has said many times that she will not get counseling with him, will not do anything to help this relationship because if she has to do that, she would rather be single. She truly thinks she is okay and she is doing nothing wrong.
I also ask that you continue to pray that satan be bound from using her, and how she is, to rob the blessing God gave to us by bringing my son home after seven years, that He closes all doors enabling her to go back to Omaha, to make him go back, and that he opens doors to cause the opposite, doors to change her mind, things that would make her want to stay instead of leave. A job offer that she cannot turn down for instance because she is money driven and does not like her job here but wont look for another either, something..God knows better then I. Pray protection over my son and the babies. Pray my son build some backbone to take control of himself and his household, to become the head and not the tail in abuse. And...I would not call it a praise report because it was not a good way to exert himself, but he did apparently exert himself against her abuse today for the first time...and called her a bad word..the b word. She was screaming that at me at the door, that he called her the b word, and never has he ever even raised his voice to her let alone ever called her a name, and he was staying here with me, he was not going in the car with her, etc! Not good, but he did speak up a couple words I guess, for the first time ever, in defiance of the abuse she was wrecking upon him. I do not know what to make of that actually.
Thank you for praying for me, and I try to pray for every request coming through the board here, so be sure that I will be praying for all of you also, and again may God bless you for standing in prayer agreement over all these things.
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