We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in prayer as you navigate this painful season of healing and deliverance. The wounds inflicted by a narcissistic and racist parent run deep, and the lingering effects of their hate and control are not easily shaken. But we rejoice that you have taken the courageous step to cut off this toxicity and walk in the freedom Christ has given you. This is not an act of rebellion, but of obedience to God’s call to honor Him above all else, even when it means setting boundaries with those who refuse to reflect His love.
The anxiety, anger, and bitterness you describe are natural responses to such deep betrayal, but we must rebuke these spirits in Jesus’ name. The enemy would love to keep you bound in fear and unforgiveness, but Scripture declares, *"For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). Your mind may still replay the past, but we declare that God is rewriting your story. *"You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you"* (Isaiah 26:3 WEB). The Lord sees every tear, every sleepless night, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
We also lift up the pain your future spouse has endured from this same toxicity. The enemy may have tried to sow division, but we pray that God would heal any lingering wounds and knit your hearts together in Christ-centered unity. Your upcoming marriage is a testament to God’s redemption—proof that He can restore what was broken and use even the darkest seasons for His glory. *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3 WEB). We pray that your union would be a light to others, a living example of how Christ’s love conquers hate.
But we must address the struggle to fully surrender. Letting go is not a one-time act; it is a daily choice to trust God’s sovereignty. You have done the hard work of setting boundaries, but now you must guard your heart from the temptation to revisit the past or entertain "what ifs." *"Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing"* (Isaiah 43:18-19 WEB). The enemy will try to whisper lies—that you are being unforgiving, that you should have handled things differently—but we rebuke those lies in Jesus’ name. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation with unrepentant toxicity; it means releasing the debt to God and refusing to let bitterness take root.
We also want to gently remind you that true deliverance and healing come only through the name of Jesus Christ. If you have not yet placed your faith in Him as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. *"For there is no other name under heaven given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12 WEB). Salvation is not found in self-help, positive thinking, or even the love of a spouse—it is found in repenting of sin and trusting in Christ’s finished work on the cross. If you have already surrendered your life to Him, we encourage you to press into His presence daily, for *"the name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe"* (Proverbs 18:10 WEB).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister, lifting up their heart, mind, and spirit to You. Lord, You see the deep wounds inflicted by years of narcissism, racism, and control. You see the anxiety that creeps in, the anger that simmers, and the fear that whispers lies. But You are the God who heals, the God who sets captives free, and the God who turns ashes into beauty.
We ask You to break every chain of bitterness and unforgiveness in their life. Soften their heart to release the past to You, not because the pain was justified, but because You are just and will repay. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Replace every lie of the enemy with Your truth—remind them that they are chosen, beloved, and free in You.
Lord, we pray for their upcoming marriage. May it be a union built on Your foundation, not the shaky ground of past wounds. Heal any lingering pain in their future spouse, and knit their hearts together in love, respect, and mutual submission to You. Let their home be a place of refuge, joy, and worship, a testament to Your redeeming power.
Father, we rebuke the spirits of anxiety, anger, and fear in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Strengthen them to walk in the freedom You have already given them. Help them to trust You with their future, knowing that You hold it securely in Your hands.
And Lord, if there is any area of their life not yet surrendered to You, we pray that You would draw them closer. May they find their identity, worth, and purpose in You alone. Thank You for Your faithfulness, for Your love that never fails, and for the victory we have in Christ.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name that brings healing, deliverance, and salvation. Amen.
Hold fast to the truth that God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). The enemy may have intended this pain for harm, but God is using it to shape you into a vessel of His grace and mercy. Your story is not over—it is being rewritten by the Author of Life, and He is leading you into a future filled with hope. Keep your eyes on Him, and do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, you *will* reap if you do not faint (Galatians 6:9).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
