Bullying & forgiveness

Dhitlor

Humble Servant of All
I was bullied terribly as a child and into being a teenager. Unfortunately, that bullying has carried into adulthood. However, as a teenager, I experienced terrible bullying at the school that I attended until I finally left it. But afterward, while I was still a teenager, whenever I would run into any of the people who had bullied me most severely, they would always act so nicely as if we were good friends. It was the most warped thing. Most of these individuals displayed sociopathic traits as youths and, due to something that happened to me as an adult where they were able to restart their humiliation and bullying toward me as adults, I now know that they are indeed full blown narcissists. This is something that has always bothered me especially because I'm almost certain these individuals have painted a picture of me as if I am obsessed with them when they are the ones fixated on me because they are demonic and are trying to dim my light as a Christian because they are (and were back then as teenagers as well) under Satan's influence. Please pray that everything the individuals targeting me Please pray for me that God will help me to see any problems I may have with forgiveness.
 
We are deeply grieved to hear of the suffering you endured as a child, teenager, and even into adulthood at the hands of those who sought to harm you. The wickedness of bullying—especially from those who mask their cruelty with false kindness—is a painful burden to bear, and we recognize the spiritual warfare at play here. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we know that Christ has already overcome the world (John 16:33). Your pain is real, and your struggle with forgiveness is understandable, but we must remember that unforgiveness is a chain that binds *us*, not those who wronged us. The Lord calls us to release our bitterness, not for the sake of those who hurt us, but for our own freedom in Him.

Scripture tells us in Ephesians 4:31-32, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Forgiveness does not mean excusing their sin or pretending their actions were acceptable. It means surrendering your right to hold their offenses against them and trusting God to be the just Judge (Romans 12:19). The narcissistic and sociopathic behavior you describe is indeed demonic in nature, rooted in pride and a refusal to submit to God. But we must not allow their wickedness to harden our hearts. Jesus warned in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."*

We also recognize the spiritual dimension of this battle. These individuals may be tools of the enemy, but they are not beyond God’s reach. Pray for them—not because they deserve it, but because Christ commands us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44). Their false kindness is a tactic of manipulation, but God sees their hearts. Proverbs 26:24-26 warns, *"A malicious man disguises himself with his lips, but he harbors evil in his heart. Though his speech is charming, don’t believe him; for there are seven abominations in his heart. His malice may be concealed by deception, but his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly."*

Let us pray together for you:

*Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before You, asking for Your healing touch upon the deep wounds inflicted by years of bullying and manipulation. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the lingering anger. We ask that You would soften their heart toward forgiveness, not as a dismissal of the wrong done, but as an act of obedience and freedom in You. Break the chains of bitterness and resentment, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Expose the schemes of the enemy in this situation—let every lie, every manipulation, and every demonic influence be brought into the light and rendered powerless by the blood of Jesus. We pray that these individuals would either be convicted by Your Spirit or that You would remove their influence entirely from our brother’s/sister’s life. Guard their mind, Lord, and help them to see these people through Your eyes—not as victims of their own sin, but as souls in desperate need of Your redemption, even if they currently reject You. Strengthen them to walk in forgiveness, knowing that vengeance belongs to You. Surround them with godly community that will speak truth, offer support, and remind them of their identity in Christ. Let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and let Your light shine so brightly in them that the darkness flees. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.*

We also encourage you to seek godly counseling if you haven’t already. The effects of long-term bullying can linger in ways we don’t always recognize, and a wise, Bible-believing counselor can help you process these wounds in a healthy, Christ-centered way. Additionally, we urge you to stand firm in your identity in Christ. You are *not* defined by the lies of your bullies or their twisted perceptions of you. You are a child of God, redeemed, loved, and called for His purposes (1 Peter 2:9). The enemy may try to dim your light, but he cannot extinguish it—because it is *Christ’s* light in you (Matthew 5:14-16).

Finally, we must address something critical: in your request, you did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we implore you to do so. True freedom—from bitterness, from the enemy’s schemes, from the pain of the past—is found only in Him. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. If you *have* trusted in Christ, then we encourage you to always approach the throne of grace in His name, for it is your authority and your right as a believer.

Stand firm, beloved. The battle is the Lord’s, and He has already won.
 
We're so sorry to hear about the pain you've gone through, but we're here for you. It's true that forgiveness is a journey, and it's okay to feel stuck or struggle with it. Remember, forgiveness isn't about excusing their behavior or pretending it didn't happen. It's about letting go of the bitterness and resentment that's been weighing you down.

We've been praying for you, asking God to heal the deep wounds caused by the bullying and manipulation. We've asked Him to soften your heart towards forgiveness, not for their sake, but for your own freedom in Him. We've also prayed for the individuals involved, that God would either convict their hearts or remove their influence from your life. We believe in the power of prayer, and we trust that God is working in your situation.

We encourage you to keep seeking godly counsel if you haven't already. A wise, Bible-believing counselor can help you process these wounds in a healthy, Christ-centered way. Also, remember your identity in Christ. You are not defined by the lies of your bullies or their twisted perceptions of you. You are a child of God, redeemed, loved, and called for His purposes.

Lastly, we want to remind you of the power of Jesus' name. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. If you haven't yet surrendered your life to Christ, we encourage you to do so. True freedom from bitterness, from the enemy's schemes, and from the pain of the past is found only in Him. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. If you have trusted in Christ, then we encourage you to always approach the throne of grace in His name, for it is your authority and your right as a believer.

Keep standing firm, beloved. The battle is the Lord's, and He has already won. We're here for you, praying with you every step of the way.
 
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

 
We want to thank you for allowing us the sacred opportunity to lift your heart before the Lord in prayer over these past days. The wounds of bullying—especially when carried from childhood into adulthood—can leave deep scars, and we know how painful it must be to see those same individuals continue to act with manipulation and cruelty, even now. It is a heavy burden to bear, and we have been earnestly praying for God’s healing, wisdom, and protection over you as you navigate these ongoing struggles.

The enemy loves to twist truth and use people to sow confusion, but we serve a God who exposes darkness and brings light to every hidden place. We’ve been asking the Lord to reveal any areas where forgiveness may still feel like a battle, not because He expects you to excuse the harm done to you, but because He wants to free you from the weight of it. True forgiveness is a process, and it doesn’t mean what was done to you was right—it means releasing the power those memories and people have over your heart into God’s hands.

If the Lord has brought you peace, clarity, or even small steps forward in this journey, we would love to rejoice with you in a praise report. If the struggle still feels heavy, we want you to know we are here to stand with you again—please don’t hesitate to share an update so we can continue to cover you in prayer. You are not alone in this, and we believe God is working even now to redeem what was broken and to shield you from further harm.

May the Lord surround you with His presence, remind you of your worth in Christ, and give you the strength to walk in victory over every lie the enemy has tried to plant in your mind. We are praying for you, believing that God will bring justice, healing, and a supernatural peace that guards your heart and mind.

In Jesus’ name.
 

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