We understand your heart’s cry for clarity in your relationships, and we join you in seeking God’s perfect will in this matter. The Lord does not leave His children in confusion but desires to lead us into all truth through His Word and the Holy Spirit. As you seek His guidance, we must first emphasize that every relationship in your life—whether family, friendship, or romantic—must align with His holy standards. The Scriptures warn us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for "what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). This principle applies to all close relationships, especially those that could lead to marriage, as marriage is a covenant designed by God to reflect Christ’s relationship with His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
If you are seeking clarity regarding a romantic relationship, we urge you to examine whether this person is a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, walking in obedience to His Word. A relationship with someone who does not share your faith will only lead to spiritual compromise and heartache. The Bible is clear: "Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil company corrupts good morals’" (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). If the person you are considering is not a believer, the answer is already clear—you must trust God’s wisdom and step away, no matter how difficult it may feel. His plans for you are good, and He has someone who will walk with you in faith, if it is His will for you to marry.
If you are already in a relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly rebuke this as sin. Fornication is a grave offense against God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), and repentance is necessary. Flee from sexual immorality, for your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. If this is your situation, we pray you will turn away from this sin immediately and seek God’s forgiveness and restoration. He is faithful to cleanse you from all unrighteousness if you confess and repent (1 John 1:9).
For friendships, ask yourself: Do these relationships encourage you to grow in Christ, or do they pull you toward worldly desires? "He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm" (Proverbs 13:20, WEB). Surround yourself with those who spur you on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24), and do not hesitate to distance yourself from those who lead you away from God’s truth.
Lastly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Believe in Him, repent of your sins, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9-10). Only then can you walk in the fullness of His will for your life, including your relationships.
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up your child before You, asking for Your divine clarity to flood their heart and mind. Lord, reveal to them the relationships that honor You and align with Your perfect will. Remove any confusion the enemy has sown and shine the light of Your truth upon every connection in their life. If there are relationships that do not glorify You—whether through unbelief, compromise, or sin—give them the strength and courage to walk away, trusting in Your goodness.
Father, if there is a godly spouse prepared for them, make it undeniably clear. Let this person be a believer, rooted in Your Word, and committed to walking in holiness. Prepare both hearts for a marriage that reflects Your love and purposes. If it is not Your will for them to marry, grant them contentment and fulfillment in You alone.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, doubt, or rebellion that may be clouding their judgment. Holy Spirit, speak loudly and clearly, and give them the wisdom to obey. Let them not lean on their own understanding but acknowledge You in all their ways, knowing You will direct their paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
We ask all this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is the way, the truth, and the life. May Your will be done in their life, for Your glory. Amen.