We understand the deep frustration and weariness you’re feeling, and we want to encourage you to lift your eyes above these struggles, for the Lord has a perfect plan for your life—one that doesn’t depend on algorithms, subscriptions, or the fleeting attention of others. Your worth is not determined by how many men notice your profile or whether an app "works" for you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and He has already prepared a path for you that is good and pleasing to His will.
First, let us address the jealousy you mentioned. The Bible warns us against comparing ourselves to others, for it only leads to bitterness and discontent. *2 Corinthians 10:12* says, *"For we are not bold to number or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves. However, they, measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves with themselves, are without understanding."* And *Galatians 6:4-5* reminds us, *"But let each man examine his own work, and then he will have reason to boast in himself and not in someone else. For each man will bear his own burden."* Your journey is unique, and God’s timing is perfect. Trust that He is working even in this season of waiting.
We also want to gently remind you that online dating, while a tool some use, is not the only—or even the best—way to meet a godly spouse. In fact, it often fosters superficial connections and can expose people to dishonesty, as you’ve experienced with "bums and smooth talkers." Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Perhaps God is redirecting you away from these platforms for your own protection and to lead you into a season where He can prepare you—and your future spouse—in ways you cannot yet see.
Now, let’s discuss practical, biblical ways to meet godly men without relying on dating apps or even the limited pools of church and work. First, we encourage you to expand your involvement in **ministry and service**. Are there Christian volunteer organizations, mission trips, or Bible study groups in your area? Serving alongside other believers is a powerful way to meet men who are actively living out their faith. *1 Corinthians 15:58* says, *"Be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the Lord’s work, because you know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord."* When you focus on serving God, He often brings the right people into your life at the right time.
Second, consider **expanding your social circles** in ways that align with your interests and values. Are there Christian conferences, retreats, or young adult groups you could join? What about classes or hobbies (like cooking, hiking, or book clubs) where you might meet like-minded believers? *Proverbs 13:20* says, *"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* Surrounding yourself with godly community increases the likelihood of meeting men who share your faith and values.
Third, we urge you to **pray specifically and expectantly** for your future husband. Ask God to prepare *both* of your hearts, to grow you in patience, and to open doors for connection in His timing. *Matthew 7:7* says, *"Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you."* But remember, this isn’t just about finding a spouse—it’s about becoming the woman God has called you to be *while* you wait. Are there areas of your character, faith, or daily life where God is calling you to grow? Use this season to draw closer to Him.
We must also address something critical: **guard your heart**. The disappointment you’ve faced can lead to cynicism or desperation, but *Proverbs 4:23* warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is every issue of life."* Don’t allow bitterness to take root. Instead, surrender your desires to God daily. *Psalm 37:4-5* says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."*
Lastly, we want to remind you that marriage is a *gift*, but it is not the ultimate goal of your life. Your ultimate purpose is to glorify God, whether single or married. *1 Corinthians 7:32-34* says, *"But I desire to have you to be free from cares. He who is unmarried is concerned for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but he who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife."* If God has marriage in store for you, He will bring it to pass in His perfect time. Until then, seek to live fully for Him.
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**Let us pray together for you:**
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her heartache, her weariness, and her deep desire for a godly marriage. Lord, we ask that You would comfort her and remind her that she is *seen* by You—fully known and deeply loved. Forgive her for any jealousy or bitterness that has taken root, and replace it with trust in Your perfect plan.
Father, we pray that You would open doors for her to meet godly, marriage-minded men in ways that honor You. Lead her to communities, ministries, and opportunities where she can serve You wholeheartedly and where You can orchestrate divine connections. Give her wisdom to recognize men of integrity and discernment to avoid those who would waste her time or lead her astray.
Prepare her heart, Lord, for the husband You have for her. Grow her in patience, faith, and contentment as she waits. Help her to delight herself in You above all else, knowing that You are her greatest joy and portion. If there are areas in her life where she needs to grow or surrender, reveal them to her and give her the strength to obey.
We rebuke the enemy’s lies that she is unnoticed, unwanted, or that her time has passed. You, Lord, are the author of her story, and You hold her future. We declare that her hope is in You alone, and we trust that You will fulfill Your promises in her life.
Finally, Father, we pray that You would protect her from despair and fill her with Your peace. Let this season of waiting be a season of deep spiritual growth, where she draws closer to You than ever before. May her life be a testimony of Your faithfulness, whether in singleness or marriage.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
