Phualaruurroth
Disciple of Prayer
Repeated pattern of debt dysfunction, hence living in an ###. Ex-husband stays here and another emotional past abuser.
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We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this time of deep struggle and bondage. The patterns of debt, dysfunction, and harmful relationships you describe are not God’s will for your life—He calls His children to freedom, wisdom, and holy living. Let us first address the spiritual and practical strongholds at work here, for the Lord desires to break these chains and restore you to a place of peace, provision, and godly order.
The Bible is clear that debt can become a form of slavery, and repeated financial dysfunction often stems from deeper spiritual or behavioral roots. Proverbs 22:7 warns, *"The rich rules over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender."* This is not God’s design for His children. We must ask: Are there unchecked spending habits, a lack of budgeting, or even a heart of discontentment driving this cycle? Or is this tied to emotional wounds, such as the broken relationships you mentioned, leading to poor decisions? The Lord calls us to stewardship, not slavery. Luke 14:28-30 challenges us to count the cost before building, and 1 Timothy 6:6-8 reminds us that *"godliness with contentment is great gain."* We urge you to seek biblical financial counsel, create a strict budget, and trust God to provide as you walk in obedience. He is faithful to meet our needs (Philippians 4:19), but we must also act wisely.
Now, let us speak plainly about the men in your home. The presence of your ex-husband and another emotionally abusive figure is deeply concerning. Scripture is explicit about the company we keep and the boundaries we must set. 1 Corinthians 15:33 declares, *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals.’"* If these men are not walking in repentance, godliness, and respect for you, their presence is not only unwise but dangerous to your spiritual and emotional well-being. Have you examined whether these relationships are rooted in fear, loneliness, or unhealed wounds rather than godly love and wisdom? The Lord does not call His daughters to endure abuse or live in entanglement with those who do not honor Him or you.
If your ex-husband is not your spouse, his staying in your home is inappropriate and can lead to temptation, confusion, or further harm—especially if there is any emotional or physical intimacy. Hebrews 13:4 states, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If there is any hint of fornication or emotional dependency that dishonors God, this must be repented of immediately. You are called to purity, and your home should be a place of holiness, not compromise. Similarly, if the other man in your life has been abusive, you must seek safety and godly counsel to break free from that cycle. The Lord does not want you in bondage to any man—only to Him.
We also notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we have access to the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we plead with you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord over every area of your life—your finances, your relationships, and your home. Without Christ, there is no true freedom or victory. But in Him, *"the one who the Son sets free is free indeed"* (John 8:36).
Let us pray for you now with urgency and faith:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mighty intervention in her life. Lord, You see the chains of debt, the cycles of dysfunction, and the harmful relationships that have kept her bound. We rebuke every spirit of poverty, confusion, and fear in the name of Jesus, and we declare that You, Lord, are her Provider, her Protector, and her Deliverer. Break the yoke of debt over her life, Father, and give her wisdom to steward her resources according to Your Word. Open doors of provision and close every door that leads to financial bondage.
Lord, we also pray for her heart and her home. If there is any sin—whether fornication, emotional dependency, or ungodly soul ties—we ask for conviction and repentance. Give her the strength to set godly boundaries and remove from her life those who do not honor You or treat her with the dignity of a daughter of the King. Surround her with godly counsel, Father, and heal the wounds that have led her to tolerate what You forbid. Let her home be a place of peace, purity, and Your presence.
Most of all, Lord, if she does not know You as Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation. Softens her heart to receive Christ fully, to surrender every area of her life to His lordship. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom, discernment, and victory.
We declare freedom over her in Jesus’ name—freedom from debt, from abusive relationships, from fear, and from every stronghold of the enemy. Let her life be a testimony of Your redeeming power. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to take immediate steps:
1. **Repent and surrender to Christ** if you have not already. There is no freedom without Him.
2. **Remove ungodly influences** from your home. This may require hard decisions, but obedience brings blessing.
3. **Seek biblical financial counsel**—many churches offer free resources to help break the cycle of debt.
4. **Find a godly support system**—isolating yourself will only perpetuate the cycle. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth and hold you accountable.
5. **Immerse yourself in Scripture**, especially on stewardship (Proverbs, Luke 16), purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5), and God’s provision (Matthew 6:25-34).
You are not meant to live in bondage. The Lord is calling you to so much more—will you trust Him enough to let go of what is holding you back? We are praying for you and standing with you in this fight for freedom. The battle is the Lord’s, and He has already won. Walk in that victory today.
The Bible is clear that debt can become a form of slavery, and repeated financial dysfunction often stems from deeper spiritual or behavioral roots. Proverbs 22:7 warns, *"The rich rules over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender."* This is not God’s design for His children. We must ask: Are there unchecked spending habits, a lack of budgeting, or even a heart of discontentment driving this cycle? Or is this tied to emotional wounds, such as the broken relationships you mentioned, leading to poor decisions? The Lord calls us to stewardship, not slavery. Luke 14:28-30 challenges us to count the cost before building, and 1 Timothy 6:6-8 reminds us that *"godliness with contentment is great gain."* We urge you to seek biblical financial counsel, create a strict budget, and trust God to provide as you walk in obedience. He is faithful to meet our needs (Philippians 4:19), but we must also act wisely.
Now, let us speak plainly about the men in your home. The presence of your ex-husband and another emotionally abusive figure is deeply concerning. Scripture is explicit about the company we keep and the boundaries we must set. 1 Corinthians 15:33 declares, *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals.’"* If these men are not walking in repentance, godliness, and respect for you, their presence is not only unwise but dangerous to your spiritual and emotional well-being. Have you examined whether these relationships are rooted in fear, loneliness, or unhealed wounds rather than godly love and wisdom? The Lord does not call His daughters to endure abuse or live in entanglement with those who do not honor Him or you.
If your ex-husband is not your spouse, his staying in your home is inappropriate and can lead to temptation, confusion, or further harm—especially if there is any emotional or physical intimacy. Hebrews 13:4 states, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If there is any hint of fornication or emotional dependency that dishonors God, this must be repented of immediately. You are called to purity, and your home should be a place of holiness, not compromise. Similarly, if the other man in your life has been abusive, you must seek safety and godly counsel to break free from that cycle. The Lord does not want you in bondage to any man—only to Him.
We also notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we have access to the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we plead with you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord over every area of your life—your finances, your relationships, and your home. Without Christ, there is no true freedom or victory. But in Him, *"the one who the Son sets free is free indeed"* (John 8:36).
Let us pray for you now with urgency and faith:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mighty intervention in her life. Lord, You see the chains of debt, the cycles of dysfunction, and the harmful relationships that have kept her bound. We rebuke every spirit of poverty, confusion, and fear in the name of Jesus, and we declare that You, Lord, are her Provider, her Protector, and her Deliverer. Break the yoke of debt over her life, Father, and give her wisdom to steward her resources according to Your Word. Open doors of provision and close every door that leads to financial bondage.
Lord, we also pray for her heart and her home. If there is any sin—whether fornication, emotional dependency, or ungodly soul ties—we ask for conviction and repentance. Give her the strength to set godly boundaries and remove from her life those who do not honor You or treat her with the dignity of a daughter of the King. Surround her with godly counsel, Father, and heal the wounds that have led her to tolerate what You forbid. Let her home be a place of peace, purity, and Your presence.
Most of all, Lord, if she does not know You as Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation. Softens her heart to receive Christ fully, to surrender every area of her life to His lordship. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom, discernment, and victory.
We declare freedom over her in Jesus’ name—freedom from debt, from abusive relationships, from fear, and from every stronghold of the enemy. Let her life be a testimony of Your redeeming power. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to take immediate steps:
1. **Repent and surrender to Christ** if you have not already. There is no freedom without Him.
2. **Remove ungodly influences** from your home. This may require hard decisions, but obedience brings blessing.
3. **Seek biblical financial counsel**—many churches offer free resources to help break the cycle of debt.
4. **Find a godly support system**—isolating yourself will only perpetuate the cycle. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth and hold you accountable.
5. **Immerse yourself in Scripture**, especially on stewardship (Proverbs, Luke 16), purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5), and God’s provision (Matthew 6:25-34).
You are not meant to live in bondage. The Lord is calling you to so much more—will you trust Him enough to let go of what is holding you back? We are praying for you and standing with you in this fight for freedom. The battle is the Lord’s, and He has already won. Walk in that victory today.
We're right here with you, sister. We see the heavy burden you're carrying - the debt, the dysfunction, and the harmful relationships. It's like you're trying to break free from quicksand, and it's exhausting. But we want you to know, you're not alone. We're lifting you up in prayer, and we're here to encourage you.
First, let's talk about the elephant in the room - your living situation. We understand that it might be complicated, but it's important to remember that God calls us to live in holiness and peace. If your ex-husband and the other man in your life are not respecting your boundaries and honoring God in their actions, it might be time to reevaluate their presence in your home. We're not saying it's easy, but sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is set boundaries to protect ourselves and our homes.
Now, about the debt and financial struggles. We know it's overwhelming, but remember, God promises to provide for our needs. In Matthew 6:25-34, Jesus tells us not to worry about what we'll eat or drink, or about our clothes. He reminds us that our heavenly Father knows what we need. But He also calls us to be wise stewards of what we have. That might mean creating a budget, cutting back on expenses, or even finding additional income. It's not always easy, but with God's help, it's possible.
We also want to encourage you to seek God's face in this. Spend time in prayer, read His Word, and ask Him to guide your steps. He promises in Jeremiah 29:13, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Trust that He sees you, He hears you, and He's working things out for your good.
And remember, we're here for you. We're praying for you, and we're cheering you on. You're not alone in this fight. Together, with God on our side, we can overcome anything. Keep fighting, sister. We believe in you.
First, let's talk about the elephant in the room - your living situation. We understand that it might be complicated, but it's important to remember that God calls us to live in holiness and peace. If your ex-husband and the other man in your life are not respecting your boundaries and honoring God in their actions, it might be time to reevaluate their presence in your home. We're not saying it's easy, but sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is set boundaries to protect ourselves and our homes.
Now, about the debt and financial struggles. We know it's overwhelming, but remember, God promises to provide for our needs. In Matthew 6:25-34, Jesus tells us not to worry about what we'll eat or drink, or about our clothes. He reminds us that our heavenly Father knows what we need. But He also calls us to be wise stewards of what we have. That might mean creating a budget, cutting back on expenses, or even finding additional income. It's not always easy, but with God's help, it's possible.
We also want to encourage you to seek God's face in this. Spend time in prayer, read His Word, and ask Him to guide your steps. He promises in Jeremiah 29:13, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Trust that He sees you, He hears you, and He's working things out for your good.
And remember, we're here for you. We're praying for you, and we're cheering you on. You're not alone in this fight. Together, with God on our side, we can overcome anything. Keep fighting, sister. We believe in you.
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Beloved of All
Praying for this in Jesus Name.
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