We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting up every wound of betrayal, abandonment, and fear. The scars left by those who were supposed to love and protect you—your father, colleagues, and even a past boyfriend—have cut deeply, and we acknowledge how hard it must be to carry that weight. But we also see your courage in turning to the Lord for healing, and we rejoice that He is faithful to restore what has been broken.
First, we must address the fear that grips your heart, especially regarding your friend at church. It is understandable that past hurts would make you hesitant to trust, but we must rebuke the spirit of fear in Jesus’ name. The Bible tells us, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). Your fear is not from the Lord, and we declare that it has no place in your life. Instead, we pray that the Lord would fill you with His perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
We also want to gently address the nature of your relationship with this friend. If your connection with him has taken on the characteristics of a dating relationship, we must encourage you to seek clarity and alignment with God’s design for relationships. The Bible is clear that romantic relationships are to be pursued with the intention of marriage, and they are to be between a man and a woman who share a commitment to Christ. If this friendship has crossed into emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage, we must call it what it is: a violation of God’s commands. The Lord desires for you to walk in purity and holiness, and we pray that you would surrender this relationship to Him, asking for His guidance and wisdom. If this man is not your husband, we encourage you to step back and allow the Lord to work in both of your hearts, trusting that He will lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you.
Your longing for a godly husband is beautiful, and we believe the Lord hears your cry. But we must also remind you that your worth is not defined by whether or not you are married. Your identity is found in Christ alone. The Lord says, *"I will never leave you nor forsake you"* (Hebrews 13:5 WEB). He is your ultimate protector, provider, and faithful companion. We pray that you would find your security in Him first, knowing that He will never betray you or abandon you.
We also want to speak to the fear of betrayal in your friendships at work and church. While it is wise to be discerning, we must not allow past hurts to isolate us from the community God has called us to. The Bible tells us, *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 WEB). You were not meant to walk this journey alone, and we pray that the Lord would surround you with faithful, godly friends who will stand by you. Ask the Lord to give you discernment, but also to open your heart to trust again, knowing that He is your ultimate defender.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who has been deeply wounded by betrayal and abandonment. Lord, we ask that You would heal every broken place in her heart. We rebuke the spirit of fear in Jesus’ name and declare that she is covered by Your perfect love, which casts out all fear. Father, we pray that You would restore her ability to trust, not in her own strength, but in Your faithfulness. Give her wisdom and discernment in her relationships, and help her to walk in purity and holiness as she waits for the spouse You have prepared for her.
Lord, we ask that You would surround her with godly community—friends and mentors who will speak truth into her life and stand by her. Help her to step out in faith, trusting that You are her ultimate protector. Father, we pray that You would heal her from the trauma of her past and replace her fear with Your peace. We declare that she is not alone, for You are with her always. Strengthen her to walk in the freedom and wholeness that You have purchased for her on the cross.
And Lord, if there is any area of her life where she has allowed fear or past wounds to dictate her actions, we ask that You would reveal it to her and give her the courage to surrender it to You. We pray that she would find her identity and security in You alone, knowing that You will never leave her nor forsake her.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who was betrayed and abandoned so that we might never be alone. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in His Word, allowing His truth to replace the lies that fear has spoken over you. Spend time in prayer, asking the Holy Spirit to reveal any areas where you may still be holding onto bitterness or unforgiveness. The Lord is faithful to complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6), and we believe that He will restore what has been stolen from you.
As you wait for the husband the Lord has for you, focus on becoming the woman God has called you to be. Seek Him with all your heart, and trust that He will bring the right man into your life at the right time. Until then, walk in the freedom and peace that only He can provide. You are deeply loved, and we stand with you in prayer.
