I have been posting about experiencing spiritual warfare since I was a child that influences people to do terrible things to me to push me toward deep unforgiveness. Although God began delivering me from this warfare last year and from the unforgiveness which has both kept it in my life and which it has caused, it does still try to flare up especially at certain times such as when I'm being disobedient to God in any way especially in terms of forgiveness, when I am procrastinating with my Bible reading or when I am not feeling well physically. Right now is the time where I would usually do my Bible study time, but I'm on the phone with my sister who called on her lunch break so I am waiting to finish the conversation - I am spending time with a loved one. But now I feel that in the past few minutes, I've started to experience multiple attacks now with this warfare including something that one of my church members (who this warfare has attacked me through before; I think she has emotional issues) just did. Please pray for me about this. This particular church member has often done things under the influence of this warfare that are very pushy in terms of saying things about my mother and I's church attendance. My mother and I literally attend church most Sundays unless I am ill or something significant happens where we cannot attend. We attend multiple church events and, actually, I have come to realize that we attend more church things than other people do - but, to my knowledge, these other people are not being constantly verbally told to attend church more or to attend this or attend that. Sometimes these other people seem to just not come to church (with, as far as I know, no explanation) and no one says anything. While I know that this person's behavior, and the behavior of others who do abnormally negative things to me that I experience at church, is due to this warfare that I've mentioned influencing them, I feel that there is also a level of pushiness from certain church members toward my mother and I when it comes to attending church functions which is overwhelming, uncomfortable (and could quickly be interpreted as cult-like behavior) and even feels as though we are being singled out (and this is something I feel my church members really need to be careful of as my mother and I sometimes already struggle with feeling left out as, from what we can gather, we are the only minorities in the church). Another thing that is concerning (and that could also be due to this warfare I've mentioned) is that in spite of a lot of this pushiness that my mother and I experience, we do sometimes feel ignored and as if there are inconsistencies in how our church members interact with us. It's as if we are pushed to attend every church event but when we get there, we are ignored. We started attending this church in late 2024 and finally joined in September of last year. We went through a period in 2025 where we stopped attending due to this same warfare I've mentioned using many of these church members to target me. Before I realized this warfare was using them, I was angry at them personally and didn't want to attend anymore but when God delivered me and helped me see things clearly, things changed and their behavior improved because the warfare lost its power. This church member was used to attack me just now via a message she sent just now which I am unsure of how to respond to it. I usually don't ignore her messages and always try to respond to them but I believe any response I give her to this message she just sent will have to be firm and boundary clarifying and I do not want to hurt her so I haven't responded to it. Please pray for me about this. Thank you.
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We hear your heart, dear sister in Christ, and we stand with you in the authority of Jesus’ name against every scheme of the enemy. The spiritual warfare you describe is real, and we recognize how deeply it has sought to entangle you in unforgiveness, isolation, and even confusion within the body of Christ. But we declare that the power of God is greater, and His light exposes every darkness. The enemy has no right to harass you, especially when you are seeking to walk in obedience—whether in forgiveness, time in the Word, or fellowship with believers. We rebuke every assignment of the enemy against you and your mother in Jesus’ name. The attacks you feel now, even through well-meaning but misguided church members, are not from the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit convicts with gentleness, not pushiness or condemnation (John 16:8, 13). The pressure you describe—being singled out, pressured to attend events, yet feeling ignored—does not reflect the love of Christ or the unity of the body. Scripture tells us, *"For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace"* (1 Corinthians 14:33). Where there is manipulation, control, or inconsistency in love, we must discern whether human flesh or spiritual warfare is at work.
We also want to gently address the timing of your Bible study. While spending time with your sister is a blessing, we encourage you to guard your time with the Lord as sacred. Jesus Himself withdrew to solitary places to pray, even when others sought Him (Luke 5:16). If the enemy is attacking now, it may be because he seeks to distract you from the very thing that strengthens you—God’s Word. We are not saying your sister is the enemy, but we are saying the enemy will use even good things to pull you away from what fortifies your spirit. When you are able, prioritize your time with the Lord, and trust that He will multiply the moments you have with loved ones.
Now, regarding the message from your church member—we understand your hesitation to respond. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* However, gentleness does not mean silence when boundaries are needed. If this sister’s words have been consistently pushy or judgmental about your attendance, it is biblical to lovingly but firmly address it. Jesus Himself corrected His disciples when they misunderstood His mission (Mark 8:33), and Paul corrected Peter when his actions were out of line (Galatians 2:11-14). You can respond with grace while making it clear that your commitment to the Lord is not measured by attendance alone, but by a heart surrendered to Him. For example, you might say, *"I appreciate your care for my spiritual walk, but my mother and I attend as the Lord leads us. We love being part of this church family, and we trust God to guide our steps."* This honors truth without attacking her.
We also want to speak to the broader issue of feeling singled out as minorities in your church. The enemy would love to use this to sow division, bitterness, or a sense of not belonging. But God’s Word says, *"There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus"* (Galatians 3:28). If you feel overlooked, we encourage you to prayerfully seek deeper connections with those who share your heart for the Lord, rather than those who may be operating in the flesh. And if the church’s culture feels controlling or cult-like, we urge you to examine whether this aligns with Scripture. A healthy church body encourages, edifies, and walks in love—not pressure or exclusion (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name. We thank You for this sister and her mother, for their faithfulness to You and to Your body. Lord, we break every assignment of the enemy against them—every spirit of unforgiveness, isolation, confusion, and manipulation. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every lying spirit to flee in Jesus’ name. Father, we ask that You would strengthen them in their inner man, that they would be rooted and grounded in Your love (Ephesians 3:16-17). Give them wisdom in how to respond to this church member, and let Your peace guard their hearts (Philippians 4:7). Lord, if there are areas where they need to set boundaries, give them courage and grace to do so. And if there are areas where they need to extend forgiveness, soften their hearts to release it.
We also pray for their church family. Father, expose any works of the flesh—control, favoritism, or judgment—and replace them with Your love. Let this body walk in unity, humility, and genuine care for one another (Ephesians 4:2-3). If this church is not the right fit for them, Lord, make that clear and guide them to a place where they can serve You wholeheartedly without fear or pressure. Above all, draw them closer to You. Let them find their identity, security, and purpose in Christ alone. We thank You for Your faithfulness, and we trust You to complete the good work You’ve begun in them (Philippians 1:6). In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to press into the Lord even more during this time. The enemy attacks when he sees God moving in your life, but that also means you are a threat to his kingdom. Keep your armor on (Ephesians 6:10-18), stay in the Word, and surround yourself with believers who will speak life and truth over you. You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is your refuge, and His love for you is unshakable. If this church continues to bring more harm than healing, do not hesitate to seek the Lord’s guidance about whether to stay. Your peace and spiritual growth matter to Him. Stand firm, and trust that He will direct your steps.
We also want to gently address the timing of your Bible study. While spending time with your sister is a blessing, we encourage you to guard your time with the Lord as sacred. Jesus Himself withdrew to solitary places to pray, even when others sought Him (Luke 5:16). If the enemy is attacking now, it may be because he seeks to distract you from the very thing that strengthens you—God’s Word. We are not saying your sister is the enemy, but we are saying the enemy will use even good things to pull you away from what fortifies your spirit. When you are able, prioritize your time with the Lord, and trust that He will multiply the moments you have with loved ones.
Now, regarding the message from your church member—we understand your hesitation to respond. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* However, gentleness does not mean silence when boundaries are needed. If this sister’s words have been consistently pushy or judgmental about your attendance, it is biblical to lovingly but firmly address it. Jesus Himself corrected His disciples when they misunderstood His mission (Mark 8:33), and Paul corrected Peter when his actions were out of line (Galatians 2:11-14). You can respond with grace while making it clear that your commitment to the Lord is not measured by attendance alone, but by a heart surrendered to Him. For example, you might say, *"I appreciate your care for my spiritual walk, but my mother and I attend as the Lord leads us. We love being part of this church family, and we trust God to guide our steps."* This honors truth without attacking her.
We also want to speak to the broader issue of feeling singled out as minorities in your church. The enemy would love to use this to sow division, bitterness, or a sense of not belonging. But God’s Word says, *"There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus"* (Galatians 3:28). If you feel overlooked, we encourage you to prayerfully seek deeper connections with those who share your heart for the Lord, rather than those who may be operating in the flesh. And if the church’s culture feels controlling or cult-like, we urge you to examine whether this aligns with Scripture. A healthy church body encourages, edifies, and walks in love—not pressure or exclusion (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name. We thank You for this sister and her mother, for their faithfulness to You and to Your body. Lord, we break every assignment of the enemy against them—every spirit of unforgiveness, isolation, confusion, and manipulation. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every lying spirit to flee in Jesus’ name. Father, we ask that You would strengthen them in their inner man, that they would be rooted and grounded in Your love (Ephesians 3:16-17). Give them wisdom in how to respond to this church member, and let Your peace guard their hearts (Philippians 4:7). Lord, if there are areas where they need to set boundaries, give them courage and grace to do so. And if there are areas where they need to extend forgiveness, soften their hearts to release it.
We also pray for their church family. Father, expose any works of the flesh—control, favoritism, or judgment—and replace them with Your love. Let this body walk in unity, humility, and genuine care for one another (Ephesians 4:2-3). If this church is not the right fit for them, Lord, make that clear and guide them to a place where they can serve You wholeheartedly without fear or pressure. Above all, draw them closer to You. Let them find their identity, security, and purpose in Christ alone. We thank You for Your faithfulness, and we trust You to complete the good work You’ve begun in them (Philippians 1:6). In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to press into the Lord even more during this time. The enemy attacks when he sees God moving in your life, but that also means you are a threat to his kingdom. Keep your armor on (Ephesians 6:10-18), stay in the Word, and surround yourself with believers who will speak life and truth over you. You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is your refuge, and His love for you is unshakable. If this church continues to bring more harm than healing, do not hesitate to seek the Lord’s guidance about whether to stay. Your peace and spiritual growth matter to Him. Stand firm, and trust that He will direct your steps.
Dear friend,
We're here with you, feeling the weight of the spiritual battle you've been facing since childhood. It's tough, we know, but remember, you're not alone. We're standing with you, and so is Jesus.
We've been praying for you, and we want to encourage you. That church member who's been pushing you about attendance, it's not okay for them to speak to you that way. You're right, it's not about the quantity of church events, but the quality of your relationship with Jesus. It's about your heart, not just your physical presence.
We understand that you feel singled out, and that's not right either. The body of Christ should be a place of belonging, not exclusion. We're praying for wisdom for you, that you would know how to respond to this person in love, but also with boundaries. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
As for your Bible study time, we get it. It's hard to prioritize when there's so much going on. But remember, spending time with Jesus is like breathing for your soul. It's essential. The enemy will try to distract you, but don't let him win. Make time for Jesus, even if it's just a few minutes each day.
We're also praying for your church. We ask God to help them see you and your mom, to value you, and to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. We pray for unity, for love, for understanding.
Keep fighting, dear friend. Keep standing. Jesus is with you, and so are we. You're not alone. Let's keep praying together, okay?
We're here with you, feeling the weight of the spiritual battle you've been facing since childhood. It's tough, we know, but remember, you're not alone. We're standing with you, and so is Jesus.
We've been praying for you, and we want to encourage you. That church member who's been pushing you about attendance, it's not okay for them to speak to you that way. You're right, it's not about the quantity of church events, but the quality of your relationship with Jesus. It's about your heart, not just your physical presence.
We understand that you feel singled out, and that's not right either. The body of Christ should be a place of belonging, not exclusion. We're praying for wisdom for you, that you would know how to respond to this person in love, but also with boundaries. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
As for your Bible study time, we get it. It's hard to prioritize when there's so much going on. But remember, spending time with Jesus is like breathing for your soul. It's essential. The enemy will try to distract you, but don't let him win. Make time for Jesus, even if it's just a few minutes each day.
We're also praying for your church. We ask God to help them see you and your mom, to value you, and to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. We pray for unity, for love, for understanding.
Keep fighting, dear friend. Keep standing. Jesus is with you, and so are we. You're not alone. Let's keep praying together, okay?
The Encourager
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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