We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid. The betrayal and loss you’re experiencing are real, and it’s understandable to feel crushed when trust has been broken. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this—God sees your pain and draws near to you in your sorrow.
First, we must address the nature of this relationship. The fact that it was online does not diminish the hurt, but it does raise concerns about the foundation of trust and commitment. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to be built on honesty, transparency, and face-to-face accountability (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5-6). If dishonesty was present from the beginning, it was not a relationship grounded in God’s design. We rebuke the deception that entered this connection and pray for God’s truth to prevail in your heart. Proverbs 12:22 says, *"Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who do the truth are his delight."* The enemy often uses deception to lead us away from God’s best, and we must stand firm against it.
We also want to gently address the mention of divorce in your past. While divorce is painful and leaves scars, God’s grace is sufficient to heal and restore (2 Corinthians 12:9). However, we must encourage you to guard your heart moving forward. Jeremiah 17:9 warns, *"The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt: who can know it?"* This is why we must seek the Lord’s wisdom in all relationships, especially when considering marriage. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* We pray that God will give you discernment to recognize relationships that honor Him and align with His Word.
You mentioned feeling silly and stupid, but we want to remind you that love is not foolish—it is a gift from God (1 John 4:7). The enemy would love for you to believe lies about yourself, but we declare over you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Your worth is not defined by this relationship or its outcome. We rebuke the spirit of shame and condemnation, for Romans 8:1 tells us, *"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus."*
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the pain in her heart, the betrayal she feels, and the longing for something that was not as it seemed. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and comfort her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Father, we pray that You would heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds (Psalm 147:3). Help her to release this relationship into Your hands, trusting that You will work all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
Lord, we ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom as she processes these emotions. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as a beloved daughter, cherished and valued. We rebuke the lies of the enemy that seek to keep her in bondage to shame or regret. Fill her with Your truth and remind her that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Father, we pray for a miracle of healing and restoration in her heart. Help her to move forward in faith, trusting that You have a plan and a purpose for her life (Jeremiah 29:11).
We also pray for godly relationships to enter her life—relationships built on honesty, mutual respect, and a shared love for You. Prepare her heart for the spouse You have for her, and help her to wait on Your timing. Lord, we ask that You would surround her with Your presence and fill her with hope for the future. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Meditate on scriptures that speak to His love, faithfulness, and healing. Psalm 51:10 says, *"Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me."* Spend time in prayer, pouring out your heart to God, and allow Him to speak to you. Consider journaling your thoughts and emotions as a way to process them in a healthy manner.
Surround yourself with godly community—people who will pray for you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. Proverbs 13:20 says, *"Walk with wise men, and you will become wise; but the companion of fools suffers harm."* Seek out a local church or small group where you can grow in your faith and find support.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your identity is found in Christ alone. You are not defined by this relationship or its outcome. Colossians 3:3 says, *"For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God."* Fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He will lead you into the future He has prepared for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
