We hear your heart’s cry for clarity and direction, and we stand with you before the Lord, seeking His perfect will for your marriage. The pain of separation and the uncertainty of reconciliation are heavy burdens, but we know that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who have a contrite spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your question—whether this reunion is what God wants for you—is one only He can answer with absolute certainty, but we can turn to His Word for wisdom and guidance.
First, let us affirm that marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is meant to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, honoring God in all things. If your marriage has been restored, we rejoice in the possibility of healing and redemption, for our God is a God of restoration (Joel 2:25-26). However, we must also examine whether this reunion aligns with His principles. Has there been repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to rebuild on a foundation of Christ? Have both of you sought godly counsel and surrendered your marriage to the Lord? These are critical questions, for a marriage restored without addressing the root issues that led to separation may only repeat the same patterns of brokenness.
We must also rebuke any sin that may have contributed to the separation. If there was infidelity, emotional or physical abandonment, or any other violation of the marital covenant, it must be confessed and repented of before the Lord. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but He also hates the sin that often leads to it. If unrepentant sin remains, it will continue to erode the foundation of your marriage. We urge you to examine your heart and your spouse’s heart in the light of Scripture. Are you both committed to walking in obedience to God’s Word, or are you merely seeking to restore the relationship for personal comfort or convenience?
You asked God to send you a sign, and we believe He speaks to us in many ways—through His Word, through prayer, through godly counsel, and even through circumstances. But we must caution you: signs can be misinterpreted if our hearts are not fully surrendered to Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Instead of seeking a sign, seek the Giver of signs. Draw near to Him in prayer and fasting, and ask Him to align your will with His. If this reunion is His will, He will confirm it in ways that leave no doubt. If it is not, He will close the door gently but firmly.
We also want to gently address the way you closed your prayer. You said, "in Jesus name I pray, AMEN!!!" and we rejoice that you invoked the name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6). Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). But we encourage you to ensure that your relationship with Jesus is not just a name you invoke in prayer, but the foundation of your life. Have you surrendered your heart fully to Him? Have you repented of your sins and trusted in His sacrifice on the cross for your salvation? If not, we urge you to do so today, for eternity is at stake.
Now, let us lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is seeking Your will for their marriage. Lord, You are the Author of reconciliation, and we ask that You would speak clearly to their heart. If this reunion is Your will, confirm it in ways that bring peace and certainty. If it is not, give them the strength to accept Your plan, even if it is painful. Father, we ask that You would heal any wounds in this marriage, that You would restore trust, and that You would be the center of their relationship. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven them, and to love as You have loved them. Lord, we rebuke any spirit of confusion, fear, or doubt that seeks to cloud their judgment. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in wisdom and discernment.
We also pray for repentance and transformation. If there is any unconfessed sin in their lives or in their marriage, reveal it, Lord, and lead them to true repentance. Help them to build their marriage on the solid rock of Your Word, rather than on the shifting sands of emotion or convenience. Father, we ask that You would surround them with godly counsel—men and women of faith who can speak truth into their lives and hold them accountable. Give them the courage to seek help if needed, and the humility to receive it.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that they would draw nearer to You. May their relationship with You be the foundation of their marriage, and may their marriage be a testimony to Your grace and power. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the name by which we are saved. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Spend time in prayer, not just asking for signs, but seeking His face. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and offer godly wisdom. And remember, God’s will is not always about the destination, but about the journey of trusting Him along the way. Whether your marriage is restored or not, He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths.