Dhitlor

Good and Faithful Servant
Please pray for me. I'm going through a lot mentally right now. I was in a courtship with someone who is a professing Christian but is confused in certain false teachings (or that's what he requested and I agreed to, I don't know if he was serious or whether his meaning of a courtship is different than mine or what). Tonight I suddenly had all these thoughts and feelings arise in me of not wanting to be in that courtship anymore and for reasons that may be valid. This Saturday would have made it a month that we've been dating. I will admit that I'm uncertain this is the person that God wants me to marry for multiple reasons. I have been very lonely and feeling very isolated and I have appreciated having someone around who takes away that isolation and loneliness. For that reason, I didn't want to let go of this even though I knew that this may not be who God wants me with. I have been praying for God to allow me to marry this person and just bless this relationship anyway. I always felt convicted since I was a child to wait on God for my spouse and not date but just wait on Him but I don't know if I believe anymore that He will really bring my spouse into my life for multiple reasons. I have also had professing Christians say negative things to me about marriage not working that way where God just brings your spouse into your life without you dating which caused me to question that conviction even though I also know that these people were likely used by the enemy to cause me to question this. I'm in a period of my life where I honestly don't trust God. I feel He has not protected me or helped me in many ways. I feel disappointed and let down by Him. I know this is a sinful thought but it is honestly how I feel. I feel isolated and alone in so many ways. I have a church home but I even feel isolated there for certain reasons (including due to spiritual warfare attacking me through church members at time) and it's not due to me isolating myself from my church members because I don't. I don't know what will happen tomorrow. I don't know if I will break up with this person or what. I just honestly don't care about life anymore. Thank you.
 
We hear the deep pain and confusion in your heart, and we want you to know that your honesty before the Lord is not unseen. The weight of loneliness, disappointment, and the struggle to trust God in this season is heavy, but you are not alone in it. The enemy would love nothing more than to use this moment to isolate you further, to make you question God’s faithfulness, and to lead you away from the path He has for you. But we stand with you in prayer, declaring that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).

First, we must address the courtship you’ve been in. Scripture is clear that believers are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and this extends beyond just salvation, it includes alignment in doctrine and conviction. If this man is confused in false teachings or his understanding of courtship does not align with biblical principles, that is a serious concern. Courtship, as God designed it, is not merely dating with a label; it is a purposeful journey toward marriage, guided by prayer, wisdom, and the counsel of godly mentors. If there is uncertainty about his faith or his commitment to biblical truth, that is not something to ignore. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust in the Lord with all our heart and lean not on our own understanding, but in all our ways to acknowledge Him. Your hesitation may very well be the Holy Spirit guiding you away from a relationship that could lead you into compromise or heartache.

Your struggle with trusting God is understandable, but we must gently rebuke the lie that He has abandoned or failed you. The enemy wants you to believe that God’s silence means He does not care, but Scripture tells us that God is working all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Even when we cannot see His hand, He is at work. Your feelings of disappointment are real, but they do not define God’s character. He is faithful, even when we are faithless (2 Timothy 2:13). The isolation you feel is not from Him, it is a tactic of the enemy to make you believe you are alone. But Jesus promised, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Even in your church, where spiritual warfare may be at play, God has not left you. He is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

We also must address the sin of unbelief in your heart. It is not wrong to feel disappointed, but when those feelings lead us to question God’s goodness or His promises, we must repent and ask Him to renew our trust. Jesus said, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes” (Mark 9:23). Even in your doubt, He can meet you and restore your faith. We encourage you to bring these feelings before Him, not to suppress them, but to lay them at His feet and ask Him to replace them with His truth.

As for marriage, we must stand firm on God’s design. He does bring spouses into our lives in His perfect timing, but that does not mean we are to sit idly by. Waiting on God does not mean passivity, it means seeking Him first, growing in holiness, and trusting that He will lead you to the one He has for you. The voices that told you marriage doesn’t work that way were not speaking from Scripture. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Yahweh.” God is in the business of bringing His children together, but it must be in His way and His timing. Your conviction to wait on Him is not misplaced, it is a reflection of your desire to honor Him, even when it’s hard.

We also want to gently address the danger of holding onto a relationship out of loneliness rather than conviction. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not a solution to isolation. If this courtship is not where God is leading you, clinging to it out of fear of being alone will only lead to greater heartache. Trust that God can fill the void in your heart in ways that no human relationship ever could. He is the only one who can truly satisfy the longings of your soul (Psalm 63:1).

Now, we lift you up in prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts on behalf of our sister. Lord, You see the pain, the doubt, and the loneliness she is carrying. We ask that You would draw near to her in this moment, reminding her that You are her ever-present help. Father, we repent on her behalf for the moments of unbelief, for the times she has questioned Your goodness. We ask that You would forgive her and restore her trust in You. Lord, we declare that You are faithful, even when we are not. We pray that You would break the spirit of isolation over her life, surrounding her with Your presence and with godly community that will speak truth and life into her.

Father, we lift up this courtship before You. If this man is not the one You have for her, we ask that You would make that clear to her. Give her wisdom and discernment to know Your will, and the courage to walk away if that is what You are calling her to do. Protect her heart from being led astray by false teachings or by the fear of loneliness. Lord, we pray that You would heal the wounds that have made it hard for her to trust You. Remind her of Your promises, of Your faithfulness in the past, and of Your unfailing love for her.

We pray for her church, Lord. Where there has been spiritual warfare, we ask that You would expose the enemy’s schemes and bring unity, love, and truth to the body. Surround her with believers who will encourage her, pray for her, and walk with her in this season.

Father, we ask that You would renew her hope in You. Help her to see that her worth is not found in a relationship, but in Christ alone. Fill her with Your peace, Your joy, and Your presence. We trust that You are working all things together for her good, even when she cannot see it. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and help her to wait on You with expectation.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who is the author and perfecter of our faith, the One who never leaves us nor forsakes us. May Your will be done in her life, and may she come to know You more deeply through this trial. Amen.

Dear sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: God has not forgotten you. He sees your tears, He hears your cries, and He is working even now to bring beauty from this pain. Do not despise this season of waiting, it is not wasted. It is preparing you for the future He has for you. Keep seeking Him, keep trusting Him, and keep your heart open to His leading. If this courtship is not of Him, He will close the door. If it is, He will make it clear. But either way, He will not leave you alone. You are deeply loved, and your story is not over. Hold fast to Him, for He is holding fast to you.
 
We are so sorry you are carrying this much pain tonight, and we want to be as honest and steady with you as you have been with us. If you are in immediate danger or feel you might harm yourself, please stop and reach your local emergency services now. You can also find a free, confidential helpline in your country at findahelpline.com. You are not alone, and trained people are ready to listen right now.

It sounds like the loneliness has been the loudest voice for a long time, and that makes the confusion around this courtship feel even heavier. When we are deeply isolated, any connection that eases the ache can start to feel like oxygen, and letting go of it can feel like drowning. We hear that, and we also hear the quiet conviction beneath all your doubt, the one you have carried since childhood that God really does see you and can be trusted with this part of your story. The disappointment you feel toward Him is not a sinful thought you need to hide; He can handle your honest anger and your exhaustion. Many of us have stood in that same hard place and found He did not abandon us there, even when He felt absent.

For tonight, the most important thing is your safety, not a decision about the relationship. If you are in that numb place of not caring about life, we urge you to reach a helpline or a trusted person right now and let someone sit with you in it. Tomorrow, a small but concrete step could be to text one safe, mature person from your church and simply say, “I’m really struggling and could use a prayer and a cup of coffee.” That is not weakness, it is how the body of Christ works when we feel cut off.

Jesus, we come with our sister who is worn out and lonely and so disappointed she can barely hope. Meet her in this dark place. Give her a clear sense that You have not forgotten her, that her life matters beyond this painful season. Quiet the confusion and bring her steady, trustworthy people to walk alongside her. Calm her heart enough to sleep, and guide her in the morning toward clarity and toward real care. In Your name we ask it. Amen.
 
Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.
 
There is a cry in your words that goes deeper than the breaking of a courtship, it is the cry of a soul that has begun to doubt the very faithfulness of God. You say you do not trust Him; you feel He has not protected you. This is the core of the tempest. The disappointment with this young man is but the spray of the wave; the dark, cold depths beneath are this: you have let go your hold on the living God.

You speak of a conviction from childhood to wait on God for a spouse, and now you question whether He will truly bring that to pass. See how the enemy works! He uses the loneliness, the isolation, the careless words of others to batter down your faith. And what have you set up in its place? A hasty courtship with one who is bewitched by false doctrine, a thing you clutched not because it was of God, but because it drove away the ache of solitude for a moment. You did not want to let go, you say, because the loneliness was so great. But my dear soul, to handle a matter wisely is to find good, and the true way to handle a matter wisely is to trust God! We are not to be rash and lay hold of the first reed that drifts by; that is to trust chance, not God. Go, lean upon a reed! Go, build a throne of bubbles! But do not trust even a good man with your soul, much less a man whose faith is mangled with error. You have been praying for God to bless a relationship you suspect He does not want. Can you twist the arm of the Almighty? Will tearful pleadings make Him stamp His seal upon a path of unbelief? You have been setting up an idol in your heart and then begging Jehovah to bow down and worship it.

The agony you feel, this emptiness, this not caring for life itself, is the bitter fruit of leaning on your own understanding. When we turn from simple trust, we stumble straight into a pit. Yet even here, do not despair. The man who has power with God is the one whose faith is stripped bare. No doubter can prevail with the Lord. You feel you cannot trust; then cry out, "Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief!" Is despair to be your saviour because you refuse to believe your God? Wicked despair gives the lie to God, will you trust that rather than the Man of Sorrows who was sent to save sinners?

You speak of a profound isolation. You feel alone even among the saints. This is a bitter cup, but it was drunk to the dregs by your Master. Do you think the path of obedience is always thronged with cheering crowds? Sometimes we must learn that if God is with us, the silence of men is a small thing. The Father Himself will have fellowship with us. The eternal Godhead in the Trinity of Persons shall be with us! You lament your loneliness, cure it by seeking heavenly company. Fall back upon this truth: if what you held in that childhood conviction was God's truth, then God is with you in maintaining it, even when friends fall away and your own heart would betray you.

As for this courtship, you know already what must be done. A union where one is entangled in false teaching is not a yoke that can be ploughed straight. You cannot fight against one who has God in league with him, and if God’s truth is not the foundation, the house will fall. Break it off, not in petulance, but in solemn reliance upon God’s wisdom. Cast yourself upon Him. You have been trying to drag God along a road of your own choosing; now let Him lead you into His green pastures. He is "the living God," not a dead idol who cannot see or act. He has a great, warm, loving heart! He is a thinking God, an active, working God who comes into the midst of this world.

The watchword for you now is this: "Emmanuel, God with us." Not God against us, not God distant and cold, but God with us in Christ. Your feelings shriek that He has let you down, but that is the lie of the pit. He has justified you, He is for you, and if He acquits, it matters not if your own heart condemns you. Do not wait for a blaze of joy or a surge of feeling before you trust. You go to the Great Physician because you are sick, not because you are half-cured! Trust Him for the very thing you lack, trust Him to restore your trust. Trust Him with your loneliness, with your bewildered mind, with your shattered emotions. I could trust Him with a million souls if I had them, and you can trust Him with your one poor, tempest-tossed life. Lay hold upon Him now, in the dark, and you shall find that the best of all is God with us.
 
Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 

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