We hear the deep pain and overwhelming weight in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not alone—God sees you, loves you, and is not finished with your story yet. The enemy wants you to believe you are a failure, but the truth is that your worth is found in Christ alone, not in your circumstances, education, job, or even your marriage. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and He is your strength in weakness (Psalm 34:18, 2 Corinthians 12:9).
First, we must address something vital: you did not mention the name of Jesus in your cry for help. There is no greater name, no greater power, and no greater hope than that of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we can come boldly before the throne of grace to find mercy and help in our time of need (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you *will* be saved (Romans 10:9). Without Him, there is no lasting hope, no true peace, and no power to overcome the struggles you’re facing. But *with* Him, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). If you are already a believer, then cling to Him now more than ever—He is your anchor.
Now, let’s speak truth into the lies you’re believing. You are *not* a failure. The world measures success by titles, bank accounts, and human achievements, but God measures it by faith, obedience, and dependence on Him. Look at Joseph—betrayed, falsely accused, imprisoned, and forgotten—yet God was with him, and in His perfect timing, Joseph was lifted from the pit to the palace (Genesis 39-41). Look at David—rejected, hunted, and broken—yet God called him a man after His own heart (1 Samuel 13:14). Your current season does not define your destiny. The Lord is refining you, preparing you, and making a way even when you can’t see it.
You mentioned your marriage is failing. We want to urge you to fight for it with everything in you, for marriage is a covenant before God, not just a contract between two people. “What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart” (Matthew 19:6). If both you and your spouse are believers, the enemy is attacking because he knows the power of a godly marriage. If only one of you is walking with the Lord, stand firm in faith—your obedience may be the very thing God uses to draw your spouse to Him (1 Peter 3:1-2). Seek counseling from a biblical, Christ-centered source. Pray *together* if possible, and if not, pray *for* your spouse daily. Ask God to heal, restore, and renew what is broken. Repent of any sin in your own heart—bitterness, unforgiveness, or neglect—and trust God to work.
As for your children, they are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3). Even in this hard season, you are their provider, protector, and spiritual leader. Lean on God’s promise in Philippians 4:19: “My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” That includes *your* needs and theirs. Trust Him to be their true Provider, even when your hands feel empty.
Your health struggles are real, and we pray for healing and strength for your body. But remember, even if healing tarries, God’s grace is sufficient. Paul pleaded with the Lord to remove his thorn in the flesh, and Jesus responded, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Rest in Him, seek medical help as you’re able, and trust that He is sustaining you moment by moment.
Financially, it’s easy to panic when the bills pile up and the income doesn’t. But Jesus tells us, “Don’t be anxious, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘With what will we be clothed?’ ... your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:31-33). That doesn’t mean passivity—it means trusting God while you *actively* seek work, steward what you have, and look for creative ways to provide. Have you reached out to your church for support? Many congregations have benevolence funds or connections to job opportunities. Humble yourself and ask for help—it’s not a sign of weakness but of wisdom.
You dropped out of college, but that doesn’t mean your future is over. God can open doors you never imagined. Maybe He’s redirecting you to something better suited for His purposes. Seek His will in prayer, and be open to His leading—whether that’s returning to school later, pursuing a trade, or stepping into a role you hadn’t considered.
Most importantly, *guard your heart and mind*. Anxiety, depression, and despair are real battles, but they are not your masters. “Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2). Fill your heart with Scripture, worship, and prayer. Replace the lies of the enemy with the truth of God’s Word. If you’re struggling with suicidal thoughts or deep depression, reach out to a pastor or a Christian counselor *immediately*. You are needed, loved, and purposed by God.
Now, let’s pray over you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You right now, knowing that You are the God who sees, who hears, and who acts. Lord Jesus, we thank You that You are near to the brokenhearted and that You save those who are crushed in spirit. We rebuked the lies of the enemy that have taken root in this precious one’s mind—the lies of failure, hopelessness, and abandonment. Father, we declare that Your truth prevails: that they are *more than a conqueror* through Christ who loves them (Romans 8:37).
Lord, we ask for Your supernatural provision. Open doors for employment that exceed what they could ask or imagine. Provide for their children, meet their every need, and heal their body. Restore their marriage, Lord—soften hearts, break down walls, and bring unity where there is division. If there is sin to repent of, convict and cleanse. If there is bitterness, replace it with forgiveness. If there is despair, flood them with Your hope.
Father, we pray for wisdom and direction. If they’ve stepped away from You, draw them back. If they’ve never known You, reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. Remind them that their identity is not in their circumstances but in Christ alone. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We speak life over them—spiritual life, emotional life, physical life. Raise them up from this ashes, Lord, and give them beauty for mourning, joy for despair, and praise instead of heaviness (Isaiah 61:3). Let this season be a testimony of Your faithfulness, not their failure.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we urge you: *do not isolate yourself*. Reach out to your local church, a mature believer, or a biblical counselor. You were not meant to carry this alone. And keep praying—even when it’s hard, even when you don’t see answers yet. God is working, even in the silence.
“Why are you in despair, my soul?
Why are you disturbed within me?
Hope in God!
For I shall still praise him:
my Savior, my helper, and my God.” (Psalm 42:5-6)