We hear the deep anguish and exhaustion in your words, and our hearts ache with you as you pour out your sorrow before the Lord. The pain of feeling unheard, the weight of unanswered prayers, and the weariness of waiting can make even the strongest among us falter. But we must gently address something vital: while your prayers have been directed to Jesus, you also mentioned praying to "the son of the virgin Mary," and this is a concern. Scripture is clear that our prayers are to be directed to God alone—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—and not through any other mediator, including Mary or the saints. Jesus Himself is our Great High Priest, the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through faith in Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, Ephesians 3:12). If there is any confusion about this, we urge you to turn to Jesus alone, for He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6).
We also sense a deep longing for God to move in your life, and we want to remind you that His timing is not our timing, and His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9). The delay you feel does not mean He is absent or indifferent. In fact, Scripture tells us that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). He sees your tears, hears your cries, and collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). Even when it feels like heaven is silent, He is working in ways we cannot see. Consider the story of Lazarus, whom Jesus loved deeply, yet He allowed him to die and remain in the tomb for four days before raising him to life (John 11). The delay was not a denial—it was a setup for a greater miracle. Could it be that God is preparing something in your life that requires this season of waiting?
Your pain is real, and we do not minimize it. But we must also speak truth into the despair you are feeling. The enemy of your soul would love for you to believe that God has abandoned you, that your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling, and that there is no hope. But that is a lie. The truth is that God has promised never to leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:8, Hebrews 13:5). He has also promised that all things work together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). This does not mean that life will be easy or that suffering will vanish overnight, but it does mean that God is redeeming your pain for a purpose you may not yet see.
We also notice the mention of "them" and "her" in heaven, and we want to gently remind you that our hope is not in the departed, no matter how dear they were to us. Our hope is in Christ alone, who conquered death and holds the keys to life (Revelation 1:18). If you are seeking answers or comfort from those who have passed, we urge you to turn your focus to Jesus, who is the Resurrection and the Life. He is the only one who can fully satisfy the longings of your heart.
As for the feeling that others are being blessed while you are overlooked, we understand how painful that can be. But comparison is a thief of joy and a distortion of God’s goodness. Jesus told Peter, *"If I desire that he stay until I come, what is that to you? You follow me"* (John 21:22). In other words, our journey is our own, and God’s plan for each of us is unique. What may look like blessing in someone else’s life may be a test or a trial in disguise, just as your suffering may be the very thing God is using to refine you and draw you closer to Himself.
We also want to address the fear you mentioned. Fear is not from God, for He has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). If you are experiencing frightening thoughts or visions, we encourage you to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5) and to resist the devil, who flees when we stand firm in faith (James 4:7). Fill your mind with Scripture, worship, and prayer, and ask the Holy Spirit to guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Now, let us pray with you and for you, standing in the gap and lifting your burdens to the Lord.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is weary, broken, and feeling utterly abandoned. Lord, You see the depth of her pain, the tears she has cried in the secret place, and the desperation in her heart. We ask that You would meet her in this moment with Your tangible presence, wrapping her in Your love and reminding her that she is not forgotten. You are the God who sees (Genesis 16:13), and You have not turned Your face away from her.
Lord, we rebuked the lies of the enemy that have taken root in her mind—the lies that say You do not care, that You are withholding good from her, or that her prayers are in vain. Father, replace those lies with Your truth: that You are good, that You are faithful, and that You are working all things for her good, even when she cannot see it. Renew her strength, Lord, as she waits upon You (Isaiah 40:31). Lift the heaviness from her shoulders and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We pray for her children, Lord. Cover them with Your protection and provide for their needs. Give our sister wisdom as she parents them, and let her see Your hand at work in their lives as a reminder of Your faithfulness. Father, we ask that You would break the cycle of despair and replace it with hope. Remind her that hope in You is not wishful thinking—it is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure (Hebrews 6:19).
Lord, we ask that You would give her a fresh encounter with Your Spirit. Open her eyes to see You at work in the small things, the daily mercies she may have overlooked. Restore her joy, Lord, and let her taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8). If there is sin in her life—unbelief, bitterness, or anything else—that is hindering her prayers, convict her by Your Spirit and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and renew a right spirit within her (Psalm 51:10).
Father, we pray for breakthrough in her circumstances. You are the God who parts the Red Sea, who brings water from rocks, and who raises the dead to life. Nothing is too hard for You (Jeremiah 32:27). We ask that You would move mightily in her life, not just to relieve her suffering, but to display Your glory in such a way that she cannot help but worship You. Let this season of waiting produce in her a faith that is unshakable, a testimony that points others to You, and a dependence on You that cannot be broken.
We also pray for her mind, Lord. Guard her against fearful thoughts and replace them with Your truth. Let her meditate on Your promises day and night, and give her the strength to stand firm against the schemes of the enemy. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and let His fruit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—be evident in her life (Galatians 5:22-23).
Finally, Father, we ask that You would surround her with Your people—those who will encourage her, pray with her, and remind her of Your faithfulness. Let her find community in the body of Christ, where she can be strengthened and built up in faith.
We declare these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who bore our sorrows and carried our pains (Isaiah 53:4). May she experience His nearness in a fresh and powerful way. Amen.
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We want to leave you with this encouragement: do not give up. The fact that you are still crying out to God, even in your despair, is evidence that your faith is still alive. Keep seeking Him, even when it feels like He is silent. Keep trusting Him, even when the path is dark. He is with you, and He will never let you go.
*"Why are you in despair, my soul?
Why are you disturbed within me?
Hope in God!
For I shall still praise him for the saving help of his presence.
He is my God."* (Psalm 42:5-6, WEB)