Day 30

Good morning all. There have been posts about restoration and post asking if u are ready for restoration. I find that is an interesting question.


Are You Ready for Restoration?

I know most will say yes. God has worked on me and I am ready. I just want him home. I know how to love him now. Etc. But are u really ready?

It is easy to accept that the ow is in the picture while they are not physically present in the home. It is easy to say I love and miss them while they are in the far country. It is easy to help them while they are not at home. But are u ready for them to come home how they are and still love them?

Yes sometimes God changes them before they come home. He has taken them to the desert and has spoken to them. Yes sometimes they have repented and have changed their ways before they come home. And sometimes God brings them home in the same condition because he need to work on you and him for the final steps. I don't know why God allows them to come home when he does or what condition they will come home in, but I do know that battle is not over till your final breath.

A lot of us have said I just want it to be like it was before. Is it because what we had was so great or is it because what we had was better than what we are going through right now? When we give something to God he doesn’t do a half way job he completely fixes it and adds updates to it. Lol.

We are currently in pain and we idolize what we used to have as being so wonderful and say if only it was like it was, I wish he could love me like he used to. Remember what it used to be like and how he loved you before wasn’t that great which is why we are where we are now. BUT GOD.

When our spouses are returned, are you ready to love them unconditionally or are you going to have conditions on your love? As long as they don’t see ow I will love them. Are you going to wait till your spouse comes home and then after they are there are you going to say well you came back, there will be some changes you can’t do this that or the other.

When our spouses come back they will be confused, and sometimes still involved with the ow. If they are not involved with them they will be missing them and/or mourning that relationship. Sometimes they may feel it wasn’t their choice to come back, the ow left them etc. So be ready for whatever is about to happen.

So I guess you are wondering how are you supposed to be ready for what happens. Easy!!! Sit down and talk to ABBA. Run every possible bad scenario pass ABBA and ask him what am I supposed to do if this happens or if that happens. I don’t have the answers, but I do know who does.

I talk to ABBA about a lot of things, like what if H comes home and he refuses to help out with the bills, what if h comes home and the ow shows up at my house, what if h comes home and he is still seeing her. The one consistent reply I get is to love him. I told someone to trust you h no matter what. I may have used the wrong word, but believe no matter what and love unconditionally and leave the rest up to ABBA. Yes they will do things to see if you really have changed. They will test you, they will hurt you, it will not be a bed of roses; but even if you never went through a separation it won’t be a bed of roses. But you now know where you strength comes from. Not your husbands and not their actions. But from ABBA. Your spouse will push your buttons to see if you have really changed. To see if you are really living what you are saying. If you are going to react the same way, so is he. I know most will say well yes I lost it but he hasn’t changed, he can’t expect things to be different if he is not going to change. He can’t expect XYZ if he isn’t going to try to meet me half way and do ABC. But I can assure you they are not going to change until they are sure you are changed, and eventually by you giving them your love and trust they will start to want more and more of it and do things to earn more and more of it.

Your spouse coming home isn’t the end of the battle for you marriage and it is definitely not the end of the battle for his soul, and after all isn’t that what it is really about. SO even after they are home and all of the things that were easier , not easy, to tolerate, because they were not in your face are going to be constant and that is when you have to pray harder and harder, because Satan is not going to give up without a fight.

Anthonette.

List of names and marriages

1. Joe and Cindy Frank
   
2. Tina and Michael Nadama
   
3. Karen and Tim Davis
   
4. Anthonette And Rudolph Simons and Family
   
5. Kevin and Nancy Owens
   
6. Marriage Covenant Ministries
   
7. Wobanda Felly
   
8. Gary Mayfeild
   
9. Lori And Darryl Vartabedian
   
10. Debroah and Sonny Woods
    
11. Judy Hite
    
12. Richard Willis
    
13. Shawn and Kristen Drennen
    
14. Kim61
    
15. Shanita and DaMon Johnson
    
16. Neta and Chris
    
17. Paula and Allen
    
18. Mandy and Rodrigo Shumacker
    
19. Heather Lueth
    
20. Scott and Crystal
    
21. B.J. and Threasa Scroggins and Family
    
22. Nina and Dennis
    
23. Dilawn and Ryan
    
24. Chandra and Greg
    
25. Adam and Sabrina Lawson
    
26. Karen Savoie
    
27. Beverly Lagana
    
28. Sallie and Andre Clement
    
29. Lisa Dabe
    
30. Wes and Jodi Bailes
    
31. Farah Meza Lopez and Henry Brekvoort
    
32. Carmen and Erin
    
33. Carly and Crystal
    
34. Gina and Ade Olawale
    
35. Diana and Juan Pablo
    
36. Leslee and John Rossotto
    
37. Nick and Sarah McNeill
    
38. Brad and Rosemary Salisnury
    
39. Eric and Crystal Meehan
    
40. Neil and Nancy Quinn
    
41. Stephen and Noelle Mounce
    
42. Barta and Billy Kemp
    
43. Solon and Leah Philips
    
44. Lichelle Whittaker
    
45. Arcy Espana
    
46. Katy and Erine Macias
    
47. Karen and Andre Marias
    
48. Susan and Rob
    
49. Luis and Mattie Bediako
    
50. Scott and Heather Ellis
    
51. Lourdres and Tommy Moore
    
52. Mark and Geeta Arathoon
    
53. Ugo and Tope Osuya
    
54. Tim and Jennie Packard
    
55. Janet and Rodney Whitmore
    
56. Scott and Delores Hanks
    
57. Diana Moreno
    
58. Sheila and Jose Reveron
    
59. shadowofleaves
    
60. AHEMED AND Charmaine Bouchouka
    
61. Kevin and Michelle
    
62. Freddrick and Angela Young Jordan
    
63. Jade and Willie Cordova
    
64. Jessica and Ronald Ndoro
    
65. Pam and Richard Thompson
    
66. Ernest and Nichole Herrere, and children Josiah, Selah, Eliannah, Jude
    
67. David and Elizabeth Barrios
    
68. Krystal and Ervin Arroyo
    
69. Bwire Anne Wanjiku and Chrispinus Bwire
    
70. Chily and Ana Maria Alviar
    
71. Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
    
72. Stephen & Noelle Mounce
    
73. Jack and Kimie Michele Beeching
    
74. Mike and Missy
    
75. Mike and Tami Crites
    
76. Lela and Jeremy
    
77. Ty and Talitha Brittain
    
78. Ben and Lisa Marie
    
79. Benjamin and Lisa Marie Loya
    
80. Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
    
81. Jamie Keeney
    
82. Mark and Jennifer
    
83. Clayton and Elvira Sneed
    
84. Valerie and Ayodeji
    
85. Laquonda Esther Morris and spouse
    
86. Ryan And Misty Phipps
    
87. Timothy and Paula Birmingham
    
88. Shane and Rebecca Bunch
    
89. Paul and Maria
    
90. Mike and Fab
    
91. John and Karen
    
92. Pastor Rob plus his estranged (but not for long) wife
    
93. Jillian and Mike
    
94. Norma And Frank Miller
    
95. Jim & Becci Berry
    
96. Sean and Samantha Archer and family
    
97. Janae Hall and family
    
98. Michael and Candace Felt
    
99. Letichia Christopher and family
    
100. Tim & Chris
     
101. Patricia and Bruce
     
102. Katie and Charlie
     
103. Jamie Richards and her husband
     
104. Jessi and Anthony

Father God help me with helping others, prepare me for my suddenly and remind me the battle isn’t over just because they have come home. Prepare me for the work that you need me to do and give me guidance, love strength and wisdom to face whatever come my way. . In Jesus name Amen.

 

[allibear86]

Please Add My Name And My Husbands Name. Allison And Shimon.Thank You And God Bless you

 

[sheilanoka]

What a beautiful post Anthonette! I felt God spoke to me through your post. . I have been praying for my husband's salvation and marriage restoration. I hope you could include me and my husband in your list. SHEILA AND CHET NORTH.



Thank you very much and abundant blessings to you!



Sheila

 

[ARHicks]

Can remember me and mine in yr prayers. Ray and Heather

 

[Matthewd]

Please add Matthew and Yvonne to your list. God bless you for your prayers.