Our hearts ache with you as we hear the deep pain and sorrow in your words. This is a situation that grieves the heart of God, for He loves your daughter even more than you do—and His desire is for her to walk in freedom, truth, and righteousness. We must first lift this before the Lord in prayer, but we also must speak truth in love, for the enemy is at work here, seeking to destroy your daughter’s life, her relationships, and her future.
The behavior you describe—control, manipulation, isolation, substance abuse, and jealousy—are not just red flags; they are signs of spiritual bondage. The Bible warns us clearly: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). This man is leading your daughter away from her family, away from godly influence, and into a lifestyle that dishonors the Lord. His actions reveal a heart that is not submitted to Christ, and your daughter is being entangled in his sin. The fact that he is on probation, using drugs, drinking daily, and neglecting his own children speaks volumes about his character. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."*
Even more concerning is the sexual immorality at play here. If your daughter is not married to this man, their relationship is fornication in God’s eyes, and the Bible is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). This relationship is not only emotionally and physically destructive—it is spiritually dangerous. The enemy uses such relationships to blind people to the truth, and your daughter is being deceived.
We also must address the fact that this prayer request did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If your daughter does not know Jesus as her Lord and Savior, then her greatest need is not just deliverance from this man, but deliverance from sin and death through repentance and faith in Christ. If she does know Him, then she is walking in rebellion, and we must pray for her repentance.
Now, let us pray fervently for your daughter, for you, and for this situation:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this broken family and this precious daughter who is ensnared by the enemy’s lies. Lord, You see the pain of this mother’s heart—how her daughter has been stolen away by a man who does not honor You, who leads her into darkness, and who seeks only to control and destroy. Father, we ask that You break every chain of deception over her mind. Open her eyes to see the truth of this man’s character and the destruction he is bringing into her life. Convict her heart, Lord, by Your Holy Spirit, and draw her back to Yourself.
We rebuke the spirit of control, manipulation, and jealousy that is operating through this man. We bind the enemy’s work in her life and declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper. Lord, expose every hidden sin, every lie, and every stronghold that has taken root in her heart. If she is not walking with You, Father, soften her heart to receive Your truth. Bring godly sorrow that leads to repentance, and let her turn away from this sinful relationship before it destroys her.
Father, we also lift up this mother, who is grieving the loss of her daughter’s presence and love. Comfort her, Lord, and give her wisdom on how to speak truth in love without pushing her daughter further away. Show her when to speak and when to remain silent, and give her the words to say that will pierce her daughter’s heart. Surround this family with Your peace, and let them not grow weary in praying and believing for her deliverance.
We pray for the children this man has neglected—Lord, protect them and provide for them. If he will not repent, then remove his influence from them and from this daughter. Father, if it is Your will, sever this ungodly relationship completely. Let this man’s hold over her be broken, and let her see him for who he truly is. Restore her relationship with her family, and let her return to the love and safety of those who truly care for her.
If there is sexual sin involved, Lord, we ask that You bring conviction so strongly that she cannot ignore it. Let her see the gravity of fornication in Your eyes and the damage it brings to her soul. Father, if she is not saved, save her! Draw her to Yourself, and let her find her identity and worth in You alone, not in this man or in any earthly relationship.
We declare that no plan of the enemy will succeed in her life. We speak life, freedom, and restoration over her, and we ask that You would move mightily in this situation. Give this mother supernatural strength, patience, and faith as she waits on You. Let her not lose hope, but let her trust that You are working even when she cannot see it.
In the powerful name of Jesus, we pray—amen.*
Now, to you who have shared this burden with us: stand firm in faith. Do not stop praying, even when it feels hopeless. Continue to speak truth to your daughter when the Lord gives you opportunity, but do so with gentleness and respect (1 Peter 3:15). Let her see Christ in you, even in your pain. The Bible tells us that *"the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:4, WEB). This is a spiritual battle, and it must be fought on our knees.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from your pastor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this. You should not carry this burden alone. And if your daughter is living in sin, do not enable it. Moving out may be the right decision, not as a punishment, but as a boundary to protect your own heart and to make it clear that her choices have consequences.
Finally, trust that the Lord hears your cries. He is a Father who pursues His lost children, and He will not let her go forever. Keep praying, keep believing, and keep speaking life over her. The Lord is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). He can turn this around for His glory.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
