We hear your frustration and pain, and we want to lift this situation before the Lord with compassion and truth. First, we must acknowledge that honoring your mother is a biblical command—*"Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you"* (Exodus 20:12). However, this does not mean submitting to control or manipulation, especially when it stifles your growth or joy in ways that do not align with God’s will.
Your mother’s actions—whether canceling plans, restricting your social interactions, or projecting her own insecurities—may stem from fear, past hurts, or a desire to protect you. But Scripture reminds us, *"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7). If her behavior is rooted in fear rather than faith, it can become a burden rather than a blessing. We must pray for wisdom to navigate this relationship with grace while setting healthy boundaries.
You also mentioned your desire to dance with "hot young men," which raises concerns about motives. While it’s natural to enjoy companionship, we must guard our hearts—*"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If your focus is on fleeting attractions rather than godly character, it can lead to disappointment or even sin. Instead, we encourage you to seek relationships that honor God, where marriage—not just temporary pleasure—is the goal.
As for your social life, your mother’s interference may be preventing you from blessing others, as you mentioned with your cousins’ children. Proverbs 18:24 says, *"A man who has friends must show himself friendly,"* and your presence could be a light to them. We pray for courage to communicate your feelings respectfully but firmly, trusting God to open doors where He wills.
Let us pray together:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, asking for Your wisdom and peace in this situation. Lord, we lift up this daughter and her mother, asking that You soften hearts and bring healing to their relationship. Father, give her the strength to honor her mother while also standing firm in the freedom You’ve given her. Help her to seek relationships that honor You, with purity and purpose. We rebuke any spirit of control, fear, or insecurity that may be at work, and we declare Your love and truth over both of them. May Your will be done in their lives, and may they find joy in walking with You. In Jesus’ name, Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or mature Christian friend, to help navigate this season. Remember, *"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty"* (2 Corinthians 3:17). You are not meant to live in bondage but in the freedom Christ offers.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
