Choosing the right partner to marry

Anonymous

Beloved of All
Good evening pastor
Please i am torn between two men in my life and i dont want to make a mistake of choosing the one that God has not destined for me
Please pray with me to help me make the right choice 🙏🙏🙏🙏 one is fair, one is dark in complexion
 
We understand that you are facing a difficult situation, and we are here to pray with you and offer guidance based on biblical principles. When choosing a spouse, it is crucial to seek God's will and ensure that the relationship aligns with His Word. The Bible teaches us that marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman and God, and it's not about looks or benefits. It is about God's will for you.

Firstly, let's address the notion of a "partner." In the biblical context, we are encouraged to seek a spouse, not just a partner. A spouse is someone with whom you enter into a holy, marital covenant before God.

Secondly, we have two gentlemen in your life. You did not mention the status of these men in your life. You did not mention if you are in a relationship with one or the other. If you are, it is important to be committed to only one and not two. You are not married yet, so you may be looking to choose between one or the other.

As we are looking to discern which one that we are to choose, we need to first make sure that the men are godly men. We should be discerning of marriage towards a believer and not an unbeliever.

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB

If you are not in a relationship with either, we should look to see if either men have a Christian testimony.

If you are in a relationship with either, we should look to see if the relationship follows a godly testimony.

A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she desires, only in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:39 WEB

When you are in a relationship, you are to be committed to that relationship. If you are in a relationship with one and not married, you should not be in a relationship with another. If you are not married to either, and are in a relationship with either, then you need to break off the relationship with one and commit to the other. It is only the way that you can discern which one is the right one. However, if you are in a relationship with one and married to the other, you should end the relationship with the one that you are not married to. These are the biblical principles that we must follow.

An important aspect of Christian living is that we should not be led by our fleshly desires. God is interested in the heart, not in the outward appearance. The complexion of the men is not important, but the content of their character and their commitment to God is.

But Yahweh said to Samuel, "Do not look on his face, or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for I see not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7 WEB

For you to discern which of these men is the one which God has destined for you, you need to consider if each candidate is a Christian, committed to God, and if you are not unequally yoked. You should not be considering the complexion of the candidates, but the condition of their hearts.

We also noticed that you did not mention Jesus Christ in your prayer request. It is important to remember that it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to God. There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is the only name by which we can be saved.

In whom we have boldness and access in confidence through our faith in him. Ephesians 3:12 WEB

There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved! Acts 4:12 WEB

We encourage you to put your faith in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, and confess Him as your Lord and Savior.

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your will for this dear sister. Lord, she is at a crossroads, trying to discern Your will for her life and her future spouse. We ask that You guide her steps and reveal to her the man You have destined for her in Jesus name.

We pray against any fleshly desires that may cloud her judgment in Jesus name. As she is looking for a godly spouse, help her to look at the heart and not the outward appearance. As she is trying to discern, allow her to see if either men have a Christian testimony. If she is in a relationship with one or the other, help her to be committed to that relationship. If she is in a relationship with one and not married, help her to break off that relationship with the other. We pray for the godly spouse that you have designed for her.

Lord, we also pray that she will come to know You deeply and trust in Your Son Jesus Christ for her salvation. We ask these things together and agree in Jesus' name.

Amen.

As you seek God's will, trust in Him to guide you. He knows the desires of your heart and has a plan for your life. Continue to pray and seek His face, and He will direct your paths and your courtship.
 
We're here for you, sister. We understand that this decision feels overwhelming, but remember, God is in control and He wants the best for you. Let's focus on His will together.

First, let's talk about what's in your heart. You're torn between two men, but God is more interested in your heart than your feelings. So, let's ask ourselves, are these men followers of Christ? Are they committed to God? Because as it says in 2 Corinthians 6:14, we shouldn't be unequally yoked with unbelievers. So, let's pray that God gives you clarity on this.

Next, let's not get distracted by outward appearances. God doesn't see as man sees. He looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). So, let's ask God to help you see the hearts of these men, not just their complexions.

Lastly, let's not forget the power of Jesus' name. He's the only way to the Father, and through Him, we have access to God (Ephesians 3:12). So, let's put our faith in Jesus, believing that He died for our sins and rose again.

Now, let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come to You in Jesus' name. Lord, guide our ### as she seeks Your will. Help her to see the hearts of these men, not their appearances. Help her to discern if they follow Christ. If she's in a relationship with one, help her to be committed to that. If she's not, help her to break off any relationships that aren't right. Lord, we also pray that she comes to know You deeply and trusts in Jesus for her salvation. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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