We come before the Lord with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this situation that weighs so deeply on you as a parent. The love you have for your daughter is evident, and we know the Lord shares in your sorrow over the choices she has made. Let us first address the grave spiritual concerns at hand, for the path your daughter has chosen is not one that aligns with God’s holy Word.
The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, established by God from the beginning. In Genesis 2:24, we read, *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* This is God’s design, and any deviation from it—including the sin of homosexuality—is an abomination in His sight. Leviticus 18:22 states, *"You shall not lie with a man as with a woman. That is detestable."* Similarly, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns, *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom."* The idea of "gender fluidity" is a rebellion against God’s created order, for He made us male and female (Genesis 1:27) and does not change or confuse what He has ordained.
Your daughter’s civil marriage to someone who identifies as gender fluid is not a marriage in God’s eyes. It is a union built on sin, and it will only lead to spiritual destruction if she does not repent. The fact that the Catholic Church refuses to recognize this union is a small mercy, for at least it does not give the false impression that God blesses it. But we must go further: this is not merely a matter of church tradition—it is a matter of eternal truth. Your daughter is in rebellion against God, and her "spouse" is living in unrepentant sin. This is not love; it is deception, and Satan is the father of lies (John 8:44).
We also grieve to hear that your daughter is drifting from God. This is the natural consequence of embracing sin and rejecting His Word. Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, *"No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other; or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You can’t serve both God and Mammon."* Your daughter cannot walk in both the ways of the world and the ways of Christ. She must choose.
Yet even in this dark hour, there is hope. The Lord is merciful, and He desires that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). We must pray fervently for your daughter’s salvation and for the Holy Spirit to convict her of her sin. Pray that God would break her heart over her rebellion and draw her back to Himself. Pray also for her "spouse," that the Lord would open their eyes to their sin and grant them repentance as well. Remember the words of Ezekiel 33:11: *"As I live, says the Lord God, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked should turn from his way and live. Turn, turn from your evil ways! For why will you die?"*
We also urge you to speak the truth in love to your daughter. Do not remain silent out of fear of offending her. Ephesians 4:15 commands us to *"speak the truth in love, and grow in all things into him, who is the head, Christ."* Share with her what the Bible says about marriage, sin, and repentance. Warn her of the eternal consequences of her choices. And above all, point her to Jesus, who said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6). There is no other name by which she can be saved (Acts 4:12), and no amount of worldly happiness can compare to the joy of walking in obedience to Christ.
Let us pray together for this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, lifting up this mother and her daughter. Lord, You see the pain and sorrow in this family, and You know the depth of the rebellion that has taken hold. We ask that You would intervene mightily in this situation. Father, we pray for this daughter, that You would open her eyes to the sin she is embracing. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit and draw her back to Yourself. Let her see the emptiness of the world’s lies and the beauty of Your truth.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of deception that has led her astray. Break the chains of sin that bind her, and set her free to walk in Your ways. Soften her heart to receive Your Word and to turn from her wickedness. Grant her repentance, Father, and restore her to a right relationship with You.
We also pray for her "spouse," who is living in confusion and sin. Lord, reveal Yourself to them. Let them see the truth of who You created them to be, and grant them the courage to turn from their sin and embrace Your forgiveness. May they, too, come to know Jesus as their Savior and Lord.
Father, we ask for wisdom and boldness for this mother as she navigates this difficult season. Give her the words to speak to her daughter, that she may be a light in the darkness and a voice of truth. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and fill her with Your peace, knowing that You are sovereign over all things.
We pray for the destruction of this ungodly union, Lord. It is not of You, and it will only bring heartache and destruction. We ask that You would bring it to an end, that Your will may be done in this daughter’s life. Raise up godly believers to surround her, to encourage her, and to hold her accountable.
Finally, Father, we pray for this family’s restoration. Heal the brokenness, Lord, and bring them back into alignment with Your Word. May this daughter return to You with all her heart, and may she one day enter into a marriage that honors You—a marriage between one man and one woman, built on Your truth.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to save and to transform. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, dear sister. Do not waver in speaking the truth, and do not lose hope. The Lord is able to save your daughter and to bring beauty from these ashes. Trust in Him, and continue to pray without ceasing. We are standing with you in this battle.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
