Good morning all. As we know I am a bit behind and I missed yesterday as well. Yesterday was a beautiful crazy day. But through it all I thanked Jesus for all that he was revealing to me.
Do you ever sit down and wonder who is being fooled you or the OP or your spouse. I never questioned that, but it has come to my mind today. Yesterday I ended up seeing the ow twice and both times I was driving behind her. She took it that I was trying to stalk her and figure out where she was going when in actuality that wasn’t on my mind. But God, I never had to worry about where she was going because both times that she was going to my h, he texted me and told me. That is how wonderful God is.
Now she feels that she has one over on me. But I know the turmoil she is going through, after all my h already put me through it, but I have loved him (with God’s perfect grace) through my pain.
So the questions is; is my h lying to me or to her? The truth of the matter is that it really doesn’t matter. I used to spend hours upon hours wondering what he is saying to her, envisioning conversations between the two of them where he gets mad and tells her he is still with me, or me answering her text in a way where I don’t say it but leave nothing for her to question. So much wasted time. Yes I still waste some time looking at her posts, but thank you Jesus, not as much and not dwelling on them. He will rid me of that as well, where I will no longer feel the urge to do so. J
So back to the lies, does it really matter if our spouse is lying to us, does it really matter if he is lying to them? One thing I think most of us wrestle with is that he is lying to us but telling the truth to them when he says he loves them and wants to be with them etc. I personally have not had my husband through his relationship in my face recently. But the real truth is that our spouses are caught up in so much lies and deceit and confusion that they don’t even know what they want.
I realized a long time ago that my h was lying and now I find it hard to believe him, but I also realized at the same time that I don’t have to believe them, I have to believe God. God is truth and I have truth on my side. I love my husband through the truth.
- The truth is that he had an affair
- That she is still in the picture, in some form or the other
- That they had a baby
- That he has lied to me
- That he has hurt me
- That he has problems.
But in spite of all of this I love him. This is a relationship built on truth, even if he lies. And the other relationship is built on lies. Even if he is believing them they are lies
- The op can make me happy
- This union will be blessed
- My spouse is crazy
- I never loved you (spouse), which is why I am happier now
- I don’t need or want you
Those are all lies and that is what they are building their new relationship on. It is like the house build on the sand. Remember we like to say that the devil has taken our spouse captive, in some cases that is true in other cases our spouses never knew God to begin with. My h never really had a relationship with God and neither did I. But if we know this and we know the devil is the father of lies and we know that there is no confusion in Jesus. He is love, truth and forgiveness, why worry about the lies our spouse spew.
A while ago I really started feeling sorry for my h, he must be tired trying to keep the lies straight, we know that is a lot of work. He must be tired of trying to balance both me and the ow. And mostly he must be tired of trying to run from the truth and GOD. So I decided to try my hardest that when we are together this is a safe haven for him. I do not go out of me way to antagonize him or the ow. Yes sometimes I mess up but God. I pray for my husband’s peace, I pray for the ow’s peace and I go and Get MY PEACE with my loving Father.
So let’s stop looking at the lies and half-truths that our spouses are saying and living. And just pray for their PEACE and salvation because we know where that comes from. When we are with our spouse let God’s love shine through us and let their time with us be an oasis in the middle of their desert of confusion.
Anthonette.
List of names and marriages
- Joe and Cindy Frank
- Tina and Michael Nadama
- Karen and Tim Davis
- Anthonette And Rudolph Simons and Family
- Kevin and Nancy Owens
- Marriage Covenant Ministries
- Wobanda Felly
- Gary Mayfeild
- Lori And Darryl Vartabedian
- Debroah and Sonny Woods
- Judy Hite
- Richard Willis
- Shawn and Kristen Drennen
- Kim61
- Shanita and DaMon Johnson
- Neta and Chris
- Paula and Allen
- Mandy and Rodrigo Shumacker
- Heather Lueth
- Scott and Crystal
- B.J. and Threasa Scroggins and Family
- Nina and Dennis
- Dilawn and Ryan
- Chandra and Greg
- Adam and Sabrina Lawson
- Karen Savoie
- Beverly Lagana
- Sallie and Andre Clement
- Lisa Dabe
- Wes and Jodi Bailes
- Farah Meza Lopez and Henry Brekvoort
- Carmen and Erin
- Carly and Crystal
- Gina and Ade Olawale
- Diana and Juan Pablo
- Leslee and John Rossotto
- Nick and Sarah McNeill
- Brad and Rosemary Salisnury
- Eric and Crystal Meehan
- Neil and Nancy Quinn
- Stephen and Noelle Mounce
- Barta and Billy Kemp
- Solon and Leah Philips
- Lichelle Whittaker
- Arcy Espana
- Katy and Erine Macias
- Karen and Andre Marias
- Susan and Rob
- Luis and Mattie Bediako
- Scott and Heather Ellis
- Lourdres and Tommy Moore
- Mark and Geeta Arathoon
- Ugo and Tope Osuya
- Tim and Jennie Packard
- Janet and Rodney Whitmore
- Scott and Delores Hanks
- Diana Moreno
- Sheila and Jose Reveron
- shadowofleaves
- AHEMED AND Charmaine Bouchouka
- Kevin and Michelle
- Freddrick and Angela Young Jordan
- Jade and Willie Cordova
- Jessica and Ronald Ndoro
- Pam and Richard Thompson
- Ernest and Nichole Herrere, and children Josiah, Selah, Eliannah, Jude
- David and Elizabeth Barrios
- Krystal and Ervin Arroyo
- Bwire Anne Wanjiku and Chrispinus Bwire
- Chily and Ana Maria Alviar
- Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
- Stephen & Noelle Mounce
- Jack and Kimie Michele Beeching
- Mike and Missy
- Mike and Tami Crites
- Lela and Jeremy
- Ty and Talitha Brittain
- Ben and Lisa Marie
- Benjamin and Lisa Marie Loya
- Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
- Jamie Keeney
- Mark and Jennifer
- Clayton and Elvira Sneed
- Valerie and Ayodeji
- Laquonda Esther Morris and spouse
- Ryan And Misty Phipps
- Timothy and Paula Birmingham
- Shane and Rebecca Bunch
- Paul and Maria
- Mike and Fab
- John and Karen
- Pastor Rob plus his estranged (but not for long) wife
- Jillian and Mike
- Norma And Frank Miller
- Jim & Becci Berry
- Sean and Samantha Archer and family
- Janae Hall and family
- Michael and Candace Felt
- Letichia Christopher and family
- Tim & Chris
- Patricia and Bruce
- Katie and Charlie
- Jamie Richards and her husband
- Jessi and Anthony
- Vicky L Shannon
- Marc and Jane Hintz
- Jason and Jennelle Douglass
- April & Victor Boucher
- Robert and Lydia Patten
- Donna and Steve
- Juan and Sandra Moncada
- Allison And Shimon
- SHEILA AND CHET NORTH
- Ray and Heather
- Kristen Drennen
Father God I come to you on behalf of my h. Please give him peace. Please speak to him as only you can. Let him know that the peace and safety that he is looking for can only come from you. Let him know that there is nothing too great for you accomplish and there is nothing and no one too far gone or broken that you can’t fix. When we are together let your love shine through me so that I can win him without a word. That he sees the difference in me and want me and yeans for the peace I have knowing that it comes from you and only you father. In Jesus name Amen.
