Church member

[Dhitlor]

I believe one of my church members has emotional issues based on some interactions that I've had with them. Among other things, after church, whenever she happens to see me, if I'm talking to someone else and can't get to her right away, she will get this annoyed/envious look on her face. She did the same thing when I came up to her after church while she was having a conversation with someone (I did this in a polite way and not rudely) to say hello; when I started talking to the person she had been talking with about something, she got the same look on her face and looked back and forth between both of us and I think even started to walk away. The other night, one of the other church members had a gathering at their home. I started to notice her displaying this behavior toward my mother. She even walked away from a group conversation we were in several times while my mother and I were answering some questions that we were asked by the hostess. When I thought about this behavior, at the time, I decided that the best thing to do would be to do my best to find her immediately after church and say hello to her no matter what (not to talk to anyone else I'm sitting near for too long but to immediately find her and say hello) so that she won't feel bad. Is this the right thing to do though? Then, this past Sunday, she seemed to be directing that same behavior toward my mother again - whenever my mother would speak in the conversation (to her or the other person present), she would get totally silent and not say anything. I have posted before that I have been experiencing spiritual warfare since I was a child which specifically influences people around me to do terrible things to try to push me toward unforgiveness. While God is delivering me out of it recently, it still attempts to flare back up. When it does, certain people in my environment often do abnormally evil things to me. This warfare has used this person I'm writing about several times and something was done through her a few days ago that caused me to get very upset to the point that a lot of negative emotions/thoughts about this church and whether or not it's the right place for me started to come up. Some valid concerns (the fact that I feel very isolated, lonely and alone in spite of now having church members; I really feel like they are just part of my life but I can't really lean on them very much due to them being busy and whatnot - also, there are some problems that have arisen with certain members, which originated with the warfare I'm discussing, which have seemed to persist even when this warfare is not occuring which have caused me to feel even more isolated) that I have did come up during that time which I have asked for prayer about. But I did start to succumb to the emotions this warfare was trying to provoke through this person's actions. I'm struggling with this warfare with something: it's one thing if it uses someone to do something negative to me from afar because I can just remain silent but I'm now having to consider what to do when it uses someone to do something negative to me up close and personally. Since God is delivering me out of it, it is ten times worse whenever Satan finds an opportunity to restart it. I had an experience with another church member where it used them during a conversation - although I knew where the behavior was coming from, I just gave them a godly response as if it were a normal conversation. Was that the right thing to do? In that situation, I couldn't just be totally silent because it would have been odd. Please pray for me about all this. Thank you.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep struggle in your heart, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking the Lord’s wisdom and deliverance in this season of spiritual warfare. The behaviors you’ve described—envy, withdrawal, and subtle hostility—are not merely personal quirks but manifestations of a fallen world where the enemy seeks to sow division, bitterness, and isolation. Scripture warns us, *"For where envy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing"* (James 3:16 WEB). This is not the fruit of the Spirit, and we must guard our hearts against allowing such dynamics to take root, even as we extend grace.

First, let us address the spiritual warfare you’re enduring. The enemy’s tactics are relentless, but we serve a God who is greater. *"For though we walk in the flesh, we don’t wage war according to the flesh; for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:3-4 WEB). The flare-ups you describe are not coincidences; they are attacks meant to provoke unforgiveness, doubt, and disunity. But we declare that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17 WEB), and we rebuke the enemy’s schemes in Jesus’ name. You are not alone in this battle—Christ has already won the victory, and we stand with you in that truth.

Now, regarding how to respond to this sister in Christ: your desire to prioritize her by seeking her out immediately after church is rooted in kindness, but we must also consider whether this approach enables unhealthy patterns. Love does not ignore sin or dysfunction, nor does it cater to fleshly demands. *"Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil. Cling to that which is good"* (Romans 12:9 WEB). If her behavior stems from envy or insecurity, accommodating it may reinforce those struggles rather than point her toward repentance and healing. Instead, we encourage you to pray for her *and* for wisdom in how to engage with her in a way that reflects Christ’s love without enabling sin.

When the enemy uses people close to us to provoke us, our response must be twofold: we resist the enemy’s lies, and we extend grace to the person being used. In the situation where you gave a godly response during a conversation, you acted rightly. *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1 WEB). Silence is not always the answer, especially when engagement is necessary. However, we must also be discerning about when to speak and when to step back, always asking the Holy Spirit for guidance.

Your feelings of isolation and loneliness are valid, and we grieve with you. The church is meant to be a family, not just a gathering of individuals. *"So then, as we have opportunity, let’s do what is good toward all men, and especially toward those who are of the household of the faith"* (Galatians 6:10 WEB). If you feel unable to lean on others, we encourage you to seek out deeper connections—perhaps through small groups, service opportunities, or simply inviting others into your life in intentional ways. But we also caution against allowing the enemy to use these feelings to drive you away from the body of Christ. *"Let’s consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching"* (Hebrews 10:24-25 WEB).

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother/sister who is enduring spiritual warfare and struggling with the behaviors of others. Lord, You see the envy, the isolation, and the schemes of the enemy. We rebuke every spirit of division, unforgiveness, and bitterness in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against him/her will prosper, and we ask for Your protection over his/her heart and mind.

Father, grant him/her wisdom in how to respond to this sister in Christ. Give him/her discernment to know when to speak, when to step back, and when to extend grace without enabling sin. Lord, soften this sister’s heart and reveal to her any areas where she is operating in envy or insecurity. Bring healing to her emotions and draw her closer to You.

We also ask for deeper connections within the body of Christ. Lord, surround him/her with godly friendships and mentors who will walk alongside him/her in this season. Break the spirit of isolation and loneliness, and remind him/her that You are always near.

Finally, Lord, we ask for continued deliverance from this spiritual warfare. Strengthen him/her to stand firm in the truth of Your Word and to resist the enemy’s lies. Fill him/her with Your peace, joy, and assurance that You are working all things together for good.

We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Deliverer. Amen.

We encourage you to press into the Lord during this time. Seek His face, not just His hand, and allow Him to minister to your heart. The enemy wants you to feel alone, but you are never alone—Christ is with you, and so are we. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9 WEB). The battle is fierce, but the victory is already won.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear your heart's cry, dear friend. It's tough when we feel unseen or misunderstood, especially within our church family. Let's pray together.

Dear Lord, we lift up our ### to You today. We ask for Your healing touch on her heart. Help her to see the value and love You have for her, even when she might not feel it from others. Give her the courage to reach out, to share her feelings, and to build deeper connections within the church.

Lord, we also pray for wisdom for our ### who's been feeling the brunt of this behavior. Help her to navigate this situation with grace and discernment. Give her the strength to stand firm in her faith, and the wisdom to know when to speak and when to step back.

Father, we ask for unity and love to flow freely among us. Help us to see each other through Your eyes, to love as You love, and to build each other up. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Dhitlor]

I believe one of my church members has emotional issues based on some interactions that I've had with them. Among other things, after church, whenever she happens to see me, if I'm talking to someone else and can't get to her right away, she will get this annoyed/envious look on her face. She did the same thing when I came up to her after church while she was having a conversation with someone (I did this in a polite way and not rudely) to say hello; when I started talking to the person she had been talking with about something, she got the same look on her face and looked back and forth between both of us and I think even started to walk away. The other night, one of the other church members had a gathering at their home. I started to notice her displaying this behavior toward my mother. She even walked away from a group conversation we were in several times while my mother and I were answering some questions that we were asked by the hostess. When I thought about this behavior, at the time, I decided that the best thing to do would be to do my best to find her immediately after church and say hello to her no matter what (not to talk to anyone else I'm sitting near for too long but to immediately find her and say hello) so that she won't feel bad. Is this the right thing to do though? Then, this past Sunday, she seemed to be directing that same behavior toward my mother again - whenever my mother would speak in the conversation (to her or the other person present), she would get totally silent and not say anything. I have posted before that I have been experiencing spiritual warfare since I was a child which specifically influences people around me to do terrible things to try to push me toward unforgiveness. While God is delivering me out of it recently, it still attempts to flare back up. When it does, certain people in my environment often do abnormally evil things to me. This warfare has used this person I'm writing about several times and something was done through her a few days ago that caused me to get very upset to the point that a lot of negative emotions/thoughts about this church and whether or not it's the right place for me started to come up. Some valid concerns (the fact that I feel very isolated, lonely and alone in spite of now having church members; I really feel like they are just part of my life but I can't really lean on them very much due to them being busy and whatnot - also, there are some problems that have arisen with certain members, which originated with the warfare I'm discussing, which have seemed to persist even when this warfare is not occurring which have caused me to feel even more isolated) that I have asked for prayer about. But I did start to succumb to the emotions this warfare was trying to provoke through this person's actions. I'm struggling with this warfare with something: it's one thing if it uses someone to do something negative to me from afar because I can just remain silent but I'm now having to consider what to do when it uses someone to do something negative to me up close and personally. Since God is delivering me out of it, it is ten times worse whenever Satan finds an opportunity to restart it. I had an experience with another church member where it used them during a conversation - although I knew where the behavior was coming from, I just gave them a godly response as if it were a normal conversation. Was that the right thing to do? In that situation, I couldn't just be totally silent because it would have been odd. Please pray for me about all this. Thank you.

I forgot to add that I don't know if this behavior is just her being under the influence of this warfare or what.

 

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