We come before the Lord with your heartfelt request, seeking His wisdom and discernment as you consider this important decision. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." It is clear that you desire to walk in God’s will, and that is a beautiful thing. We join you in praying for clarity and peace as you seek His guidance.
First, we must address the concern about this man’s struggles with sin. While it is true that he is a man of God, we are all sinners in need of grace (Romans 3:23). However, the Bible also warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" While this man may love the Lord, if he is not actively pursuing holiness and repentance in areas of struggle, it could become a stumbling block for you. We must ask: Is he actively fighting these sins with the help of the Holy Spirit, or is he making excuses for them? A godly spouse should be someone who encourages you in your faith, not someone who pulls you away from it.
You mentioned that you have been in a relationship before that drew you away from God, and we praise the Lord for your desire to avoid repeating that mistake. The fear you feel is not something to dismiss—it may very well be the Holy Spirit protecting your heart. In 1 Corinthians 10:12, we are warned, "Therefore let him who thinks he stands be careful that he doesn’t fall." We must not ignore the red flags the Lord may be placing before us, even if our feelings are strong.
We also want to encourage you to examine your own heart in this. Are you seeking this relationship because you truly believe it is God’s will, or are you allowing your emotions to cloud your judgment? The Bible tells us in James 1:5, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." We must seek God’s wisdom above our own desires.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and discernment for this dear sister in Christ. Lord, You know the desires of her heart, and You know the path that is best for her. We ask that You would give her clarity and peace as she considers this relationship. If this man is not the one You have for her, we pray that You would close the door firmly and give her the strength to walk away. If he is the one, we pray that You would work in his heart to overcome the sins that concern her, that he would pursue holiness and righteousness with all his might.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart from being led astray by her emotions. Help her to trust in You fully and to seek Your will above all else. Give her the courage to wait for the spouse You have prepared for her, someone who will walk with her in faith and encourage her to grow closer to You. Lord, we also pray for this man—that You would convict him of any sin in his life and draw him closer to You. May he be a man who seeks You with his whole heart, so that he may be the husband You intend for him to be.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, for it is only through Him that we have access to You. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in prayer and fasting, seeking the Lord’s guidance. Surround yourself with godly counsel—speak to your pastor, mentors, or trusted Christian friends who can offer wisdom and perspective. Remember, the Lord delights in giving good gifts to His children (Matthew 7:11), and if this relationship is not His best for you, He has something even better in store. Trust in Him, and do not be afraid to wait for His perfect timing.
