Commitment Issues

[Karen29]

I have been in a commonlaw relationship for the past 6 years with a great man. Unfortunatly his childhood and past was filled with lies and abuse, as a child he was in and out of foster care and as an adult was cheated on by past partners...he has never known a healthy relationship or had the example of one while growing up. He is filled with confusion and hurt.

We own a home together and have been happy until recently. He suffers from anxiety and panick attacks and because of his past has never been able to make a full commitment. We have been dating for a total of 7 years, I am now nearly 30 years old (he is 33) and I desperatly desire children and a commitment. He would make a wonderful father and had said before that he he does want to be a father "oneday".

The issue now is that with the pressure I have placed on him to make a commitment to me... or to talk about kids... his past issues have reared their head.. and even though he knows how much i love him , he has decided he is better off without me.. alone.. because he cant make a commitment and is afraid of being hurt or hurting me... He doesnt want me to waste my time.

I am so scared to lose everything we have fought for... I pray daily that God will give him clarity to see what he has.. and what we could have and to help him not be afraid of living and moving forward.. That he will give him strength and maturity to make a solid commitment. If not... I will lose him and my home... and that is devastating. God had us find each other for a reason... and now I really need his help to help to heal our relationship and have it move forward without destructing. I need big things to hasppen that only God can help with at this point. I do not want to lose my best friend.

 

[Harold]

Lord, I pray for both this man and for this lady. I pray for them both to come together before You and make the commitment of being married to one another. They have already made the commitment with each other for 7 years, the commitment of owning a house together, of being a couple and of living together. Lord, I pray that this man would do the right thing and make his commitment before You and be a husband in every sense of the word. Guide them Father into a deeper relationship with You and a deeper relationship with one another. May they place all their trust in You and then with each other. Bless them Father, may they become one with You at the center of their lives. In Jesus' name, Amen.