Our hearts ache deeply for the pain and sorrow you are carrying, and we are grieved by the brokenness in your relationships, marriage, and circumstances. Yet we know that nothing is beyond the redeeming power of our Lord Jesus Christ, who came to heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds (Isaiah 61:1). Let us first address the most urgent matters before the Lord, for He is faithful to restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25) when we turn to Him in repentance and faith.
We must gently but firmly speak truth into the estrangement with your daughter. While we do not know the full history, Scripture commands children to honor their father and mother (Ephesians 6:2), and it is not honoring for her to ignore you, especially in the house of God. However, we must also examine our own hearts, for Scripture warns that a harsh word stirs up anger, but a soft answer turns away wrath (Proverbs 15:1). Have there been unresolved conflicts, unrepentant sins, or bitterness on either side that has fueled this division? The Lord calls us to be peacemakers (Matthew 5:9), and sometimes that begins with humbling ourselves—even when we believe we are in the right. Consider writing your daughter a letter (not an email or text, but a handwritten note) expressing your love for her, your sorrow over the distance between you, and your desire for reconciliation. Do not accuse or defend, but simply extend grace. Ask forgiveness for any ways you may have failed her, and assure her of your love. Then trust the Lord to work in her heart. Pray earnestly for her, that God would soften her heart and convict her if there is unrepented sin in her life. Remember, the battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces (Ephesians 6:12), so we must fight on our knees in prayer, not with human strategies.
As for your marriage, we must speak plainly: the behavior you describe from your husband is not godly, nor is it acceptable for a man who claims to follow Christ. A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with kindness (Ephesians 5:25). His harsh words and emotional cruelty are sinful and grieve the heart of God. However, we must also ask: have you submitted this pain to the Lord, or have you allowed bitterness to take root? Bitterness is a poison that destroys the one who drinks it (Hebrews 12:15). We urge you to forgive your husband, not because he deserves it, but because Christ has forgiven you. This does not mean excusing his sin or enabling his behavior, but it means releasing the debt to God, who is the just Judge.
That said, you must also address this with your husband directly and, if necessary, with the help of your pastor or a biblical counselor. If he is unwilling to repent and change, the church has a responsibility to hold him accountable (Matthew 18:15-17). You cannot change his heart, but God can. Pray for his repentance, and ask the Lord to give you wisdom on how to respond to him in a way that honors Christ. If he is verbally abusive, set boundaries where possible, but do so with a heart that seeks his redemption, not his punishment.
Regarding your finances, we understand the stress of living with unmet needs, but we must remind you that our trust is not in money or inheritance, but in the Lord who provides (Matthew 6:25-34). It is clear that the depletion of your inheritance has caused deep resentment, and we urge you to release this to the Lord. Resentment will only bring more sorrow. Instead, ask God to provide for your needs—whether through unexpected means, the generosity of believers, or even through the sale of unnecessary possessions. He is faithful. As for your home, pray for the Lord’s provision, but also consider if there are small, manageable repairs you can do yourself or with the help of others in your church. Do not be afraid to ask for help; the body of Christ is meant to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2).
Lastly, we must address the depression and loneliness you feel. These are real and painful, but they must not be allowed to define you. Your identity is in Christ, who calls you beloved, redeemed, and chosen (1 Peter 2:9). Depression often comes from focusing inward; we urge you to shift your gaze to the Lord and to others. Serve where you can, even in small ways. Pour out your heart to God in prayer and worship, for He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). If your health allows, increase your time in Scripture and in fellowship with other believers who can encourage you.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mercy and intervention in her life. Lord, You see the depth of her pain—the estrangement from her daughter, the brokenness in her marriage, the stress of financial lack, and the weight of depression. We ask that You would move mightily in each of these areas. Soften the heart of her daughter, Lord. Convict her of any sin that has driven this wedge between them, and give our sister the wisdom and humility to pursue reconciliation in a way that honors You. Break the spirit of division and bitterness, and restore this relationship for Your glory.
Father, we rebuked the enemy’s work in her marriage. Her husband’s words and actions are not of You, and we ask that You would bring him to repentance. Give him a heart of flesh, Lord, that he may love his wife as Christ loves the church. Give our sister the strength to forgive, the wisdom to set godly boundaries, and the courage to seek help if needed. Let Your peace rule in their home, and let Your Word be their guide.
Lord, You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides. We ask that You would meet their financial needs in ways that surpass their understanding. Open doors for repair of their home, provide for her health, and give them daily bread. Help her to trust You fully, casting all her anxieties on You because You care for her (1 Peter 5:7).
Finally, Father, lift the heaviness of depression from her. Fill her with Your joy and peace as she trusts in You. Surround her with Your presence and Your people. Let her know she is not alone, for You are with her always.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
