We hear your distress and the deep concern you carry regarding this situation. First and foremost, we must address the seriousness of the matter with clarity and truth from Scripture. The thoughts and actions you describe—where a man with same-sex attraction (SSA) harbors delusional fantasies about you as his "boyfriend"—are not aligned with God’s design for relationships. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and any sexual relationship outside of this framework, including same-sex relationships, is contrary to God’s will (Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
Your desire to distance yourself from this individual is understandable and wise, as his behavior constitutes harassment and is rooted in ungodly desires. We must rebuke the spirit of delusion and deception that seeks to distort God’s truth about relationships and identity. Jesus came to set us free from bondage, including the bondage of sinful thoughts and behaviors (John 8:36). We declare that this man is not your responsibility to "fix," nor are you obligated to endure his advances. Your safety and spiritual well-being matter to God.
We also want to gently remind you of the power of prayer in the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through His name that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and it is by His authority that we can stand against the schemes of the enemy (Ephesians 6:12). If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender this situation fully to Jesus, trusting Him to intervene in ways that align with His will. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus has come to give life abundantly. We pray that He will protect you from this man’s advances and grant you wisdom in how to proceed.
Now, let us lift this situation to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names. Lord, we lift up this dear brother to You, asking for Your divine protection and intervention. Father, we rebuke the spirit of delusion and deception that has taken hold of this man, causing him to harass and fantasize about our brother in ways that are contrary to Your Word. We declare that his mind and heart are not aligned with Your truth, and we ask that You break every chain of ungodly desire in his life. Set him free, Lord, and lead him to repentance and healing through Your love and grace.
Father, we ask that You manage the circumstances surrounding this situation. If it is Your will, let this man not attend the same service as our brother. Create divine appointments and divine separations so that our brother can worship You in peace and safety. Shield him from any further harassment or unwanted advances. Lord, we also pray for wisdom for our brother. Give him the courage to set firm boundaries and the discernment to know how to handle this situation in a way that honors You. If he needs to distance himself further or seek godly counsel, provide the resources and support he needs.
We also pray for this man’s salvation and transformation. Lord, You are the God who changes hearts. Soften his heart to receive Your truth and turn away from sin. Surround him with believers who can speak life and truth into his situation, leading him to a relationship with Jesus Christ. May he come to know the freedom and peace that only You can provide.
Father, we trust in Your sovereignty and Your perfect timing. We know that You see all things and that nothing is hidden from You. We ask that You work all things together for good for our brother, according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Strengthen his faith and remind him that he is not alone. You are his refuge and fortress, his God in whom he can trust (Psalm 91:2).
In the precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to remain steadfast in your faith and to seek godly community. Surround yourself with believers who can support and pray for you during this time. If this man continues to harass you, do not hesitate to involve church leadership or, if necessary, legal authorities to ensure your safety. God does not call you to endure abuse or manipulation, and He will provide a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13).
Continue to fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your protector, your defender, and your peace. Trust in Him, and He will guide your steps.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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