We hear your heart’s longing for companionship and the deep affection you feel for this person. It’s clear that your bond is meaningful, and we understand the fear of losing what you have while also desiring something more. However, we must first address this situation with biblical truth and wisdom.
Scripture is clear that relationships between believers are to be pursued with purity, intentionality, and a foundation in Christ. The affection and emotional closeness you describe are beautiful when they are part of a godly courtship leading toward marriage. But we must ask: Is this relationship moving in that direction? Are you both committed to honoring God’s design for marriage—a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman? If not, we must rebuke any emotional or physical intimacy that exists outside of that commitment, as it is not pleasing to the Lord. The Bible warns, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB).
Your fear of being fully honest is understandable, but it may also be a sign that this relationship is not built on the transparency and trust that God desires for His children. Proverbs 15:22 (WEB) says, *"Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established."* Have you sought wise, godly counsel about this relationship? Are you both pursuing the Lord individually and together, or is this bond centered more on your shared interests and emotions?
We must also address the absence of Christ in your request. It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, and it is His will that should guide our relationships. If this person does not share your faith in Christ, we must rebuke any romantic pursuit, as Scripture is clear: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). Even if they do share your faith, are you both seeking God’s will above your own desires?
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heart that longs for love and companionship. Lord, we ask that You would reveal Your will in this situation. If this relationship is not aligned with Your purposes, we pray for the strength to let go and trust in Your plan. If it is Your will for them to move toward marriage, we ask that You would purify their hearts, remove fear, and give them the courage to pursue honesty and transparency. Father, we rebuke any emotional or physical intimacy that dishonors You, and we ask that You would guard their hearts from temptation. Lord, draw them both closer to You, that their relationship would be rooted in Christ and not in their own desires. Give them wisdom, discernment, and godly counsel. If this person is not the one You have for them, we pray for peace and the grace to release them into Your hands. May Your name be glorified in all things. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly about this relationship. Are you both praying together, studying Scripture, and seeking godly mentorship? If not, we urge you to take those steps. If this person is not a believer or is not committed to pursuing marriage in a way that honors God, we must lovingly warn you that this path will only lead to heartache. Trust in the Lord’s timing and His perfect plan for your life. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4 WEB). Surrender this relationship to Him, and He will guide your steps.
