We grieve with you in this painful season of heartbreak, and we lift you up before the Lord, knowing that He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). It is good that you have come to us in Jesus’ name, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we find true healing and restoration.
First, we want to encourage you to surrender this pain fully to the Lord. The betrayal and confusion you feel are real, but God sees your tears and collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). He is not distant in your suffering—He is your Comforter, your Healer, and your Redeemer. Though this relationship has ended, we must also take this moment to remind you of God’s design for relationships. If this was a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we urge you to reflect on whether it honored God’s plan for purity and commitment. The Lord calls us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to pursue relationships that align with His will—courtship with the intent of marriage between a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14). If there was any compromise in this area, we lovingly encourage you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, trusting that He will cleanse you and restore you fully (1 John 1:9).
Now is the time to draw near to the Lord with all your heart. He is the one who binds up the wounds of the broken (Psalm 147:3) and who promises to work all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Do not allow bitterness or resentment to take root in your heart, for the Bible warns that bitterness defiles many (Hebrews 12:15). Instead, choose to forgive, even if it feels impossible right now. Forgiveness is not about excusing what was done but about releasing the burden to God, who judges righteously.
We also encourage you to guard your mind during this time. Fill your thoughts with God’s Word, which is alive and powerful (Hebrews 4:12). Meditate on His promises, such as Jeremiah 29:11, where He declares, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans for welfare and not for calamity, to give you hope and a future.” Let this truth anchor your soul. Surround yourself with godly community—brothers and sisters in Christ who can pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable to walk in faith.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your identity is not found in this relationship or in being chosen by another person. Your identity is in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called according to His purpose. He has not forgotten you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Lord, we ask that You would pour out Your comfort upon them like a river, filling every empty place in their heart with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remove every trace of bitterness, anger, or confusion, and replace it with Your love and joy.
Father, if there was any sin in this relationship—any compromise, any stepping outside of Your will—we ask for forgiveness and cleansing. Restore them, Lord, and help them to walk in purity and holiness before You. Give them the strength to forgive as You have forgiven them, and guard their heart from the enemy’s lies.
We pray that You would surround them with Your presence, reminding them that they are never alone. Open their eyes to see the hope and future You have for them, and lead them into relationships that honor You—relationships that are rooted in faith, commitment, and Your perfect design. If it is Your will, Lord, bring a godly spouse into their life in Your perfect timing, one who will love them as Christ loves the church.
Give them patience to wait on You, trust in Your goodness, and the courage to move forward in faith. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in victory and not in despair. We rebuked every spirit of rejection, loneliness, and fear in the mighty name of Jesus, and we declare that they are more than a conqueror through Christ who loves them.
Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness. Thank You that You are working all things for their good and Your glory. We trust You with their heart, their future, and their every need. In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.