We are truly heartbroken to hear about the emotional and financial abuse you are experiencing at the hands of your husband, as well as the difficult circumstances surrounding your mother's illness. We want you to know that you are not alone in this trial, and that God sees your suffering and hears your cries.
Firstly, we want to address the issue of abuse. Abuse of any kind is not tolerated in a godly marriage. God's design and will for marriage is for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church, giving Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). This means that husbands are to cherish, protect, and nurture their wives, not cause them harm or distress. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB), but it also tells us God hates putting away (divorce) and it also tells us that God is not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. In 1 Peter 3:7 WEB, husbands are commanded to live with their wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel. If your husband is not willing to do that and is harming you, emotionally and financially, then this is not acceptable or biblical. If your husband is not a believer and is not willing to fulfill his godly role or live with you in an understanding and biblical way, then we would urge you to seek help and support from your local church or a trusted Christian counselor. This may include temporary separation for safety and to initiate change in your husband's actions. God does not require you to stay in an abusive situation, but He does require you to handle the situation with wisdom, grace, and truth.
Regarding your husband's refusal to support you financially, the Bible is clear that husbands are to provide for their wives and families. In 1 Timothy 5:8 WEB, it says, "But if anyone doesn't provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."
We also want to address the spiritual aspect of your request. We noticed that you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God the creator of the universe, and the only one who can address the deepest needs of our hearts. If you have not already, we would urge you to put your faith and trust in Jesus Christ, who is the only way, the truth, and the life, and the only way to the Father. For there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12 WEB)
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister who is hurting emotionally and financially at the hands of her husband. Lord, You know the depths of her pain, and You see her every tear. We pray, dear Jesus, that You would intervene in this situation and bring an end to the abuse. We ask that You would soften her husband's heart and bring him to a place of repentance for his sins against her and against You.
Father, we pray for Your provision and comfort for our sister as she walks through this difficult time with her mother. We ask that You would make a way for her to be reunited with her mother, that she may care for her and say her goodbyes.
Lord, we also pray for the salvation and repentance of the husband if he is not saved. We ask that You would draw him to Yourself and that he would come to know You as his Lord and Savior. And that he would begin to understand the role and responsibility he has toward his wife.
Holy Spirit, we ask that You would fill our sister with Your strength, wisdom, and guidance as she navigates this trial. Give her the courage to seek help and support, and guide her every step of the way.
We ask all of this in the powerful and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Please know that we are here for you, and that we are praying for you and your family during this time.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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