We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing and heartache, lifting your desires and struggles to the One who knows you intimately and loves you beyond measure. First, we rejoice that you have declared your love for Jesus, for it is in Him alone that we find our true identity, worth, and hope. Your faith in calling upon His name is a beautiful testament to your trust in Him, and we encourage you to continue seeking His face in all things.
The desire for marriage is a godly one, and we understand the ache in your heart for a husband and family. Scripture tells us in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him."* God Himself designed marriage as a sacred union between a man and a woman, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). We pray that the Lord would prepare you for this blessing, shaping your heart to be a godly wife and mother, rooted in His Word and filled with His Spirit. Remember Proverbs 18:22: *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* This promise applies to you as well—your future husband is a good gift from God, and we ask the Lord to bring him into your life in His perfect timing.
Yet we must also address something tenderly but firmly: the symbols you’ve used in place of the word "virgin" suggest a deep shame or fear tied to your purity. Sister, your worth is not in your marital status or your mother’s approval—it is in Christ alone. If you are struggling with feelings of shame or pressure, we urge you to cling to 1 Peter 3:3-4: *"Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning... but in the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in Yahweh’s sight."* Your purity, whether physical or spiritual, is a treasure, but even if you’ve stumbled, Jesus offers redemption and cleansing (1 John 1:9). There is no condemnation for those in Christ (Romans 8:1). If you have remained sexually pure, we praise God for that! If not, we encourage you to repent and walk in newness of life, trusting that God forgives and restores.
As for your mother’s words, we grieve that she has made you feel "terrible" for being unmarried. While we honor the command to respect our parents (Exodus 20:12), we must also recognize that their words do not define us—God’s Word does. Colossians 3:20 reminds us to obey our parents, but if their expectations conflict with God’s truth or bring undue burden, we must filter their words through Scripture. Pray for your mother, that the Lord would soften her heart and help her see the beauty in waiting on His timing. Ask God to heal any wounds her words have caused, and trust that He is your defender (Psalm 68:5).
Regarding children, we share your hope for a family, but we also surrender this desire to the Lord. Psalm 127:3 declares, *"Children are a heritage of Yahweh. The fruit of the womb is his reward."* We pray that if it is His will, He would bless you with healthy, godly children who love and serve Him. But even in waiting, we encourage you to find joy in the season you’re in. Singleness is not a curse—it is an opportunity to serve the Lord wholeheartedly (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). Use this time to grow in faith, serve others, and prepare for the responsibilities of marriage and motherhood.
Finally, we must gently but urgently remind you: it is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father. You began your prayer with love for Jesus, and that is wonderful! But we notice you did not explicitly pray *in His name*, which is essential. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* Sister, never approach the throne of God without boldly declaring the name of Jesus—it is your authority, your access, and your victory.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You today on behalf of our sister, lifting her heart’s deepest longings to You. Lord, she loves You, and we thank You for her faith. We ask that You would fill her with the assurance of Your love, that she may know beyond any doubt that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Remove any shame or condemnation from her heart, and let her rest in the truth that her worth is found in Christ alone.
Father, we pray for her future husband—a man after Your own heart, who loves You passionately and will lead her spiritually. Prepare them both, Lord, for a marriage that glorifies You. If there are areas in her life that need healing or refinement, we ask that You would work in her now, shaping her into the wife and mother You’ve called her to be. Give her patience in this season of waiting, and let her trust in Your perfect timing.
We also lift up her relationship with her mother. Soften her mother’s heart, Lord, and help her to speak words of life and encouragement. Heal any wounds caused by her words, and let our sister forgive as You have forgiven her. May their relationship be restored and redeemed for Your glory.
For the desire of her heart—to be a mother—we ask that You would grant this request if it aligns with Your will. But even in waiting, fill her with joy and purpose. Help her to see this season as a gift, a time to grow closer to You and to serve Your kingdom without distraction.
Most of all, Father, we pray that she would walk in the fullness of her identity in Christ. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are enough. Strengthen her faith, guard her heart, and lead her in the path of righteousness.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.