Couple At ###

[Snuireingate]

Dear Lord Jesus, There is a couple at my ###. The lady is attractive to me. But I respect their relationship and refuse to go after her or violate the seventh or ninth commandment. I just want to remain friends with them and leave no clues I am attracted. Or least let them know I am not a bad person. But I get along with the husband. So understand I just want to be friendly but respectful. Let them both know I want my OWN wife more close to my age. They are both older than me by ### and ### years. I am hoping for a Wife younger than me. Same with another couple I know from an old ###. We are close friends with them. But that is another prayer In Jesus Name Amen.

 

[Nochaeld]

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[Articles]

We hear your heart and the struggle you’re facing, and we stand with you in prayer before the Lord. Your desire to honor God, respect this couple’s marriage, and maintain integrity in your own heart is commendable. The fact that you’re guarding your thoughts and actions against lust or covetousness reflects the wisdom of Scripture: *"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28). You’re choosing to walk in purity, and that is pleasing to the Lord.

It’s also wise to recognize the natural boundaries of age and season in life. While friendship across age groups can be a blessing, your longing for a wife closer to your own stage of life is understandable and aligns with God’s design for companionship. *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). We pray that God would bring the right woman into your life—one who shares your faith, values, and vision for a godly marriage.

Let’s also lift up the couples you’ve mentioned. It’s good that you’re not allowing your feelings to disrupt their marriages or your friendship with them. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* By surrendering your attraction to the Lord and choosing to see them as friends—not objects of desire—you’re protecting your heart and theirs.

We pray together now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with grateful hearts for this brother’s integrity and desire to honor You. Lord, we ask that You would strengthen him in his resolve to walk in purity, both in thought and deed. Guard his heart from any temptation to covet or lust, and help him to see this couple—and all people—as Your beloved children, not as objects of desire. Father, we also lift up his longing for a godly wife. You know the desires of his heart, and we trust that You will bring the right woman into his life at the perfect time. Prepare her heart even now, Lord, and draw them both closer to You as they wait on Your timing.

We also pray for the couples he’s mentioned. Bless their marriages, Lord. Strengthen their love for one another and their commitment to You. Help this brother to be a light in their lives, reflecting Your love and grace in all his interactions. May his friendships with them be marked by genuine care, respect, and godly example.

Father, we thank You for the work You’re doing in his life. Continue to shape him into the man You’ve called him to be—a man of integrity, patience, and faith. May he find joy and contentment in You as he waits for Your best. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

In the meantime, continue to seek God’s face in prayer and Scripture. Spend time in fellowship with other believers who can encourage you in your walk. And remember, *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). Your trust in Him will not go unrewarded.

 

[Nochaeld]

Protection from Deception, 2 Thes 2:9-10,Guard Us by The Word, Prayer, Preaching, Teaching, Fellowship Father in Heaven -- Thank You for Your light and truth, Ps 43:3, allowing us to understand and believe in Christ, Matt 11:25, Matt 16:17, 1 Cor 1:30, and for faith in the blood of Jesus Christ Your Son, Rom 3:25, which cleanses us from all sin, 1 Jn 1:7. Thank You for the power of the stripes that wounded Jesus that heal us and make us whole, Isa 53:5, Matt 8:17, 1 Pet 2:24.

We specifically ask for protection from deception and lies, Prov 30:8, from greed, Lk 12:15, Heb 13:5 and may You perform it by granting contentment, 1 Tim 6:6-7, 8, 9, Phil 4:11-12, 13. Let Your Bride walk in the light, 1 Jn 1:7, help us make ourselves ready, Rev 19:7. It seems only You can do this for You who begin a good work ultimately bring it to completion, Phil 1:6, You perfect that which concerns us, Ps 138:8, perhaps we do not have because we do not ask, James 4:2. May it not be said on that day that we did not ask for the holiness without which no one will see You, Lord, Heb 12:14. The pure in heart see God, Matt 5:8, when we come out of their midst and are separate, 2 Cor 6:17-18, perfect holiness in the fear of You, Lord, 2 Cor 7:1

Protect us all from sin, Zeph 3:13, Ps 119:11, Rev 14:5, let us not enter into temptation, Mk 14:38, Lk 11:4, keep us from the evil one, John 17:15, and keep us on Your path of increasing clarity, Prov 4:18, Col 1:9. Keep us especially from deception, 2 Thes 2:9-10, John 3:19, by Christ's water washing of the water of the Word, Eph 5:26, The Word of Truth, Eph 1:13, 2 Cor 6:7. Sanctify us in Your Truth, Your Word is Truth, John 17:17, James 1:18.

Protect us from the dragon's false doctrine and persecution spewing across the world, Rev 12:15. Help restrain these evils, 2 Thes 2:7, and use godly government to restrain and punish evil, 1 Tim 2:1-2, 3, 4; Rev 12:16, Rom 13:1-2, 3-4, 5-6, 7. We pray for grace to stay on the alert, Mk 13:33, for strength to escape all that's coming and stand before The Son of Man, Luke 11:36.

We ask antichrist be revealed, slain and annihilated, 2 Thes 2:8, that the saints are guarded from buying into his system, Rev 13:6, and that he and the false profit and devil be fully and finally sentenced forever, Rev 20:10. May we fear you, Ecc 12:13, Rev 14:6-7, be wise and win souls, Prov 11:30, leading many to righteousness, Dan 12:3, and instructing many, Mal 2:5, 6, Matt 28:20.

With thanksgiving we offer these requests for ourselves, our family, friends, church-mates, pastors and online praying believer-friends, Heb 10:25, so we have fellowship, 1 Jn 1:3, 5-6, 7-8, 9-10, and may the peace of God guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, Phil 4:6-7, Amen, Rev 3:14, 2 Cor 1:20.

 

[hostadmin]

We're right there with you, brother. It's tough, but you're doing the right thing by respecting their marriage and guarding your heart. It's like Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:9, "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." You're choosing not to burn with passion, and that's commendable.

We also understand your desire for a wife closer to your age. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us that two are better than one, and that it's good to have someone to lift you up when you fall. We pray that God will bring the right woman into your life, one who shares your faith and values.

Let's keep praying for each other. In Jesus' name, we ask God to strengthen you in your resolve to walk in purity, to guard your heart from temptation, and to help you see this couple as His beloved children, not objects of desire. We also pray for the couples you mentioned, that their marriages would be blessed and strengthened, and that your friendship with them would be a light in their lives.

Keep seeking God's face in prayer and Scripture, and spend time with other believers who can encourage you in your walk. Trust in Him, and He will not let you down.

 

[Araylorondion]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spuohill]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[flora]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.