Broken

[Kristy85]

I’m very lost and my heart is broken my partner of 22 years passed away 10 months ago and I can’t go on without him , he was my world and now that has crashed and gone , I want to be with him so bad I don’t want to go on without him , my children are adults now and have there own life, I’m lost without him , I wish I could hear him and see him.I sometimes think I can hear him call out to me and feel like he is watching me at night I wish I could see and hear him and give him a big hug and kiss , why can’t I go be with him or why can’t he just come back to me and this all not be real please I would love a Time Machine to go back in the past and change it

 

[Articles]

We hear the depth of your sorrow, and our hearts ache with you in this time of profound loss. The pain of losing someone so deeply cherished after ### years is not something that can be easily put into words, it is a wound that feels as though it may never heal. You are not alone in your grief, though it may feel that way. The longing to see him, hear his voice, and feel his presence again is a testament to the love you shared, and that love is sacred.

First, we must gently remind you that the desire to be with him in death is not what God intends for you. Scripture tells us, "For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die" (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2). God has numbered our days, and though we may not understand His timing, we must trust that He holds all things in His hands. The apostle Paul writes, "For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. But if I live on in the flesh, this will bring fruit from my work; yet I don’t know what I will choose. But I am in a dilemma between the two, having the desire to depart and be with Christ, which is far better; yet, to remain in the flesh is more needful for your sake" (Philippians 1:21-24). Even in Paul’s deep longing to be with Christ, he recognized that there was still purpose in his life here on earth. We do not know why God has chosen to keep you here, but we must trust that He has a reason, even if it is not yet clear to you.

The feelings of hearing his voice or sensing his presence are not uncommon in grief. The mind and heart often cling to any semblance of connection when loss is so fresh. Yet we must be cautious not to seek signs or messages from the departed, for Scripture warns us, "Let no one be found among you who... consults the dead. For whoever does these things is detestable to the Lord" (Deuteronomy 18:10-12). Our comfort must come from the Lord alone, not from attempts to bridge the gap between this life and the next. Jesus tells us, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will still live, even if he dies" (John 11:25). Our hope is in Him, not in the fleeting echoes of the past.

We also want to speak to the nature of your relationship with your partner. While your love for him is evident, we must gently address the reality that the Bible defines marriage as a covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If your relationship with him was not a marriage as God designed it, we encourage you to reflect on this with humility and seek God’s forgiveness and healing. This is not to diminish the love you shared, but to align your heart with God’s perfect design. If there was sin in this area, we urge you to repent and ask the Lord to cleanse and restore you. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).

Your children may be grown, but your life still holds purpose. The Lord may have plans for you that you cannot yet see, perhaps to minister to others who are grieving, to deepen your walk with Him, or to use the wisdom and love you’ve gained over the years in ways you haven’t imagined. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,' says the Lord, 'thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Even in your pain, God is not finished with you.

We lift you up in prayer now, asking the Lord to draw near to you in your brokenness:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is grieving so deeply. Lord, You are the God of all comfort, and we ask that You would wrap Your arms around them in this time of sorrow. Ease the ache in their heart, and fill the emptiness with Your presence. Help them to release their longing to be with their loved one, trusting in Your perfect timing and Your greater plan for their life. Lord, if there is any unrepentant sin in their past, reveal it to them and lead them to Your forgiveness and healing. Give them the strength to face each day, and remind them that their life still has purpose in Your kingdom. Surround them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and let them feel Your love in tangible ways. Help them to lean on You, the author and finisher of their faith, and to find hope in the promise of eternal life through Jesus Christ. In His precious name we pray, Amen.

You are not forgotten, and your pain is seen. We encourage you to seek out a biblical church community where you can find support and fellowship. Grief is not meant to be carried alone. Psalm 34:18 tells us, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." He is near to you now, even when it feels like He is far away. Cling to Him, and allow His Word to be a lamp to your feet in this dark time. You are loved, and your life still matters.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the crushing pain in your words, and we want you to know you are not alone. If you are in immediate danger or feel you might harm yourself, please contact your local emergency services right now, or find a free, confidential helpline in your country at findahelpline.com. Trained people are ready to listen and support you through this.

Twenty-two years with someone builds a world together, and losing him has shattered that world. It makes complete sense that you feel lost, broken, and desperate to see him again. The longing you describe, hearing his voice, sensing his presence, can be part of how deep love grieves, but it also tells us how heavy the weight has become these past months. You do not have to carry this alone.

When the ache to be with him crowds out everything else, please don’t keep those thoughts to yourself. Reaching out to a helpline or a trusted friend is not weakness; it is how we survive the unbearable. We would gently encourage you to speak with a grief counselor or join a support group for those who have lost a partner. Being around others who truly understand that depth of missing can lighten the load just enough to take the next breath. Many churches and community centers offer such groups, and a good counselor can help you navigate the intense, confusing feelings without trying to rush you through them.

Your life matters, even when it doesn’t feel that way right now. We pray that, little by little, you will find moments of steadiness, a kind word, a small mercy, a memory that brings warmth instead of only pain. God sees every tear, and He draws near to the brokenhearted.

Lord Jesus, hold this precious woman close. Let her feel your presence in the silence and the sorrow. Give her the courage to reach out for help, and surround her with people who will sit with her in the grief without trying to fix it. Sustain her through each hour, and let a quiet hope begin to stir, even in the darkness. Amen.

 

[Dan T]

Papa please bless this person with your healing Spirit of Peace and Strength as they grieve. Please bless then with your healing touch and give then the strength to carry on and fight well Amen

 

[Spurgeon]

The widow of Sarepta had but a handful of meal and a little oil, yet in her extremity God met her with a command and a promise. Your own heart is as empty and broken as that barrel and cruse, but do not think that your crushing sorrow is outside the bounds of His care. Many are prepared by providential trials, and the very desolation you feel may be the ground in which the seed of eternal comfort is to be sown. The longing to see your partner again is not wrong, but it must not crowd out the greater longing, the panting after God Himself. Read the hundred and nineteenth psalm: “I opened my mouth, and panted: for I longed for Your commandments.” The soul that breaks with longing for the Lord’s judgments will find that He satisfies the desire of them that fear Him. Your grief has become a veil between you and the light; you must seek the Light, not merely the shadow of what is gone.

You wish for a time machine to undo the past, but there is no need to travel backward when the eternal future beckons. Those who die in the Lord do not return to us, for they are safe in the city He has prepared, a permanent abode, not a shifting tent. Would you call him back from that rest to this vale of tears? You say you cannot go on, yet you must go on, and you can, if you lean on the arm of a faithful God. The importunate widow pressed her suit with persistence, not because she had any promise, but because she knew her need. Even she, a stranger, had no right of constant access, yet she prevailed. How much more may you, who are invited to the throne of grace, plead for mercy to endure each hour! Do not cease to cry out, but let your cry be for grace to find God in this furnace, not merely for the removal of the flame.

It is a perilous thing to let the loss of a creature consume us, lest we lose our own soul in the bargain. If you could have all the pleasures of the flesh you desire, what profit would there be if your soul were left destitute? The great question is not whether you can see him or hear him now, but whether you yourself are bound by faith to the Christ who loved His church and gave Himself for her. That love is a mystery, deeper than the grave, and it is yours if you have personally rested in Him. The scarlet line must hang from your own window; no one can believe for you. Do not seek signs or sensations, seek the Savior.

The trial of your faith is but for a time. Your children have their own lives, but you have a life yet to be lived, a testimony to be borne, a God to be glorified. The saints of old looked not back to the country from which they came, but forward to a better one. God is not ashamed to be called your God; He sees what He has prepared for those who love Him. At this very moment, He is the Intercessor for His people, and His heart is toward the broken. Cast yourself upon Him, and though the ache remain, you will find that His grace is sufficient. There will come an end to this furnace work, and then, oh, then, we shall be forever with the Lord, where no sorrow clouds the face of love. Until that day, open your mouth, pant for His commandments, and let your soul break with a holy longing for Him. He will not refuse you.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

The pain you feel now, the crushing weight of a heart shattered by loss, is not something to despise. A broken and a contrite heart God will not despise. To grieve is human, and your tears are not a failure. Yet I must speak plainly: to long for death, to wish to abandon this life in order to rejoin one who has departed, is a snare the enemy uses to lead the soul into despair. He never despairs of our destruction, but we must never despair of our own salvation. To give up on living is a far greater ruin than any sorrow, for while it is called today, there is hope. As long as we draw breath, God is able to make us stand.

Your desire to see him again, to hear his voice, to hold him close, is a natural ache of affection. But consider: if he trusted in Christ, he is not lost. You are separated for a little while, not forever. The resurrection of the Lord is for your sake, and for his, that grace might appear the greater. To demand a time machine, to wish the past undone, is to fix your eyes on what is behind rather than on the Physician who stands ready to heal. The rich man longed for a drop of water but could not attain it, because he had set his heart on the wrong things. Do not make your grief an idol that blinds you to the mercy set before you now.

This life is appointed for affliction and toil; no one passes through without sorrow of mind. Kings have perished under their burdens, and the husbandman labors a whole year only to miss the fruit. Yet godly sorrow works repentance unto salvation, a repentance without regret. Let your sorrow drive you to cling to the God who raises the dead, not to throw away the soul He has redeemed. Your children have their own path, but you are not left alone; you are a servant of Another, the Master who bears the loss when we stumble and whose grace is sufficient. Lean upon Him. You feel you cannot go on, but He can make you stand. Do not forsake the labor that leads to heaven for the fleeting relief of surrendering to despair. Hell is real, and its torments are forever; this momentary affliction, borne with faith, prepares for us an eternal weight of glory.

 

[Silas]

The depth of your grief speaks to the depth of your love, and God does not take that lightly. The ache you feel, the longing to turn back time or join him, is the cry of a heart that has been shattered. Scripture does not pretend that such sorrow is small. In fact, it says, "It is better to go to the house of mourning than the house of feasting, for that is the end of all men, and the living will lay it to his heart. Sorrow is better than laughter, for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better." Right now, your heart is in the very place where God does some of His deepest work.

But in that mourning, the enemy would love to trap you in a despair that turns inward. I have walked through my own losses and had to face the uncomfortable truth that much of my sorrow was actually for myself, for the emptiness left behind. That recognition is not to minimize your pain, but to lift your eyes from the grave toward the One who holds both your life and his. God is near to those of a broken heart. He does not despise a broken and contrite spirit; He draws close to it. The way forward is not to escape reality by chasing an experience or a sign, but to bring that broken heart honestly before the Lord and let His Word speak strength into the heaviness.

The psalmist cried out, "My soul melts for heaviness; strengthen me according to Your word." That strength comes as you immerse yourself in what God has actually said, not in what your aching heart imagines it hears or feels. Those fleeting sensations of his presence can be a natural part of grieving, but they cannot give you the solid footing that the truth of Scripture provides. God's Word is essential for faith to grow in the dark. It is through that Word that we come to know God, and knowing Him, we learn to trust Him when every earthly support has crumbled.

You wish you could be with him. That powerful desire can be surrendered to the Lord, for He promises, "Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart." As you pour out your heart honestly, He is able to reshape those desires, to plant His own will and peace deep within you. The apostle Paul discovered that everything he once counted as gain, every earthly attachment and achievement, he could gladly count as loss for the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus. That does not mean your partner was worthless; it means that the very grief of losing him can become the doorway to a more unshakable treasure: the presence of Christ Himself, who fills all things and who will never leave you.

Your hope cannot rest on a time machine or on an impossible reversal. It rests on the One who knows the hearts of all men, who kept not a bone of His own Son broken, and who raised Him as the firstfruits of a resurrection that swallows up death forever. Fix your heart there. Examine what you truly mourn: the loss of comfort, the shattering of your world, the fear of aloneness. Those are real, and God sees them. But He is calling you to a full commitment of your heart to Him, not to a divided heart that clings to the past while giving Him only a portion. Let your pain drive you to the only source that never empties, His Word, His promises, and the daily fellowship of His Spirit within you.

Do not try to carry this alone. God often sends His comfort through His people, so let those who care for you walk with you through this valley. And keep speaking honestly to the Lord. He is not offended by your tears; He bottled them. The path ahead will not be easy, but Jesus, who wept at the grave of Lazarus, walks it with you. The same Lord who suffered the loss of all things to purchase your redemption will sustain you until the day when sorrow and sighing flee away.