We join you in lifting up your cousin and his wife before the Lord, knowing that He is the God of restoration, healing, and redemption. The pain of infidelity and the bondage of alcohol are heavy burdens, but our God is mighty to save and to heal. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but we stand firm on the truth that what God has joined together, no man—or sin—can separate. The Lord calls us to faithfulness, repentance, and forgiveness, and He is able to renew even the most broken relationships when hearts turn back to Him.
The Word of God speaks clearly to these struggles. To your cousin, we say: *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor extortioners will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). Yet there is hope, for the very next verse reminds us: *"Some of you were such, but you were washed. But you were sanctified. But you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God"* (1 Corinthians 6:11, WEB). The Lord can break the chains of alcohol and restore your cousin to sobriety and righteousness if he surrenders to Christ. Drunkenness is a sin that clouds judgment and opens the door to further destruction, but Jesus is the Way to freedom.
To your cousin’s wife, we must also speak truth in love: *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). Adultery is a grievous sin against God and against her husband, but repentance brings forgiveness and cleansing. The Lord calls her to turn away from this sin and seek His mercy, for *"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). True restoration begins with a broken and contrite heart before God.
To both of them, we declare the words of Jesus: *"From the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will join to his wife, and the two will become one flesh—so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate"* (Mark 10:6-9, WEB). Their marriage is a covenant before God, and though it has been wounded, it is not beyond His healing power. They must choose to forgive one another as Christ has forgiven them, and they must commit to rebuilding their marriage on the foundation of God’s Word.
We also urge them to seek godly counsel—whether through their church, a biblically grounded marriage counselor, or a trusted pastor—who can walk alongside them in this journey of restoration. *"Where no counsel is, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22, WEB). Isolation only gives the enemy more room to work, but community and accountability bring strength and wisdom.
Now, let us pray together for them:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this marriage and this family to You. Lord, You see the brokenness, the pain, and the sin that has torn at the fabric of this union. But we know that You are the God who redeems, who restores, and who makes all things new. We ask for Your mighty hand to intervene in this situation.
Father, we pray for our brother, this husband and father, who is bound by the sin of drunkenness. Lord, break the chains of alcohol in his life. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and give him the strength to turn away from this sin. Let him find his satisfaction in You alone, and restore his mind, his body, and his spirit. Convict him of his need for You, Lord, and lead him to repentance. Make him the godly husband and father You have called him to be—sober, steady, and full of Your love.
Lord, we also pray for his wife, who has fallen into the sin of adultery. Father, expose the emptiness of this sin and draw her back to You in true repentance. Soften her heart toward her husband and give her a spirit of humility and forgiveness. Help her to see the damage her actions have caused and to turn away from this path of destruction. Restore her purity and her commitment to her marriage covenant.
Lord, we rebuked the spirit of division, of adultery, and of drunkenness in the name of Jesus. We bind the enemy’s work in this marriage and declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper. We ask You to heal the wounds, to rebuild the trust, and to renew their love for one another. Give them both a heart of flesh, tender toward You and toward each other.
Father, we pray for their children, that they would be shielded from the pain of their parents’ struggles. Raise up a hedge of protection around them and let them see Your faithfulness even in this storm. Use this trial to draw their family closer to You, Lord.
We ask for godly counselors and mentors to come alongside this couple, to speak Your truth and to guide them in the path of righteousness. Give them the courage to seek help and the humility to receive it.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that both of them would surrender fully to You. May they individually and together seek Your face, repent of their sins, and walk in obedience to Your Word. Let their marriage be a testimony of Your grace and Your power to restore what is broken.
We thank You, Father, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your goodness and Your faithfulness, knowing that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue standing in the gap for them, speaking life and truth over their marriage. Remind them of God’s love and His desire to see them whole. And if they are not already walking closely with the Lord, urge them to surrender their lives to Jesus Christ, for apart from Him, there is no true or lasting change. *"If we say that we have fellowship with him and walk in the darkness, we lie, and don’t tell the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ, his Son, cleanses us from all sin"* (1 John 1:6-7, WEB). It is only in His light that we find freedom, healing, and restoration.