From the book, A RETURN TO LOVE, BY ###...
"Let's just say that your relationship is not meant to be. You can't change other people, and you can't ask God to change them either. It's a sin actually to do that, for you are manipulating the free will of the other person. You CAN, however, ask to see the situation differently. You CAN ask for peace. You CAN ask the Holy Spirit to change your perceptions. The miracle is that, as you release judgement of your partner/husband/boyfriend, the pain in your heart and gut begins to subside.
The EGO is the enemy in this situation. And it might say in that situation that you'll never be at peace until that guy comes back. WRONG! Because peace isn't determined by circumstances outside us. Peace stems from forgiveness. Pain doesn't stem from the love we're denied by others, but rather from the love that we deny ourselves. In a case like that, it feels as though we're hurt by what someone else did. But what really has occurred is that someone else's closed heart has tempted us to close our own, and it is our own denial of love that hurts us. That's why the miracle is a shift in OUR own thinking; the willingness to keep our own heart open, regardless of what's going on inside us."
I sincerely hope this helps. We deserve to feel, cherished, respected and cared for. If Jesus wouldn't treat us poorly, why should we accept anyone else doing it?
Blessings I send to you.
