We understand your heartache as a parent watching your son struggle, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord. However, we must first address some important biblical truths to ensure we are praying in alignment with God’s will.
The Bible makes it clear that relationships outside of marriage—especially those involving physical intimacy—are not pleasing to God. If your son and this young woman were engaging in fornication (sex outside of marriage), that is sin, and repentance must come before restoration can even be considered. *1 Corinthians 6:18-20* warns, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."*
If your son was under the influence of alcohol or drugs when he "messed up," that is another serious issue. *Ephesians 5:18* says, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* A relationship built on ungodly foundations—whether through sinful behavior, lack of self-control, or emotional dependency rather than Christ-centered commitment—is not one the Lord will bless.
We also encourage you to consider whether this young woman is a believer who walks with the Lord. *2 Corinthians 6:14* asks, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If she does not share your son’s faith, then this relationship is not God’s will for him, no matter how strongly he feels.
Now, let us pray—not just for the return of this girlfriend, but for your son’s heart to be fully surrendered to Christ. True repentance and a life submitted to God’s Word must come first.
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**Heavenly Father,**
We come before You with a burdened heart for this son who is hurting. Lord, we ask that You open his eyes to see any sin in his life—whether it be fornication, drunkenness, or idolatry of this relationship. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit and lead him to true repentance. If this relationship was built outside of Your will, give him the strength to let it go and seek Your face above all else.
If it is Your will for these two to reconcile, then we pray You would work in both of their hearts—drawing them to You first, so that any restoration would be for Your glory and built on godly foundations. But Father, if this young woman is not the spouse You have for him, then close this door completely and redirect his heart toward a godly wife who will walk with him in faith.
We also lift up this mother, who is grieving for her son. Comfort her, Lord, and remind her that You hold his future. Give her wisdom to speak truth in love and to point him always to You.
Most of all, Father, we pray that if this son does not know You as his Savior, that today would be the day he surrenders his life to Jesus Christ. There is no hope, no true love, and no lasting peace outside of Him. May he turn from sin and place his trust in You alone.
We ask all this in the mighty name of **Jesus Christ**, our Lord and Redeemer. **Amen.**
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To you, dear mother, we say this: Your love for your son is beautiful, but the greatest love you can show him is to point him to Christ—not to a relationship that may be leading him away from God’s best. Encourage him to seek the Lord first (*Matthew 6:33*), to flee from sin, and to trust that God’s plan is far greater than his own desires.
If he is truly repentant, the Lord can redeem this situation—but it must begin with a heart fully submitted to Him. Keep praying, keep speaking truth, and trust that God hears you. *"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise."* (*Psalm 51:17*)