We understand how deeply dreams can stir the heart, especially when they involve someone who was once so close to you. It’s clear these visions have left you searching for meaning, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion, guided by Scripture. First, we must gently but firmly remind you that our hope, direction, and peace come only through Jesus Christ. The dreams you’ve described may feel significant, but we must test them against God’s Word, not our emotions or desires. The Bible warns us in Jeremiah 17:9, *"The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt. Who can know it?"* Our feelings can lead us astray if we’re not rooted in the truth of Scripture.
The fact that this man was once your fiancé—and that his father is a pastor—does not mean God is ordaining your reunion. Breakups, especially in engagements, are painful, but they often serve as God’s protection or redirection. Proverbs 16:9 tells us, *"A man’s heart plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps."* If this relationship ended, we must trust that God allowed it for a reason, even if that reason isn’t clear to you yet. Clinging to the hope of reconciliation through dreams can open the door to idolatry—placing a person or a desired outcome above God’s will. Exodus 20:3 commands, *"You shall have no other gods before me."* If your thoughts are consumed by this man or the possibility of restarting this relationship, it’s time to surrender those desires to the Lord and ask Him to realign your heart with His purposes.
We also want to address the symbolism in your dreams. While God *can* speak through dreams (as we see in Scripture with Joseph, Daniel, and others), not every dream is from Him. Many dreams are simply reflections of our subconscious thoughts, fears, or longings. The imagery of being "bonded together" or "stuck" despite separation could reflect unresolved emotions or a spiritual warning. First Corinthians 7:15 says, *"But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* If this man chose to end the relationship, you are not bound to him. The "puzzle pieces" fitting together might feel like confirmation, but we must ask: Is this alignment with *God’s* will, or is it your own longing for what was? The bangles in your dream—gifts from him and his family—could symbolize the emotional ties you still carry. But listen closely: *Those ties must be severed if they are hindering your walk with Christ.*
If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord will make it abundantly clear *in reality*, not just in dreams. But you must be willing to let go and trust God’s timing. Psalm 37:4-5 says, *"Also delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Notice the order: Delight in the Lord *first*, and He will shape your desires to match His will. Right now, your focus must be on seeking God’s kingdom, not the restoration of this relationship. If you’re holding onto hope because of these dreams, you may be missing what God is trying to teach you in this season of singleness.
We also want to caution you about the danger of emotional or spiritual attachment to someone who is no longer in your life. If you’re entertaining thoughts of him, replaying memories, or even wearing gifts he gave you (like the bangles), you’re keeping a door open that God may have closed. Romans 12:1-2 urges us, *"Therefore I urge you, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service. Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God."* This includes your thoughts, your emotions, and even the physical reminders of past relationships. It may be time to let go of those bangles—not out of bitterness, but as an act of surrender to God.
Lastly, we must ask: Are you praying about this situation *in Jesus’ name*? There is no other name by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6), and there is no power in dreams or symbols apart from Christ. If your prayers haven’t been centered on Him, that’s where you must start. Salvation and guidance come only through Jesus, and if you haven’t fully surrendered this situation to Him, now is the time.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her heart and the pain she carries from this broken relationship. Lord, we ask that You break every ungodly soul tie that may still bind her to this man. If these dreams are not from You, we rebuke them in Jesus’ name and ask that You replace confusion with clarity, longing with contentment, and doubt with trust in Your perfect plan. Father, if there is any idolatry in her heart—anything she has placed above You—reveal it to her and give her the strength to lay it at Your feet. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Lord, if this man is not Your will for her life, we pray You would remove every lingering hope that contradicts Your Word. Help her to see this season of singleness as a gift—a time to draw closer to You, to be shaped by Your love, and to prepare for the future You have ordained. If there is unforgiveness, bitterness, or resentment in her heart, we ask that You would uproot it and replace it with Your love and grace. And if she has been praying without acknowledging the name of Jesus, convict her spirit and lead her to pray in the authority of Your Son, through whom all things are possible.
Father, we ask that You would surround her with godly community—women who will speak truth into her life and point her to You. Give her the courage to release what is past and embrace the future You have for her, whether that includes marriage to a godly man or a life of joyful singleness devoted to Your service. We declare that her identity is in Christ alone, and her worth is found in being Your beloved daughter. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.
Sister, we urge you to examine your heart in light of Scripture. Are you seeking God’s will above your own? Are you willing to let go of this man if that’s what the Lord requires? Spend time in prayer, fasting, and reading God’s Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any area where you’re not fully surrendered. And remember: God’s plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), but they may not look like what you’ve imagined. Trust Him, even when it hurts. Even when it feels like letting go. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
