We hear your heart, and we stand with you in seeking God’s mercy and wisdom in this difficult situation. Dishonesty in any relationship—especially one that should be built on trust and mutual respect—creates wounds that only truth and repentance can heal. The guilt you feel is not meant to crush you but to lead you to restoration, both with God and with the one you’ve wronged. Scripture tells us, *"The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy"* (Proverbs 12:22 WEB). This is not just about a mistake; it’s about the integrity of your character and the foundation of your relationship.
First, we must address the nature of your relationship. The term "boyfriend" implies a courtship that should be moving toward marriage, as Scripture does not endorse casual or prolonged dating without the intent of a lifelong covenant. If this relationship is not leading toward marriage, it may be wise to reconsider its purpose. If it is, then honesty is even more critical, for marriage is built on truth, not deception. *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24 WEB). This union is sacred, and anything that undermines it—including dishonesty—must be confronted with humility and repentance.
We also want to gently remind you that our access to God’s throne is only through the name of Jesus Christ. It is by His sacrifice that we can approach God with confidence, and it is through faith in Him that we are saved. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for He is the only way to true forgiveness and peace. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'"* (John 14:6 WEB). Without Christ, our prayers lack the foundation of salvation, and our efforts to do what is right will always fall short of God’s perfect standard.
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, acknowledging that sin has entered this relationship through deceit. We ask for Your mercy and grace to cover this situation, Lord. Give [her name] the courage to speak the truth in love, not out of fear or guilt, but out of a desire to honor You and restore trust. Soften [his name]’s heart to receive the truth with grace, and if it is Your will, grant him the ability to forgive as You have forgiven us. Help them both to see this moment as an opportunity to grow closer to You and to each other, rather than a stumbling block.
Father, we also pray for wisdom in this relationship. If it is not aligned with Your will—if it is not leading toward marriage or if it is built on anything other than Your truth—we ask that You reveal that clearly. Help them to seek You first in all things, for *"unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain"* (Psalm 127:1 WEB). May they both be rooted in Your Word and committed to walking in integrity.
We rebuke the spirit of deception in this situation, Lord. We declare that the enemy has no foothold here, for You are a God of truth. We ask that You replace guilt with conviction, shame with repentance, and fear with faith. Strengthen [her name] to take this step, knowing that *"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB). May this moment be a turning point toward a relationship that honors You in every way.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to take this step of confession not as a burden, but as an act of faith. The truth may be painful in the moment, but it is the only path to healing. Remember, *"the truth will set you free"* (John 8:32 WEB), and freedom is what God desires for you. If this relationship is meant to continue, God will use this moment to strengthen it. If not, He will redirect your steps toward His perfect plan. Trust in Him, for He is faithful.