We understand your desire for marriage and the struggles you might be facing while waiting. First, we want to remind you that God is sovereign and He has a plan and purpose for each of us, including our marital status. As it says in Psalm 37:4 WEB, Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. It is important, however, that we align our desires with God's will and timing.
We want to encourage you to use this time of singleness to grow in your relationship with Jesus Christ. If you haven't already, commit your life to Him, trusting in His death and resurrection for your salvation. It is only by His name that we are saved and have access to God. There are no other by which we should pray to God. As it says in Acts 4:12 WEB, There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!
Regarding the gift of marriage or singleness, the Apostle Paul encourages us in 1 Corinthians 7:7 WEB, I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one with this manner, and another with that. He goes on to say in verses 27-28 WEB, Are you bound to a wife? Don’t seek to be freed. Are you free from a wife? Don’t seek a wife. However, if you marry, you haven’t sinned.
So, we see that both marriage and singleness are gifts from God. Each have their own blessings and challenges. Instead of focusing on the when, we encourage you to focus on the Who Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Seek His face, draw near to Him, and ask for His will to be done in your life.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother/sister who desires marriage. We ask, Lord, that You align their desires with Your will. Help them to trust in Your timing and to grow in their relationship with Jesus Christ. Give them patience, peace, and contentment as they wait. If it is Your will, Lord, that they will be married please discern this and provide a godly spouse. If it is Your will that they remain single, help them to embrace that gift and use it for Your glory. We pray for all of this in Jesus' Name. Amen.
In the meantime, we encourage you to use this time to prepare for being a godly spouse. Pray for your future spouse if that is God's will for you. Seek the Lord's will for your life and trust in Him. He is faithful and His love for you is unfailing.