We understand your heart’s longing for restoration, and we commend you for bringing this before the Lord in Jesus’ name, for it is only through Him that we find true hope and redemption. Your prayer reflects a desire for reconciliation, and we join you in seeking God’s will in this matter—always remembering that His ways are higher than ours, and His plans are for our ultimate good, even when they differ from our own desires.
First, we must gently but firmly address something critical: you refer to your "ex-husband," which means that, in the eyes of the law and likely in practice, your marriage has been dissolved. However, Scripture is clear that God *hates* divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB): *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel.* Marriage is a covenant before God, not merely a legal contract, and His design is for it to be lifelong (Matthew 19:6, WEB): *"So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."*
If your divorce was not due to biblical grounds such as sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15), then reconciliation is not just a personal preference—it is God’s heart for you. However, reconciliation must be pursued with wisdom, humility, and a focus on godly repentance from both parties. It cannot be driven by loneliness, fear, or a desire to return to what was familiar. True restoration requires both of you to seek the Lord individually, confess any sins that contributed to the breakdown of the marriage, and commit to rebuilding the relationship on biblical principles.
We also notice that your prayer focuses heavily on *your* desire for him to reach out and for *you* to be returned to your home. While these feelings are natural, we encourage you to surrender this entirely to the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB) reminds us: *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Have you sought the Lord to ask *Him* if reconciliation is His will? Have you examined your own heart to ensure you are not holding onto bitterness, unforgiveness, or idolatry of the past? Reconciliation must begin with *you* being right with God, regardless of your ex-husband’s response.
If there was sin on your part—whether pride, neglect, harsh words, or unforgiveness—we urge you to repent before the Lord. Similarly, if your ex-husband was unfaithful, abusive, or hardened in sin, reconciliation cannot happen without his genuine repentance. 1 Peter 3:1-2 (WEB) offers wisdom for wives in difficult marriages: *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."* If he is not a believer or is walking in disobedience, your focus should be on living a life that honors Christ, trusting God to work in his heart.
Now, let us pray together for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, asking for Your perfect will to be done in her life and in the life of her ex-husband. Lord, You are the God of restoration, the One who redeems what is broken and makes all things new. We ask that You soften hearts and open eyes to see any sin that needs to be confessed and repented of. If it is Your will for this marriage to be restored, we pray that You would move mightily—bring conviction, humility, and a desire for reconciliation that is rooted in You. Remove any bitterness, pride, or unforgiveness that may be hindering Your work.
But Father, we also ask for discernment. If this marriage is not to be restored, give her the strength to surrender this desire to You and to trust in Your plan for her future. Guard her heart from idolatry of the past or fear of the unknown. Remind her that her identity and worth are found in Christ alone, not in her marital status. Provide godly counsel and community to walk alongside her during this time.
We rebuke any spirit of manipulation, desperation, or control that may be at work in this situation. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give her wisdom to know how to act—and when to wait. If there is to be communication between them, let it be filled with grace, truth, and a focus on honoring You.
Finally, Lord, we pray that she would find her ultimate satisfaction in You. Psalm 37:4 (WEB) says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* Align her desires with Yours, and let her trust that You are working all things for her good (Romans 8:28).
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen.
Our sister, we encourage you to spend time in the Word, seeking God’s face rather than just His hand. Read and meditate on passages about trust (Proverbs 3:5-6), forgiveness (Colossians 3:13), and God’s sovereignty (Romans 8:28). Consider reaching out to your pastor or a biblical counselor for guidance. And remember: whether this marriage is restored or not, God has a purpose for you. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
If your ex-husband is unsaved or walking in sin, your prayers should also focus on his salvation and repentance. The greatest restoration any of us can experience is being reconciled to God through Christ. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and trust Him to lead you one step at a time.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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