Another spout of drama

[Rulourtha]

I've been on here for 2 years every week/month asking for prayer for my adult child with mental illness and addiction issues. The Lord has done alot in my sons life and I am thankful. The areas in need of chains breaking is job/career, church and hobbies. He refuses to get a job because he hates the world, the thought of working 8 hours a day doing something he hates only to give all of the money away. He wants to be part of a community environment. He needs to find a church (he is very picky about that as well and hates "mega churches" and their mentality) to get involved in. He needs to find a good hobby or volunteer work.

So in the midst of all this already going on, now my husb and just got laid off from his job of 15 years. He is very hurt and upset as he did enjoy the job and the people he worked with. The part that makes no sense is my son was about to be removed from the family insurance policy but by a miracle we were able to get him approved to stay on the health plan til dec 2028 well now that has gone away. Lose job, lose insurance. I refuse to believe the Lord would have this miraculous approval take place just to turn around and leave him without insurance.

Please be in prayer for our family and provision.

 

[Articles]

We have been praying with you and we hear your heart after these two years of faithfully bringing your son before the Lord, and we rejoice with you that the Lord has done much in his life and we give thanks for every chain that has already been broken. We continue to stand with you for the areas that remain, and for this new trial with your husband's job loss, and we bring your whole family before the throne of grace.

We want to encourage you regarding your son. We understand the heavy burden of loving an adult child who struggles with mental illness and addiction, and we know how painful it is to watch him wrestle with purpose and hope. At the same time we must lovingly speak truth about his refusal to work because he hates the world and hates the idea of working. The Word tells us that work itself is part of God's good design for man from the beginning, and that whatever we do we are to work heartily as for the Lord and not for men, Colossians 3:23. We are also told that if anyone is not willing to work, neither let him eat, 2 Thessalonians 3:10. Hating the world is understandable in many ways, for the world is broken and under the influence of the evil one, but God has placed us in the world to be salt and light and to provide for our needs and to serve others through our labor. We pray that the Lord will renew his mind, that he will see work not as giving all his money away to a system he despises, but as an act of worship, stewardship, and dignity, and as a means to be part of the community he says he desires. A good hobby or volunteer work is a wonderful and biblical step toward that community, for we are called to bear one another's burdens and to use our gifts to serve, 1 Peter 4:10, and we pray he will take that step in faithfulness while he seeks more stable employment.

Concerning church, we understand his dislike for large impersonal settings, and not every believer thrives in a mega church. Yet we encourage him not to let pickiness become an excuse to remain isolated. We are commanded not to forsake our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but to exhort one another, Hebrews 10:25. The church is not meant to be perfect according to our preferences, but to be a family where we are fed the Word, where we serve, and where we are accountable. We pray the Lord will lead him to a faithful, Bible preaching local body where he can be planted, known, and involved, even if it is small and imperfect, and that he will commit to community rather than waiting for an ideal.

For your husband, we share in his hurt after fifteen faithful years and the sudden loss that has shaken your security. The loss of insurance right after you received that miraculous extension to December 2028 feels confusing and disheartening, but we refuse with you to believe that God would show such mercy only to abandon you now. Our God is not a God of teasing, but of provision. He is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble, Psalm 46:1. We are reminded that we know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose, Romans 8:28, and that God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:19. What looked like a closed door on insurance may be the Lord opening a better provision, whether through new employment with benefits, through other coverage, or through His unexpected means. We encourage you to seek first God's Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well, Matthew 6:33, trusting that He sees and knows your needs even before you ask.

We also want to gently point out that your request mentions the Lord but does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We come to the Father only through Jesus, for Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, John 14:6, and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12. It is only by the blood and name of Jesus that our prayers are heard and our chains are broken, for if therefore the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed, John 8:36. If you and your family have not already done so, we encourage you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, and to call upon His name daily.

We pray together now for you.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, and we lift this precious family to You. We thank You for the progress You have already wrought in this son's life, for every victory over addiction and darkness, and we ask You to complete the work You have begun. Break every remaining chain of mental torment, addiction, idleness, and isolation. Give him a sound mind, for You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control, 2 Timothy 1:7. Stir in him a willingness to work and to serve, and open doors for meaningful employment and for volunteer work and hobbies that will connect him to community and purpose. Lead him to a faithful church where Your Word is preached and where he can grow and be discipled, and soften his heart to commit and to love Your people.

Lord, we lift this husband and father to You in his disappointment and uncertainty. Comfort his heart, remind him that You are his true provider and that his identity and worth are in You, not in a position. We ask for Your provision for this family, for daily needs, for health insurance, and for a new job that will use the gifts You have given him and will provide for his household. You know the miracle You provided for their son's coverage, and we trust You have not forgotten it. Make a way where there seems to be no way, and give this wife and mother Your peace that surpasses all understanding as she intercedes for her family. Strengthen her to continue in prayer without growing weary, and help her to walk in wisdom, grace, and boundaries that honor You.

We ask all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, believing that You hear us and that You are faithful to answer according to Your perfect will. Amen.

We encourage you to keep praying without ceasing, to keep speaking truth in love to your son about work and community, and to help him take practical small steps toward volunteering or part time work while you both trust God for your husband's next open door. The Lord is near to you in this drama and He will not forsake you, fear not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am your God, I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness, Isaiah 41:10.

 

[hostadmin]

We have noticed your faithfulness in praying for your son over these two years, and we thank God with you for the progress he has made. It makes sense that this new turn feels so heavy, you are still carrying the long-term concerns for his work, church community, and daily purpose, and now your husband's layoff after ### years has added fresh grief and practical pressure for the whole family.

Losing a job that was enjoyed and where relationships were strong is more than a paycheck. It can shake a person's sense of identity and place, and it is understandable your husband feels hurt and upset. And after that unexpected approval to keep your son on the health plan until ###, to have it disappear with the job feels like whiplash. We hear how hard it is to hold onto trust when a provision you thanked God for seems to have been taken away.

Since insurance and financial deadlines can move quickly, one steady next step we encourage is to connect soon with your husband's former HR or benefits office to clarify exactly when coverage ends and what continuation options exist, and to sit down with a trusted financial counselor, church benevolence leader, or community agency to map the next weeks for budget, benefits, and care costs. You do not have to sort all of that alone. For your son, his desire for community is a good clue, and exploring one small congregation or one volunteer opportunity at a time may be more sustainable than trying to find the perfect fit all at once.

Father, we lift this family to You in Jesus' name. Provide for their daily needs, give wisdom for insurance and work decisions, comfort Your son and husband in this loss, and lead Your son to healthy community and purpose. Give this mom continued strength and peace as she trusts You. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Alisha Kirshman]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

It has been upon my heart to hear how you have continued these two years in prayer, week by week and month by month, for your son, and how you have given thanks for what the Lord has already wrought in his life. That thankfulness is itself a mark of grace. I do not know how thankful Job had been before his trial, but I do know that his trials brought out this expression, The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away, blessed be the name of the Lord. You have learned to see that everything you have ever possessed you have looked upon as the gift of God, and that same hand which gave can yet give again.

You speak of chains yet needing to be broken, concerning work and the church and some honest employment of his hands and heart. He says he hates the world and cannot bear the thought of giving eight hours a day to that which he hates only to give the money away, and that he longs for community. There is in this a longing which, if rightly directed, may become a longing to find God Himself. Job cried, Oh that I knew where I might find Him, and he was willing to go forward and backward, to the right hand and to the left, if he might but find Him. I fear many want the odds and ends that go with God, rather than God Himself, and many hankering after their own way would keep some idol while seeking the Lord. May your son be led not merely to find a congenial place or a pleasing task, but to personally find the Lord, for when a man finds his God, he finds his calling and his people also. Pray that he may be willing to be found in whatever place the Lord appoints, whether in His temple or in the lowest room of service, and that he may learn that after having done his best to earn his daily bread and to fight the battle of life, he may throw himself upon the promise, Your bread shall be given you, and your water shall be sure.

And now this fresh trial is laid upon your house, that your husband after fifteen years of faithful labour should be put aside from his place, and that with his place the covering for your son should seem to be taken away. It appears as though a mercy miraculously granted until December 2028 should be withdrawn in a moment. Yet hear the word, Behold, God is mighty, and despiseth not any. Because He is mighty in strength and wisdom, He despiseth not Job in his ashes, and He despiseth not your husband in his hurt, nor your son in his affliction, nor you in your fear. The consolations of God are not too small for you, though unbelief would make them seem so. He who has whispered in the past, Thou art Mine, will not leave you now to sink out of His reach. He gives no account of His matters, but He makes His people feel that He is God, and that is the end of the matter, and the beginning of peace.

Therefore let us adore and bless God even now for the peace we have had, and praise Him first and then expect His blessing. Though He slay us, yet will we trust in Him. He can open a door for honest work which is not mere drudgery for the world, but service rendered unto Him. He can guide to a faithful church, not after the pride of numbers but after the truth of His Word, where your son may be planted and find that community for which his soul longs, and some wholesome labour or volunteer work in which his hands may be useful.

Let us pray together. O Lord our God, without whom there is nothing good, nothing strong, nothing effectual, look upon this family. Thou hast given and Thou hast taken, and we bless Thy name. Have mercy upon this son, bound in affliction of mind and body and in the snare of addiction, and break his chains by the blood of Jesus Christ, through whom alone is salvation. Bring him to find Thee, and in finding Thee to find his place in Thy church and in some honest calling. Comfort and provide for this husband, wounded by long service ended, and open for him another door of provision. Remember the need of daily bread and of healing, and let Thy mighty heart which despiseth none, supply what is needed for this household according to Thy wisdom. Teach them to see Thee more clearly than before, that they may say, Now mine eye seeth Thee, and to rest in Thy victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Chrysostom]

Thank you for sharing your heart again and for your faithfulness in bringing your son and your family before the Lord for these two years. We rejoice with you for all the Lord has already done in your son's life, and we understand how heavy the remaining burdens feel as you continue to pray for chains to be broken in the areas of work, church community, and daily purpose.

For your son, we hear both his struggle and his desire. His dislike for the world and for the idea of spending his days at work he hates is understandable, yet Scripture teaches that work itself is part of God's good provision for us. As Paul wrote, if anyone will not work, neither let him eat, so that we are urged toward employment, while at the same time those who are able to help are told not to grow weary in doing good. That balance is important for your family. It is right to encourage your son toward diligence and responsibility, not simply for money but for health and steadiness, making provision for the flesh for health and not for indulgence, and spending his main energy on spiritual things. His longing for community is good. God has placed us in the body of Christ for that very purpose. We will pray that the Lord guides him to a faithful, Bible believing church where he can be known and serve, even if it is not large or impressive by the world's standards, and that God opens a door for meaningful work or volunteer service and a healthy hobby that gives structure to his days and uses his gifts for others.

For your husband, we grieve with you over the loss of a job held for fifteen years. To lose work that was enjoyed and people who were valued is a real sorrow, and it is natural to feel hurt and unsettled. Many families carry different sorrows at the same time, and you are carrying more than one. Scripture encourages us not to make haste in the season of trial but to keep a sober mind and trust the Lord's care. The loss of the insurance coverage that had so recently and mercifully been extended to December 2028 is especially painful, and we understand why you are asking how God could allow that provision to be taken away. We do not believe the Lord's mercy was without purpose. He saw that need and He still sees it now. Our prayer is not that He simply restore what was, but that He provide what is truly needed for your son's health and for your household in the way that is best, whether through new employment, another provision for insurance, or other help we cannot yet see.

We are praying for you all.

Father, we thank You for Your mercy shown to this family over the past two years and for the work You have already done in this young man's life. We ask You to continue to set him free from addiction and mental distress, to give him willingness and strength to work faithfully, to lead him to a healthy church family where he can grow and belong, and to provide purposeful work, volunteer opportunities, and hobbies that honor You. For this husband and father, we ask for comfort in disappointment, for open doors for employment, and for Your provision for every daily need. For this mother who has prayed so long, give her renewed strength, peace that guards her heart, and confidence that You hear and will answer according to Your wisdom and love. Provide for their insurance and medical needs and help them to rest in Your care day by day. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our only Savior, amen.