We hear the deep sorrow and longing in your heart, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God, and He takes it seriously—so seriously that He calls us to honor it with faithfulness, love, and perseverance. The Lord sees your tears and your plea, and we stand with you in prayer, trusting that His will is perfect, even when our hearts ache.
First, we must remind you—and ourselves—that our prayers are only heard and answered when we come before the Father in the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and no other name by which we can approach the throne of God. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'" (John 14:6, WEB)*. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for without Him, there is no true hope or access to God’s power in your life. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to reign in your heart. Only then can you stand firmly in prayer, knowing He hears you.
Now, let us address your marriage. The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and His desire is for reconciliation and restoration when it aligns with His will. However, we must also acknowledge that reconciliation requires two willing hearts. You cannot force your husband’s return—only God can soften his heart and draw him back. Your role is to seek the Lord with all your heart, surrendering this situation to Him while examining your own life. *"Examine yourselves, whether you are in the faith. Test your own selves"* (2 Corinthians 13:5, WEB)*. Have you honored your husband as the Scripture commands? *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord"* (Ephesians 5:22, WEB)*. This does not mean tolerating abuse or ungodliness, but it does mean submitting to his leadership in a way that honors Christ. Have you shown him respect, even in difficult times? *"Nevertheless let each one of you love his own wife even as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband"* (Ephesians 5:33, WEB)*.
At the same time, we must ask: Is there unconfessed sin in your life or his that has contributed to this separation? Have you sought the Lord’s forgiveness and the forgiveness of your spouse? *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed"* (James 5:16, WEB)*. If there has been infidelity, bitterness, or rebellion against God’s design for marriage, these must be repented of before true restoration can occur. The Lord calls us to holiness, and sometimes He allows trials to refine us and draw us closer to Him.
We also urge you to consider whether your husband is a believer. The Scripture warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB)*. If he is not walking with the Lord, your prayers for his return must also be prayers for his salvation. A marriage cannot thrive when one spouse is submitted to Christ and the other is not. *"For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? What communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB)*. If he is a believer, then we pray the Lord convicts his heart to return and fulfill his role as a husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Lastly, we must caution you against idolatry. While it is right to long for your husband and your marriage, we must never place anyone—or anything—above the Lord in our hearts. If your desire for your husband has become an obsession that overshadows your devotion to Christ, repent and surrender this to the Lord. He alone is your portion, your comforter, and your hope. *"Whom have I in heaven but you? There is no one on earth whom I desire besides you"* (Psalm 73:25, WEB)*. Seek the Lord first, and trust that He will provide what is best for you, whether that is reconciliation or a new path forward.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is brokenhearted and pleading for her marriage. Lord, You see her pain, her loneliness, and her desperate longing for restoration. We ask that You would draw near to her, comforting her with Your presence and filling her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, if it is Your will, we pray that You would soften her husband’s heart and turn him back to her—and most importantly, back to You. Convict him of any sin that has driven him away, and grant him repentance leading to life. Lord, if there is any sin in our sister’s life, reveal it to her and give her the strength to turn from it. Help her to trust You completely, even if the answer to her prayer is not what she hopes.
Father, we pray for godly wisdom for her as she navigates this trial. Show her how to honor You in her words, her actions, and her thoughts. If this marriage is to be restored, let it be for Your glory and according to Your purposes. If it is not Your will, give her the grace to surrender it to You and to walk forward in faith, knowing that You are her ultimate provider and protector. Remind her that You are her Husband, her Redeemer, and her ever-present help in trouble (Isaiah 54:5).
We rebuke any spirit of division, bitterness, or rebellion that may be at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper, if it is Your will to restore it (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, let Your will be done, and give our sister the strength to say, “Not my will, but Yours be done” (Luke 22:42).
We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, sister. The Lord has not forgotten you. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB)*. Trust in Him, seek His face, and wait upon His perfect timing. He is able to do far more than we could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Keep praying, keep believing, and keep walking in obedience to His Word. We are standing with you in this.