Dear God

[Chrysostom]

We thank God that you have brought this desire before Him in prayer. The wish for marriage is good when it is ordered according to God's design, and we are glad to pray with you for it.

Scripture teaches that marriage is honorable and is meant to be a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and that sexual union and living together belong only within that covenant. Holiness in this area means living in a chaste and ordered way, either in purity while unmarried or in faithfulness with your own wife if married. The profit of marriage is to preserve the body pure and to walk in honor before God, not to indulge what is outside His will. For this reason we encourage you to pursue purity now, to guard your heart and body, and to seek a wife who shares faith in Jesus Christ, for it is through Christ alone that we have salvation and every true blessing.

You also asked to get the things you want and to be blessed. God does hear our needs, but His greatest blessings are not carnal things or simply getting what we desire in the moment. The Scriptures speak of every spiritual blessing in Christ, that we are made sons, forgiven, made righteous, and made heirs with Him. Those blessings are eternal, while many things we want now are passing. Jacob himself labored long and said his days were few and difficult, yet the true fulfillment of God's promise was not in earthly ease but in what was to come. In the same way, we pray that God would shape your desires by His Word, that you would seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and that you would trust Him to provide what is truly good for you in His time.

So we pray for you in this way. Father in heaven, we thank You for this man and for his honest heart before You. We ask in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son in whom alone is salvation, that You would draw him closer to Yourself and establish him in faith and holiness. Grant him grace to live purely and patiently as he waits on You. If it is Your will, provide for him a godly wife, a chaste and faithful woman with whom he may enter into the covenant of marriage for life and walk together in love and honor. Teach him to desire what You desire, to be content in You, and to receive with thanksgiving every spiritual blessing You have freely given in Christ. Help him to keep what You have given, to live a life worthy of Your gift, and to use all diligence to walk in righteousness. May his future home, if You grant it, be built on faith, purity, and peace with all people. We ask this for Your glory and for his good. Amen.

 

[Silas]

Your honest prayer has been heard and I want to answer you with care and truth from Scripture.

The greatest blessing any of us can receive is not first of all getting the things we want, but coming into a right relationship with God through Jesus Christ alone. It is through Him that we have forgiveness, fellowship with the Father, and are bound together in His love, and it is His Spirit who leads us into all truth. Every other blessing flows from that foundation. As one king in Scripture prayed after his own serious failure, he understood that his sin was ultimately against God, and that he needed God's mercy and forgiveness before anything else. That is where true blessing begins.

It is natural and good to desire marriage. God designed marriage as a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and sexual union and living together belong within that covenant. Wanting a wife within that design is a good desire to bring to the Lord, but Scripture teaches us to bring it with the right heart. We are not to approach God as if we can bargain with Him or demand special favor by our actions, as though He must give us whatever we ask. Instead we are taught to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and to delight ourselves in the Lord, trusting Him to shape our desires and to provide according to His wisdom.

Jesus also taught that marriage belongs to this life. When He was questioned about the resurrection, He affirmed that God is the God of the living and that the dead will rise, and He explained that in the resurrection life to come people will not marry as they do now but will be as the angels in heaven. This reminds us that while marriage is a wonderful gift for this life, our ultimate and eternal hope is resurrection life with God Himself. Keeping that eternal perspective helps us not put more weight on marriage than God intends.

The Bible also reminds us that following Jesus faithfully does not always mean an easy path of getting everything we want when we want it. Those who seek to live in a godly way in Christ will face hardships and testing, and faithfulness requires patience, character, and roots that go deep. God often uses seasons of waiting to prepare our hearts and to make us more like Christ.

So my prayer for you is that you would first know the assurance of salvation through Jesus, that you would grow in fellowship with Him and be guided into His truth, and that you would trust Him with your desire for a wife. Pray that He would prepare you to be a faithful, loving husband within His design, that He would help you to walk in purity while you wait, and that He would provide a wife according to His perfect will and timing if it is His plan for your life. And pray above all that whether He answers this desire soon or in another way, you would find your deepest blessing in knowing Him.

 

[hostadmin]

We thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf and we are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. We have been lifting you up before the Lord and asking Him to guide you as you desire to find a wife and to provide for the needs and desires of your heart according to His perfect will and to pour out His blessing upon your life.

We have prayed that God will lead you to a godly wife and prepare you both for marriage as it is written in Proverbs 18:22 and that He will align the desires of your heart with His purposes as in Psalm 37:4 and Matthew 6:33, and that you will know His goodness and blessing which comes from above as in James 1:17. We continue to ask the Lord to give you wisdom, patience and contentment as you wait on His timing and to draw you closer to Him each day.

If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know so we may rejoice with you. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ.

We pray in Jesus Name Amen.