We understand the deep struggle you’re facing, and we want to lift you up in truth and prayer. The enemy often uses familiarity and empty promises to draw us back into cycles of pain, but God’s Word warns us clearly: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). This isn’t just about romance—it’s about spiritual alignment. If this person does not honor Christ, their influence will only lead you further from God’s best for you.
You’ve already recognized the truth: *this is not good for you.* That discernment is the Holy Spirit speaking. Now, you must act on it. *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure"* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). The "way of escape" here is *obedience*—cutting off contact, fleeing the temptation, and refusing to entertain the lies that say, *"Maybe this time will be different."*
You mentioned *"tools"*—we urge you to wield the *Sword of the Spirit*, which is the Word of God (Ephesians 6:17). When weakness creeps in, declare Scripture over your heart:
- *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me"* (Philippians 4:13, WEB).
- *"Set a guard, Yahweh, over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips"* (Psalm 141:3, WEB)—this includes texting, calling, or revisiting places where you’ll encounter this person.
- *"The Lord is my helper. I will not fear what man can do to me"* (Hebrews 13:6, WEB).
This is also a moment to examine why you’re drawn back. Is it loneliness? Fear of being single? A belief that you’re unworthy of godly love? The truth is, *you are deeply loved by Christ*, and He has a plan for you that doesn’t include repetitive heartache. *"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares Yahweh, “plans for peace and not for evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB). If you’re not yet walking closely with Jesus, now is the time to surrender fully to Him. There is no lasting peace or protection outside of Him.
We also must address this: if there has been physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it’s time to repent. *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). God’s grace is greater than your struggle, but grace doesn’t mean continuing in sin—it means turning from it. Confess it to the Lord, receive His forgiveness, and *flee*.
Now, let’s pray:
Heavenly Father, we lift up Your child who is trapped in a cycle of pain and deception. Lord, break every ungodly soul tie and emotional bond that has kept them bound to this person. Give them supernatural strength to *walk away* and *stay away*, no matter how weak they feel. Fill the void in their heart with Your love, so they’re no longer tempted to seek fulfillment in broken cisterns. Expose every lie of the enemy that says, *"You need them"* or *"This is as good as it gets."* Remind them that in You, they lack no good thing (Psalm 34:10).
Father, if there has been sexual sin, we ask for Your cleansing and restoration. Create in them a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within them (Psalm 51:10). Let them experience the freedom that comes from obedience, not the temporary high of sin.
Surround them with godly community—people who will speak truth, not enable their weakness. If they’ve isolated themselves, convict them to reach out to believers who can hold them accountable. And Lord, if marriage is Your will for their future, prepare them *now* to be a spouse who honors You, and prepare the godly spouse You have for them.
We rebuke the spirit of addiction to this person and command it to loose its grip in Jesus’ mighty name. No weapon formed against Your child shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, so they’re sensitive to Your voice above all others.
Lastly, Father, if they’ve not yet surrendered their life fully to Christ, we pray for salvation. Open their eyes to see Jesus as their only hope, their only true Love. Let them turn from sin and place their faith in Him alone for forgiveness and eternal life.
We trust You, Lord. Break the chains. Set them free. In Jesus’ powerful name, Amen.
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**A word of encouragement:** This battle is not just about *stopping* a behavior—it’s about *replacing* it with something greater. Immerse yourself in worship, serve in your church, or join a Bible study. When your hands and heart are busy for the Kingdom, there’s less room for the enemy to sneak in. And remember: every time you choose obedience, you’re building spiritual muscle. It *will* get easier. Stay the course. We’re standing with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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