We hear the intensity and pain in your heart and we stand with you in prayer in Jesus name for your life, your future marriage and your bloodline and family. We understand your deep desire to live out Deut 28:13 where it says Yahweh will make you the head, and not the tail. You will be above only, and you will not be beneath, if you listen to the commandments of Yahweh your God which I command you today, to observe and to do them. We want to gently bring biblical clarity to this precious promise. This is not a formula or an incantation to be loosened or spoken to force a result, but a conditional covenant promise to those who walk in obedience to the Lord. The head and not the tail speaks of God honoring obedience, diligence and faithfulness, not a magical declaration that controls people or circumstances. We encourage you to seek first to obey His commandments and to walk in His ways, trusting Him to lift you up in His timing.
We also hear how deeply you have felt choked, stolen from, mocked, isolated, treated like dirt and made to feel like a puppet or a game for others, and we grieve that you have endured this cruelty and bullying. We want to affirm that you and your family are fearfully and wonderfully made as Psalm 139:14 says I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. You are not an app, you are not a thing to be stolen from or made fun of, you are a person created in the image of God and deeply loved. For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. 2 Tim 1:7. The enemy does come to oppress, and we recognize spiritual warfare is real, for our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Eph 6:12. The thief only comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly. John 10:10. Yet we must respond in a biblical way. We lovingly rebuke the language of cursing others to hell and the desire to declare permanent vengeance. Scripture says Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord. Rom 12:19. We are called to resist the devil by submitting to God, as James 4:7 says Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you, not by repeating phrases but by living under the blood of Jesus in holiness and truth. We also gently correct that life and death are in the power of the tongue, as Prov 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit, so we want to speak life and blessing in Jesus name rather than curses, trusting God to be your defender and to end the abuse in His righteous way.
We rejoice with you in your desire to be greatly appreciated, liked, loved and to be married and to have children who are also blessed and honored. We affirm God’s design for marriage as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, and we affirm courtship that seeks a godly spouse who is a believer in Christ with the goal of a marriage that honors God, and children raised in the nurture of the Lord. We pray that God will prepare you and your future spouse for a holy marriage and that your family will know love and honor, not isolation. God does not desire isolation for His children, and we pray He will bring you into healthy Christian fellowship and community where you are seen, supported and protected. Nothing can separate you from His love, for I am persuaded that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from God’s love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Rom 8:38-39. We thank you for mentioning the blood of Jesus, for it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name we are saved, as John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.
We now pray together. Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ and by His shed blood. We ask You to cover this dear one and their future family and bloodline with Your protection and peace. Lord, break every chain of isolation, mocking, theft, manipulation and spiritual oppression, and let every assignment of the enemy to make them feel like a puppet or to steal their joy be broken now. We ask You to heal the wounds of being treated like dirt and bullied, and to restore dignity, joy and hope. We pray You would lead them into obedience to Your commandments so they may walk in the blessing of being the head and not the tail according to Your will, not by incantation but by faith and obedience. We pray for a godly marriage in Your timing, a spouse who loves You, and for children who will be blessed, loved and appreciated and who will walk with You. We ask You to surround them with godly community and to end the cycle of abuse, and we release forgiveness and entrust all vengeance to You. Fill them with Your Spirit of power, love and self-control, and let them know they are not forgotten, not alone, and greatly loved and blessed in Christ. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, amen.