We hear the deep pain and heartbreak in your words, and we grieve with you over the betrayal and brokenness you have endured. The wounds you describe are not just emotional—they cut to the very soul, and we acknowledge how profoundly this has shaken your trust, your sense of worth, and your ability to believe in love again. No one should ever have to bear the weight of being discarded after giving their whole heart, especially when that love was pure, selfless, and rooted in loyalty. What was done to you was not just wrong—it was sinful, and it stands in direct opposition to how God calls His people to love.
The Bible speaks clearly about the sacredness of love and the gravity of betrayal. Proverbs 3:3-4 reminds us, *"Don’t let kindness and truth forsake you. Bind them around your neck. Write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor, and good understanding in the sight of God and man."* Yet, the one who hurt you failed to uphold this. Instead, they mirrored the warning of Proverbs 14:22: *"Don’t those who plot evil go astray? But love and faithfulness belong to those who plan good."* The love you offered was a reflection of God’s heart—unconditional, hopeful, and redemptive. But the response you received was one of destruction, and that is not of God.
We must also address something critical: your pain reveals how deeply you loved, but it also exposes a truth that must not be overlooked—this relationship was not built on the foundation of Christ. If it had been, the betrayal you experienced would not have happened, for a man who truly follows Jesus does not crush the heart of the woman he claims to love. Ephesians 5:25 commands husbands—and by extension, men courting with the intent of marriage—*"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her."* A love that reflects Christ’s sacrifice does not abandon, deceive, or leave scars. It cherishes, protects, and honors. What you endured was not love—it was selfishness, and it was sin.
If this man was not a believer, then the warning of 2 Corinthians 6:14 applies: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Unequal yokes lead to broken hearts because the world’s definition of love is fleeting and conditional, but God’s love is eternal and unchanging. If he claimed to be a believer, then his actions were a grievous contradiction of his profession, and he must repent. James 4:17 declares, *"To him therefore who knows to do good, and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin."* He knew the goodness of your love, and he chose to destroy it. That is not just failure—it is rebellion against God’s design for love.
But now, we must turn our focus to you, beloved sister. Your worth is not defined by how he treated you. Your value is not measured by his betrayal. You are *fearfully and wonderfully made* (Psalm 139:14), and your heart—though broken—is still precious in the sight of God. The enemy sought to use this pain to make you question your worth, but we declare over you the truth of Isaiah 43:4: *"Since you have been precious and honored in my sight, and I have loved you; therefore I will give people in exchange for you, and nations in exchange for your life."* God sees you. He collects every tear you’ve cried (Psalm 56:8), and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Yet, we must also ask: Where is your hope now? Your words reveal a heart that is still tethered to the pain, still speaking to the one who hurt you as if he holds power over your future. But Jesus is the one who holds your future, and He is the only one who can heal what was broken. Have you surrendered this wound to Him? Or are you still carrying it, replaying the betrayal as if it has the final say? The truth is, your healing will not come from the one who broke you. It will come from the One who was broken *for* you. Isaiah 53:5 promises, *"But he was pierced for our transgressions. He was crushed for our iniquities. The punishment that brought our peace was on him; and by his wounds we are healed."*
So we pray for you now, in the mighty name of Jesus:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, the God who binds up the brokenhearted and sets the captives free. Lord, she has carried this pain for too long, and the weight of betrayal has left her questioning her worth, her ability to trust, and even her future. But You, O God, are the restorer of all things. We ask that You would break the chains of bitterness, resentment, and sorrow that have wrapped around her heart. Replace her tears with Your oil of joy (Psalm 30:5). Where the enemy meant this for her harm, turn it for her good (Genesis 50:20). Remind her that her identity is not in how she was treated, but in how You see her—redeemed, beloved, and chosen.
Lord, if she has not yet released this hurt to You, we ask that You would give her the strength to lay it at the foot of the cross. Help her to forgive—not because the one who hurt her deserves it, but because *she* deserves freedom. Unforgiveness is a prison, and You did not call her to live in chains. Teach her to trust again, but this time, to place her trust first and foremost in You. Guard her heart as she heals, and lead her to a community of believers who will speak life over her and remind her of Your promises.
Father, if there was sin in this relationship—whether it was emotional idolatry, physical compromise, or an unequal yoke—we ask for Your conviction and cleansing. Show her where she strayed from Your design for love, not to shame her, but to protect her from future pain. Give her wisdom to recognize red flags and the courage to walk away from anything that does not align with Your Word.
And finally, Lord, we pray for her future. If it is Your will, restore to her the joy of love—but this time, let it be a love that honors You. Bring a godly man into her life, one who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the church, one who will lead her closer to You, not further away. But even if marriage is not Your plan for her, satisfy her with Your love alone. Let her find her completion in You, not in another person.
We rebuke the spirit of rejection, abandonment, and self-doubt that has tried to take root in her life. By the blood of Jesus, we declare that she is *more than a conqueror* (Romans 8:37) and that her story is not over. You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5), and we trust You to restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).
In the mighty name of Jesus, our Healer and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Now to you, sister: The road to healing will not be easy, but it is possible. Surround yourself with godly counsel—women who will pray with you, speak truth over you, and hold you accountable to walk in forgiveness. Avoid the temptation to isolate yourself or to seek comfort in distractions that will only numb the pain temporarily. Instead, press into the Word of God. Meditate on Scriptures that remind you of His love for you, such as Zephaniah 3:17: *"The Lord, your God, is among you, a mighty one who will save. He will rejoice over you with joy. He will calm you in his love. He will rejoice over you with singing."*
If you have not already, we urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Were there areas in this relationship where you compromised your standards? Did you ignore red flags because you feared being alone? Did you place this man on a pedestal where only God should be? These are hard questions, but they are necessary for true healing. God’s grace covers all sin, but we must first acknowledge where we strayed from His path.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise: *"For I know the plans that I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans for peace and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."* (Jeremiah 29:11). Your story is not defined by how you were broken. It is defined by how God will restore you. Trust Him. He will not fail you.
