Divine Forgiveness and Mercy

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My husband ghosted us. Me ### and our two daughters. Grown women. Not young children. I was destroyed. Shamefully. I drank vodka. 24/7. At work. I don’t remember doing that but was told I did and I was fired. My ex friend turned me in. I deserved it. She kept my Tizio lamp. I paid for it. It was mine prior to my employment. Heartbreaking and painful. Pray for me. I am over the loss of my husband. I need God’s help with the loss of my sister’s friendship and being my sister. Pray my daughter ### can stop being embarrassed and ashamed. Pray my daughter ### can heal and no longer be ashamed. Pray God helps me find something to do with the time I have left that is important and will help my daughters be less ashamed. Pray please. Thank you for your help. ### ###

 

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We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you and your daughters up in prayer, seeking His divine forgiveness, mercy, and restoration. The pain you’ve endured, betrayal, abandonment, and the weight of shame, is deep, but we know that God’s love is deeper still. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in this suffering; the Lord sees your tears and hears your cries.

First, we must address the drinking that took hold of you in your despair. Scripture is clear in Ephesians 5:18, "Do not be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit." The enemy seeks to destroy us through addiction and self-destruction, but Christ came to set us free (John 8:36). We rebuke the spirit of bondage that led you to this place, and we pray for your complete deliverance from the grip of alcohol. The Lord is your healer, and He can restore what has been broken. Confess this sin to Him, for 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." You are forgiven, and His grace is sufficient to lift you out of this pit.

We also lift up the fractured relationships in your life, your sister’s betrayal and the loss of her friendship. Proverbs 18:24 warns, "A man of many companions may be ruined, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." It is painful when those we trust turn against us, but we must release bitterness and entrust them to God. We pray that He softens hearts and restores what has been broken, if it is His will. If not, we ask that He gives you the strength to forgive and move forward in peace.

Your daughters’ shame is a heavy burden, but we declare over them the truth of Isaiah 61:7, "Instead of your shame you will have double; and instead of dishonor, they will rejoice in their portion. Therefore in their land they will possess double. Everlasting joy will be theirs." We pray that the Lord breaks the spirit of embarrassment and replaces it with His peace. Remind them that their worth is found in Christ, not in the failures of their parents. You are all new creations in Him (2 Corinthians 5:17), and His love covers a multitude of sins.

As for finding purpose in this season, we encourage you to seek God’s will for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says the Lord, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Perhaps the Lord is calling you to minister to others who have walked through similar pain, those who have been abandoned, betrayed, or trapped in addiction. Your testimony could be a light to someone else in darkness. We pray that He opens doors for meaningful work or service that will bring healing to you and your daughters.

Lastly, we must address the foundation of your faith. If you have not already, we urge you to place your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. Acts 4:12 declares, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we invite you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive the gift of eternal life. Only through Christ can true healing and restoration come.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts broken for this sister in Christ. Lord, You see her pain, her shame, and her struggles. We ask that You pour out Your mercy and grace upon her. Forgive her for the ways she has turned to the world instead of to You, and cleanse her from all unrighteousness. Break the chains of addiction, Lord, and set her free by the power of Your Holy Spirit.

We pray for her daughters, that You would lift the weight of shame from their hearts. Replace their embarrassment with Your peace, and remind them that their identity is in You, not in the failures of this world. Heal their wounds, Father, and restore their joy.

We ask that You mend the broken relationships in her life, with her sister and others who have caused her pain. If it is Your will, bring reconciliation. If not, give her the strength to forgive and move forward in Your love.

Lord, open doors of opportunity for her. Show her how to use this season of her life for Your glory. Whether through work, ministry, or service, let her find purpose in You. Provide for her needs, both practical and spiritual, and surround her with godly community.

Above all, we pray that she would draw near to You, Jesus. That she would know You as her Savior, her Healer, and her Redeemer. Thank You for Your unfailing love, which never leaves us nor forsakes us. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

 

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We’re so sorry for the weight of shame and loss you’re carrying, and for the pain of a trusted friend’s betrayal, especially when it cost you your job and a possession that was already yours. Even a lamp can feel like salt on a wound when it was taken without consent, and we grieve with you over that. Shame often convinces us that we’re defined by our worst moments, but God’s mercy never runs dry, and He isn’t finished with your story.

It sounds like you’re ready to move into something new, something that will bring meaning to your days and gently lift the embarrassment your daughters feel. That’s a tender desire, and we believe God can use it. Healing from shame, for you and for them, often starts in a safe place where you’re known and loved, not judged. A local church community or a small group can be that kind of refuge. Sometimes a Christian recovery group (like a Celebrate Recovery program) can provide practical, prayerful support as you walk forward from the drinking and the job loss. It might also be wise to check in with a doctor or a Christian counselor, not because you’re broken, but because you’re worth caring for.

Forgiving the friend who hurt you may take time. Decisional forgiveness, choosing to release the debt and not seek payback, can start healing in your own heart even while the feelings catch up. Handing that injustice over to God can make room for something better than resentment.

There is purpose ahead for you. Maybe volunteering somewhere that helps other hurting women, or simply showing up faithfully in a church ministry, will give you a quiet sense that your life still matters deeply, and your daughters’ eyes may begin to see that too.

We’re praying with you now: Lord Jesus, lift the shame that presses on our friend and her daughters. Heal the memories of betrayal and the loss of work and friendship. Give her courage to take one small step toward community and purpose, and let her girls see restoration and find freedom from embarrassment. In Your name we pray. Amen.

 

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I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

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[Nochaeld]

My husband ghosted us. Me ### and our two daughters. Grown women. Not young children. I was destroyed. Shamefully. I drank vodka. 24/7. At work. I don’t remember doing that but was told I did and I was fired. My ex friend turned me in. I deserved it. She kept my Tizio lamp. I paid for it. It was mine prior to my employment. Heartbreaking and painful. Pray for me. I am over the loss of my husband. I need God’s help with the loss of my sister’s friendship and being my sister. Pray my daughter ### can stop being embarrassed and ashamed. Pray my daughter ### can heal and no longer be ashamed. Pray God helps me find something to do with the time I have left that is important and will help my daughters be less ashamed. Pray please. Thank you for your help. ### ###

God's Kingdom First and Then Our Needs are Added, Mt 6:9-13, Matt 6:33...

"Pray, then, after this manner... ‘Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your Kingdom Come! Your Will be done, On Earth as it is in Heaven!”

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"Give us our daily bread. Forgive our debts, as we forgive our debtors. Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For it’s Your Kingdom, Power and Glory Forever, Amen,” Matt 6:9-13, in Jesus' Name.

Our Father in Heaven, we first pause and Thank You for sending Your Son! -- "Jesus showed us The Father -- Your Nature," Jn 14:9. Thank You for His shed blood on the cross for our sins, His death, burial, resurrection and ascension to pour out the Holy Spirit of Adoption from The Father, by which we call out, Abba, Father, Gal 4:6, proving we are heirs, Gal 4:7, since as many as received Jesus and believed on His Name are called Children of God, John 1:12-13, praying even with the same language as Jesus in crisis for deliverance, Mark 14:36, Abba! Father!

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[Nochaeld]

My husband ghosted us. Me ### and our two daughters. Grown women. Not young children. I was destroyed. Shamefully. I drank vodka. 24/7. At work. I don’t remember doing that but was told I did and I was fired. My ex friend turned me in. I deserved it. She kept my Tizio lamp. I paid for it. It was mine prior to my employment. Heartbreaking and painful. Pray for me. I am over the loss of my husband. I need God’s help with the loss of my sister’s friendship and being my sister. Pray my daughter ### can stop being embarrassed and ashamed. Pray my daughter ### can heal and no longer be ashamed. Pray God helps me find something to do with the time I have left that is important and will help my daughters be less ashamed. Pray please. Thank you for your help. ### ###

Hallowed Be Your Name... May Your Name get honor through our thoughts, words, deeds, speech, actions and reactions. May it not be used to curse or in vain, Ex 20:7, and may our lives and conduct cause it to be reverenced, not derided, Rom 2:24. May the world be enlightened or compelled to reverence Your ineffable Name and Your Christ's and May Your Glory cover the Earth as the waters cover the seas, Numbers 14:21, Ps 72:19, Isa 11:9, Hab 2:14, Phil 2:10-11...

May Your Kingdom Come to us & through us with FRUIT of The Holy Spirit, see Rom 14:17 on what the Kingdom is -- His Righteousness, peace and joy, therefore ALL the fruit is an extension of His Kingdom, from LOVE, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control, Gal 5:22-23, truth, humility & justice, Ps 45:4, contentment, Lk 3:14, 1 Tim 6:6, Heb 13:5, Phil 4:11-13, doing justly, loving mercy and walking humbly with God, Micah 6:8. You desire mercy, not sacrifice, Hos 6:6.

May Your Will Be Done on Earth as it is in Heaven -- May we know, submit to and do Your will as Jesus did on earth, Phil 2:9-9, our whole lives be increasingly lived to please You, knowing the Trinity, living in Your presence moment by moment, and making You known as a by product, rejoicing in trials and weakness, as well as power demonstrations to Your glory, Mt 28:19-20, Rom 1:5, Rom 15:18. May we abide in Christ, with freedom to pray, and power to bear fruit, thereby making disciples, and thus proving we are disciples, John 15:7-8, might bear some fruit wherever we go, Rom 1:13

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[Nochaeld]

Give us Each Day our Daily Bread: Spiritual -- we can't live by bread alone but every Word of God, Deut 8:3, Matt 4:4, Lk 4:4. Meet our emotional, social and physical needs so we can love You with all our heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances, Mk 12:30, and our neighbors, even strangers and even enemies, Matt 5:44, as ourselves, Mk 12:31.

Forgive Our Debts as We Forgive Our Debtors... We confess we've sinned against You (name specific sins and areas of ongoing struggles), and others, receive forgiveness & pray for those who sin against us, (by name and specific offenses), asking they'd repent and be saved, 2 Peter 3:9, entrusting their souls to a faithful creator and recognizing it is He who alone who is in fact the one appointed both to save and to judge, Romans 12:9.

Lead us Not into Temptation, but Deliver us from evil... Keep us from temptation, Luke 11:4, sin, 2 Cor 13:7, lies, evil, fear, Zeph 3:13, evil people, imposters, deception, 2 Tim 3:13, temptation and the evil one, Mat 6:13, Jn 17:15. Give us angelic protection, Ps 91:10-11, Heb 1:14.

For It's Your Kingdom, (Everlasting Kingdom which Cannot Be Destroyed, Dan 7:18), It's Your Power, (All Power in Heaven and Earth has been Given to Me, Matt 28:18), and Your Glory, Forever... (Not unto us O Lord, but unto Your Name Be Glory, Ps 115:1)... We Thank You for hearing, Mk 11:24, Amen, in Jesus' Name, in Him All The Promises of God are Yes and Amen, 2 Cor 1:20.

 

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

You have carried a weight that was never meant for one pair of shoulders alone. A husband who walked away, not with words, not with a door that slammed, but with silence, with empty air where a man used to be. That is a peculiar kind of wound, the kind that keeps bleeding long after the blow because there is no closure, just a great hollow ache. And then the grief poured itself out of you in a way you never would have chosen, and shame came and sat down beside you like a heavy-boned companion. I hear you saying you deserved what came. I hear the self-condemnation. But let me ask you to look away from yourself for a moment, and look instead at the One who blots out transgressions for His own name's sake.

Do you think the Lord Jesus ever meets a soul and says, “Show me your record of good behavior and then we will talk of mercy”? Never. He meets us in the wreckage. He came to the paralyzed man lowered through a roof, and before He touched the man's body, He touched his guilt: “Son, your sins are forgiven you.” That was the first healing, the deepest one. The malady of the soul is always the one He addresses first, because He knows that all the other miseries flow from that poisoned spring. You have been trying to carry your shame as if it were a penance, as if feeling the weight of it might somehow balance the scales. But the scales are not in your hands, dear heart. They are in His, and He has already tipped them with His own blood.

The drinking, the job, the friend who took what was yours, these things sting and they are real, but they are the surface waves. Beneath them is the deeper water: a woman who has been sinned against and who has sinned, and who now wonders if there is any bottom to the mercy of God. There is. There is forgiveness with Him, not because you have earned it by your sorrow, but because Christ has purchased it by His own sorrow unto death. The blackest sin that ever clung to a human soul is not so black as the blood of Jesus is red. He does not merely overlook sin; He dissolves it, He drowns it in the sea of His own finished work, and He says, “I will not remember it.” Not “I will try to forget” or “I will hold it over you,” but “I will not remember.” That is the language of a God who delights in mercy.

Now, about this friend who ceased to be a sister to you. I will not minimize it, a wound from a friend is a wound with jagged edges. It cuts deeper than the blow of an enemy because it comes with the memory of trust. And the lamp, that little token of what was yours, it galls because it feels like one more thing taken, one more piece of proof that you were not valued. I want you to hear something very tender. When the Lord Jesus was betrayed, He chose to let it be by a kiss, by the hand of one who had eaten bread with Him, so that every betrayed soul in every age would know that He has entered fully into that particular agony. He did not meet Judas with rage. He met him with a sorrow so deep it could not be measured. And He meets you now with the same sorrowful tenderness. He knows what it is to lose a friend to a friend's own darkness.

Your daughters, you ache over their shame, and that ache is the mark of a mother's love. But I would have you see this: the Lord who is healing you is also able to heal them. Their embarrassment is a heavy cloak, but His love is a warm sun that can make them want to cast it off. Do not imagine that your past has disqualified you from being a blessing to them now. A broken vessel that has been mended by the Master's own hand often holds the sweetest water. Sarah, of whom the Scripture speaks, was a woman who did well and was not afraid with any amazement, and her daughters are those who trust in a faithful God and refuse to let fear rule them. Your daughters can be Sarah's daughters still, you can be a Sarah to them, not because you are perfect, but because you are pointing them to the faithful One who keeps covenant.

You ask what you can do with the time you have left. Here is the beautiful secret: God does not need your spotless resume; He needs your yielded heart. A life that has known deep forgiveness becomes a life that can speak deep comfort to others. You may not see the whole path ahead, but you can take the next step, loving your daughters, speaking gently to your own soul of the mercy you have received, and holding fast to the hand that was pierced for you. He who began this good work in you will not abandon it halfway. He who forgave you will also restore to you the years that the locust has eaten, in ways you cannot yet imagine.

Let me pray with you now.

Lord Jesus, You who stooped to write in the dust when a shamed woman stood before You, stoop now and write mercy on this dear woman's heart. She has drunk deep of sorrow and of sin, and now she thirsts for the water of life. Give her to drink freely. Lift the weight of condemnation from her shoulders, and let her feel the lightness of being fully forgiven. Heal the wounds left by a husband's desertion and a friend's betrayal. Restore to her the sense of her own worth in Your eyes. And for her daughters, Lord, quiet their hearts, lift their faces, let them see not a mother defined by her fall but a mother upheld by her Savior. Give her work to do, even small and hidden work, that shall be a sweet offering to You and a quiet gift to them. Hold her fast, for she is Yours. In Your name, who lives and intercedes, Amen.