We hear the deep cry of your heart, and we join you in lifting this burden to our Heavenly Father, who sees your struggles and loves you beyond measure. You have come to the right place—casting your cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). We praise you for acknowledging Jesus as your Savior and Lord, for it is only through His name that we find salvation, forgiveness, and access to the Father. Your faith in Him is your anchor in this storm, and we stand with you in prayer, believing that God will bring breakthrough in every area of your life.
First, let us address your relationship with your daughter. The behavior you describe—disrespect, stealing, lying, manipulation, and destruction—is not only painful but is also a reflection of a heart that is in rebellion against authority, both yours and ultimately God’s. The Bible warns us that "foolishness is bound in the heart of a child," but it also tells us that "the rod of correction drives it far from him" (Proverbs 22:15). This does not necessarily mean physical discipline alone, but it does mean consistent, loving, and firm correction rooted in biblical truth. Your daughter needs to understand that her actions have consequences, not just in this life but eternally. The Bible is clear that liars, thieves, and the rebellious will not inherit the Kingdom of God unless they repent (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Revelation 21:8). This is not a time to enable her behavior but to lovingly confront it with truth and the gospel.
Have you shared the gospel with her? Does she know that her sin separates her from God and that Jesus is the only way to forgiveness and restoration? If not, this is the most critical step. No amount of behavioral modification will change her heart—only the Holy Spirit can do that. Pray for her salvation daily, and look for opportunities to speak truth into her life, even if she resists. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9).
We also urge you to seek godly counsel and support. You mentioned that you were turned away when trying to get her help, but do not stop seeking. Reach out to your church for biblical counseling or connect with a trusted pastor. If your church does not have these resources, look for a biblical counseling ministry in your area. You are not meant to walk this path alone, and the body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). If you feel unsupported, it may be time to seek out a community of believers who will stand with you in prayer and practical help. Isolation is not God’s design for His children.
As for your financial struggles, we know that God is your Provider. The stress of bills, legal fees, and the aftermath of your car accident is overwhelming, but we serve a God who owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10). He is not unaware of your needs. We encourage you to bring your financial burdens before Him in prayer, asking for wisdom and provision. The Bible tells us, "But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33). This does not mean that God will always provide in the way we expect, but He will provide what we *need* according to His riches in glory (Philippians 4:19).
We also urge you to take practical steps. If your attorney is not assisting you as they should, seek wisdom on whether you need to find new representation or address the issue directly with them. Be proactive in managing your finances, cutting unnecessary expenses, and seeking godly advice on stewardship. God often works through our obedience and diligence, not just our prayers.
Regarding your job, we know that stress can feel unbearable, but we encourage you to work as unto the Lord (Colossians 3:23). Even in difficult circumstances, God calls us to excellence and integrity. If this job is truly toxic and you have the ability to seek other employment, pray for God’s guidance and open doors. But if this is your current provision, ask God to give you strength and wisdom to navigate it while you trust Him for something better. Remember, "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).
Lastly, we must address the statement you made: *"Please just give advice but never a helping hand."* We understand that you may feel abandoned by people, but this is not God’s heart for His children. The body of Christ is called to *be* the helping hand (James 2:14-17). If you are part of a church, we strongly encourage you to humble yourself and allow others to serve you in practical ways—whether through prayer, meals, financial assistance, or emotional support. Pride can sometimes keep us from receiving the help God wants to provide through His people. Do not let bitterness or past hurts prevent you from experiencing the love and support of your brothers and sisters in Christ.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is weary, burdened, and in desperate need of Your breakthrough. Lord, You see her struggles—her heartbreak over her daughter’s rebellion, the financial pressures that feel crushing, the stress of her job, and the loneliness she carries. Father, we ask that You would meet her in this place of desperation and remind her that she is not alone, for You are with her always (Matthew 28:20).
Lord Jesus, we pray for her daughter. Soften her heart, Lord, and open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict her of sin and draw her to repentance. Give our sister wisdom, strength, and discernment as she parents her daughter in this difficult season. May she parent with love, firmness, and grace, always pointing her daughter to You. Surround this young woman with godly influences and remove any ungodly ones. Break the chains of rebellion, deceit, and destruction in her life, and replace them with a spirit of obedience and reverence for You.
Father, we ask for financial breakthrough. You know the bills that are piling up, the legal battles she faces, and the stress that weighs her down. We pray that You would provide for her needs according to Your riches in glory. Give her wisdom in managing her resources and favor in her dealings with her attorney and any other authorities involved. Open doors for additional income or unexpected provision, and help her to trust You even when the way forward seems impossible.
Lord, we pray for her job. If it is Your will for her to remain there, give her supernatural strength, patience, and joy as she works unto You. If there is another opportunity You have for her, make the path clear and provide the means for her to transition. Remove any fear or anxiety and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
Father, we rebuke the spirit of loneliness and isolation that has taken hold. Remind her that she is part of Your body, the church, and that You have not forgotten her. Bring godly people into her life who will support, encourage, and walk with her through this season. Heal her heart from any bitterness or resentment toward those who have failed to help her, and help her to receive the love and assistance You want to provide through Your people.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that she would draw closer to You in this time. Let her find her strength, hope, and identity in You alone. Remind her that You are her Refuge and Strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in joy, peace, and victory regardless of her circumstances.
We declare breakthrough in her life—spiritually, emotionally, financially, and relationally. We speak life, restoration, and hope over her and her daughter. May she see Your hand move mightily in her situation, and may she give You all the glory.
In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
We will continue to lift you up in prayer, and we encourage you to keep seeking the Lord, trusting that He is working even when you cannot see it. Hold fast to His promises, for He is faithful (2 Thessalonians 3:3). If you would like further guidance on any specific area—parenting, finances, or finding a supportive church community—please let us know. You are not alone in this.
