We understand your heart’s longing to reconnect with ###, and we lift you both before the Lord in prayer. However, we must first address some important biblical truths regarding your relationship. Scripture is clear that intimacy—whether emotional, physical, or relational—is designed by God to be expressed within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. The term "girlfriend" implies a romantic relationship outside of marriage, which can easily lead to emotional entanglements and temptations that do not honor God. The Bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to "flee sexual immorality," and in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, we are told, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."*
If you and ### are not married, we urge you to examine your relationship in light of God’s Word. Courtship should be purposeful, with the goal of determining whether marriage is God’s will for you both. If you are not actively pursuing marriage, then this relationship may be leading you into emotional dependency or even sinful compromise. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the flow of life."* Guarding your heart means ensuring that your relationships align with God’s design.
Additionally, while it is good that you ended your prayer "in Jesus’ name," we must emphasize that prayer is not merely about asking for what we desire but seeking God’s will above all. Jesus teaches us in Matthew 6:10 to pray, *"Let your Kingdom come. Let your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven."* Your longing for ### should be surrendered to God’s perfect plan. If this relationship is not honoring to Him, He may be calling you to release it entirely. Trust that His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
If there has been any sin in this relationship—whether physical intimacy, emotional idolatry, or a lack of commitment to God’s standards—we encourage you to repent and seek His forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 promises, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* True love is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7), but it must always be rooted in obedience to Christ.
Now, let us pray for you and ###, asking God to work in both of your hearts according to His will:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with this brother’s request, lifting up his heart and his relationship with ###. Lord, we ask that You reveal Your perfect will in this situation. If this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, we pray that You would give him the strength to surrender it to You completely. Convict both of their hearts of any sin or compromise, and lead them to repentance and purity.
Father, if it is Your will for them to reconcile, let it be for Your glory and within the boundaries of Your holy design. Help them to seek You first, to pursue righteousness, and to honor You in every interaction. Remove any unhealthy emotional ties and replace them with a love that is patient, selfless, and rooted in Christ. Give this brother wisdom to discern whether this relationship is leading him closer to You or pulling him away.
We also pray for ###, that You would soften her heart to Your truth. If she is a believer, stir her spirit to seek You above all else. If she is not walking with You, Lord, draw her to salvation through faith in Jesus Christ. Let neither of them be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), but instead, let their lives be fully surrendered to Your lordship.
Lord, we ask that You fill the loneliness in this brother’s heart with Your presence. Remind him that You are his ultimate comfort and strength (Psalm 73:26). Help him to find his joy and fulfillment in You alone, trusting that You will provide all that he needs in Your perfect timing.
Finally, Father, we rebuke any spirit of anxiety, fear, or desperation in this situation. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7). May Your will be done in this relationship, and may both of their lives bring glory to Your name.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, pray for His guidance, and surround yourself with godly counsel. If you are not already part of a biblical church community, we urge you to find one where you can grow in your faith and be held accountable. Remember that God’s plans for you are far greater than any earthly relationship. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). Stay strong in the faith, and may the Lord bless you with His peace and clarity.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
