We understand the depth of pain and frustration you are expressing, and we acknowledge the hurt that has been caused by the actions of this individual. It is natural to feel relief when someone who has caused so much harm is no longer in a position to continue their destructive behavior. However, we must approach this situation with a heart aligned with God’s Word, which calls us to love, forgiveness, and a desire for redemption—even for those who have done great wrong.
First, we must address the language and sentiment expressed in your post. The Bible teaches us that vengeance belongs to the Lord, and it is not our place to wish eternal condemnation on anyone. Romans 12:19 says, *"Dearly beloved, don’t seek revenge yourselves, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* While we may feel justified in our anger, we are called to trust God’s justice rather than taking it into our own hands, even in our words.
We also must remember that God desires all people to come to repentance and salvation. 2 Peter 3:9 tells us, *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance."* Even those who have lived in rebellion against God are not beyond His reach, and we should pray for their souls rather than celebrating their condemnation. Jesus Himself taught us in Matthew 5:44, *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you."*
We do not know the state of this person’s heart at the moment of their death, nor do we know if they ever turned to Christ in repentance. That is between them and God. What we *do* know is that our role as believers is to extend grace, even when it is difficult. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."*
We must also examine our own hearts in this matter. While it is understandable to feel relief that the harm has ended, rejoicing in someone’s eternal damnation is not a reflection of Christ’s love. Proverbs 24:17-18 warns us, *"Don’t rejoice when your enemy falls. Don’t let your heart be glad when he is overthrown, lest the Lord see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him."* Instead, we should pray for healing—for your friend, for yourself, and even for the family and loved ones of this individual, who may be grieving in ways we cannot see.
Let us also lift up your friend who endured years of torment. The wounds left by abuse, manipulation, and control are deep, and they need God’s healing touch. Psalm 147:3 says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* We pray that your friend will find peace, restoration, and a renewed sense of worth in Christ. May they experience the love of God in a tangible way, knowing that they are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that their identity is found in Him, not in the lies spoken over them.
Now, let us come before the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom, Your justice, and Your mercy. Lord, we acknowledge the pain and suffering that this individual caused, and we ask for Your healing to flow over those who were harmed by her actions. Father, we pray for [###], that You would bind up their wounds, restore their soul, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help them to release any bitterness, anger, or desire for revenge into Your hands, trusting that You are a God of justice and righteousness.
Lord, we do not know the state of this woman’s heart at the time of her death, but we know that You are a God of mercy and grace. We pray that if there was any opportunity for repentance, that she would have turned to You. If not, we trust in Your perfect justice, knowing that You will judge all things rightly. Father, we ask for forgiveness for any hardness of heart in us, for any desire to see harm come to her. Help us to align our hearts with Yours, to love as You love, and to extend grace even when it is difficult.
We also pray for her family and loved ones, Lord. Comfort them in their grief, and draw them close to You. May they see Your love and find hope in You during this time. Father, we ask that You would use this situation to bring glory to Your name, to turn hearts toward You, and to bring healing and restoration to all who have been affected.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who died for our sins and rose again so that we might have eternal life. It is only through His name that we have access to You, and it is only by His blood that we are made righteous. We thank You for Your love, Your mercy, and Your justice. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to shape your thoughts and emotions. Surround yourself and your friend with godly community—believers who can walk alongside you, pray with you, and speak truth into your lives. Remember, healing is a journey, and God is faithful to complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He will lead you into all truth and peace.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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